How to get over someone.

  • EricPrado

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    Jul 01, 2008 11:04 PM GMT
    Don’t call him.

    Don’t text him.

    Don’t drive by his house.

    Don’t visit him at work.

    Don’t IM him.

    Remove his number from your cell phone.

    Remove him off your buddy list.

    If he calls you let it go to voice mail.

    If you get a voice mail or a text wait 12-24 hours to respond to it.

    When you respond keep it short and sweet.

    You need to become unavailable but still available.

    Cry.

    Cry some more.

    You also need maintenance...

    Eat well.

    Rest well.

    Keep yourself busy with positive things.





    Getting over someone is kinda hard... but i'm guessing you already knew that.
    How do you deal?
    When did you start dating?

  • leaozinho

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    Jul 02, 2008 1:31 AM GMT
    I think Eric Prado has some good advice.
    Also, being a slut can work for some people.
    I am trying to move on and get over someone.
    It is hard because it has been almost 2 months and I still think of him every day.
    it has been about 2 weeks since we IMed each other.
    it is tough. There is a lot of feeling still there.
    At least I know that I really love him and I was very ready and open to be in a relationship.

    I have been trying to swim and play tennis as well as visit family and friends a lot. i have much love from them.

    I have tried dating other guys lately, but it is difficult. I compare the new ones to the past one. I think I need more time for that. Some hot sex would be great!!!


  • Timbales

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    Jul 02, 2008 1:32 AM GMT
    I heard someone once say the best way of getting over someone was getting under someone else.

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    Jul 02, 2008 1:40 AM GMT
    Have him killed. Don't go to the funeral. Make sure your hitman isn't wearing a wire. Pay in unmarked foreign currency. Arrange a really airtight alibi.
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:46 AM GMT
    Guess I've never been in this boat, so I'm not trying to sound insensitive, but how is there any difficulty in getting over someone?

    If you're not with them, there's a reason for it... shouldn't that be reason enough to want to shift your affections elsewhere, if anywhere?

    Again, it's never happened to me, so I'm genuinely curious.

    Except if you lost someone, I could see that being the case, or if they had to move far away for work, or something where they are no longer in your life, and it's not anyone's fault, it just sucks, I could see that.

    But as far as "don't call him, don't text him..." why would you?
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    Jul 02, 2008 2:05 AM GMT
    I think the best way is to forgive (both him and you) and move on. I am sure you noticed that I didn't say forget... I don't ever want to forget. Great times are what made the relationship work. These are the things that can never be taken from me.

    It has been 1.5 years since my heart was broken over a 9 year relationship. It was civil and we don't talk. He will forever be a part of what has made me who I am and I thank him for that. Otherwise, he has become only a figment of an acquaintance. I have moved on even though it will take an unknown amount of time to truly get over something like that.

    Hate and fear only breed more of the same. Compassion and love are more satisfying and allow you to heal without regret.
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    Jul 02, 2008 2:10 AM GMT
    EricPrado saidDon’t call him.

    Don’t text him.

    Don’t drive by his house.

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    icon_eek.gifThat sounds like a lot of effort. Wouldn't it be easier just to kill him? oh icon_redface.gif jprichva already said that, nevermind
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    Jul 02, 2008 2:13 AM GMT
    novembermike saidGuess I've never been in this boat, so I'm not trying to sound insensitive, but how is there any difficulty in getting over someone?

    If you're not with them, there's a reason for it... shouldn't that be reason enough to want to shift your affections elsewhere, if anywhere?

    Again, it's never happened to me, so I'm genuinely curious.

    Except if you lost someone, I could see that being the case, or if they had to move far away for work, or something where they are no longer in your life, and it's not anyone's fault, it just sucks, I could see that.

    But as far as "don't call him, don't text him..." why would you?


    Yeah there is a reason you are not together... however if you fell for that person once, you still very well may have feelings... These stick to you and don't go away that easily, sometimes they don't totally go away ever. That was my experience anyway... But you just realise it was best to move on.
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    Jul 02, 2008 2:16 AM GMT
    Here is what I had to learn the hard way....talk about the break up once with a good friend and don't ever bring it up again.icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 02, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    Box it out!!!
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    Jul 02, 2008 3:41 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidHere's what to do when the love of your life is no more....

    Become the town bicycle and let everybody ride you.
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    Salacious whore-like behavior works like a charm every time. icon_lol.gif


    Damn good piece of advice. When you have throngs of men throwing themselves at your feet telling you how hot you are, how cool you are, who cares what yesterday's lunch meat thinks.
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    Jul 02, 2008 4:15 AM GMT
    The best way to get over a guy? Make 'im hurt. Do his ex-boyfriend, his best friend, and his next potential boyfriend in short order. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 02, 2008 4:24 AM GMT
    jprichva saidHave him killed. Don't go to the funeral. Make sure your hitman isn't wearing a wire. Pay in unmarked foreign currency. Arrange a really airtight alibi.





