do u tell them that u are gay when u are in job interview?

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    Jul 02, 2008 12:45 AM GMT
    one day, i was sending out my resumes, then suddenly a thought concerned me about job interview. i came out to my mom only, the rest of my families don't know yet. but i don't know if i should tell the interviewer about my sexual orientation? or should i keep my mouth shut before they change their mind on hiring gay people? i know some company have the benefit for gay people, but homophobic is everywhere. so what u think?
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:04 AM GMT
    No. There's absolutely no obligation to divulge your sexual orientation in a job interview nor is there any need to. What matters most in a job interview is your professionalism, presentation, and an unequivocal demonstration that you're compatible with the company's work ethic.

    If your sexual orientation has come up in the interview, something has gone awry because it's extraneous to anything you should be discussing.
  • duglyduckling

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    Jul 02, 2008 1:25 AM GMT
    According to the Ontario Provincial Human Rights Code, it is absolutely illegal to discuss sexual orientation during a job interview.

    These topics cannot be discussed during an interview process:

    race
    ancestry
    place of origin
    colour
    ethnic origin
    citizenship
    creed
    sex
    sexual orientation
    age
    record of offences
    marital status
    family status
    disability