    I agree, it's the only way to truly get some closure icon_rolleyes.gif

    Also, sleeping with his new boyfriend can do wonders icon_twisted.gif
  • EricPrado

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    Jul 02, 2008 4:31 AM GMT
    zdrew saidThe best way to get over a guy? Make 'im hurt. Do his ex-boyfriend, his best friend, and his next potential boyfriend in short order. icon_cool.gif



    oh man, i would love to do that! haha
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    Jul 02, 2008 4:42 AM GMT
    You forgot to put "lock him in dumpster filled with carnivorous beetles and then use his bones to make a coffee table and his skull an ashtray" on your list.
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    Jul 02, 2008 4:47 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidI heard someone once say the best way of getting over someone was getting under someone else.

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    ..or you can always be on top. ;)
  • Hiteck_Play

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    Jul 02, 2008 4:49 AM GMT
    getting over someone.. not easy man. it sucks n i hate every lil feelin of it. but i just stay busy and spend more time at the gym.
    the killin him part sounds like it would be a hard thing to do.
    make him jealous and realize how badazz u are! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 02, 2008 4:49 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidHere's what to do when the love of your life is no more....

    Become the town bicycle and let everybody ride you.
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    Salacious whore-like behavior works like a charm every time. icon_lol.gif

    I think that was a stupid answer when someone is hurt and wants to move on?

    There is no answer really just time heals.
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    Jul 02, 2008 5:18 AM GMT
    We beat the shit out of each other... and then had break up sex...

    Seems to have done the trick because we haven't talked in years since... icon_biggrin.gif

    Not saying it would work for everyone, but it did work for he and I.

    (Because I know there are some guys I'm still not over and it has been years too - that if I had the chance I would try to make things right again)
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    Jul 02, 2008 6:39 AM GMT
    to get over "somone" or "anyone" is easy.....to get over your "true love" is not so simple, in fact its pure agony...the thought of not being with him, holding him, kissing him, smelling him, tasting him, making love to him, is pure anguish, especially when all you need to do to see the world, the meaning of existance, your truth, destiny, and any unanswered questions...lie in his gaze...in his eyes...even one moment of looking away...is the same as the whole world crumbling before you...so my friend if what your feeling is remotley anything like i just posted, just remember you DONT get over it, you can deny it, mask it, put on a smiley face..but it always lingers...icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 02, 2008 6:55 AM GMT
    novembermike saidIf you're not with them, there's a reason for it... shouldn't that be reason enough to want to shift your affections elsewhere, if anywhere?

    That's the rub. There is no reason for it, key word "reason." Few people partner with someone because they found it the reasonable alternative to not being partnered. When you think about it, it sounds stupid, I know.

    Most of the time, when you spend time with someone, your body's biology changes to expect to be with them, much like your body expects nicotine or alcohol or crack. When deprived of your dopamine fix, your body goes into withdrawal: depression, malaise, physical illness, that sort of thing. Missing someone is (usually) not just some thing you can just turn off like a switch or a contact book deletion. Being in love is a physical, real experience for most people.

    And sometimes we do fall in love with the idea of someone too, and we can have regrets about that. Like, he was a great humanitarian (blah blah blah) and being with him made you feel like you were making a difference in the world. That kind of addiction is also hard to erase.

    Fixes: be around others, and let your body return to normal. Sex helps, since it gives you a dopamine blast that you can use to condition your body away from your former lover. Sex sometimes triggers memories, so it's not always the best fix.
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    Jul 02, 2008 7:07 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidMost of the time, when you spend time with someone, your body's biology changes to expect to be with them, much like your body expects nicotine or alcohol or crack.
    This is true, my last boyfriend's crack was very addictive. I would get night sweats just thinking about it!

    mickeytopogigio saidFixes: be around others, and let your body return to normal. Sex helps, since it gives you a dopamine blast that you can use to condition your body away from your former lover. Sex sometimes triggers memories, so it's not always the best fix.
    Yah! Wacking off on micky's pictures would probably help icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 02, 2008 10:31 AM GMT
    Actually EricPrado you covered just about all of them. It also depends on who is doing the breaking up. If you are ending it, it is usually easier to get over since the person was probably starting to get on your nerves near the end and you just wanted to get out of the relationship.

    The advice other people have given you (the serious ones that is) may work for you. I personally became asexual after a break-up. I would lose total interest in sex for usually at least six months if not longer. It was not a conscious effort, it just happened. Something to do with my personality, and my dislike of casual sex.
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    Jul 02, 2008 11:03 AM GMT
    How about poison potions and stilettos?

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    Jul 02, 2008 8:55 PM GMT
    voodoo.... icon_twisted.gif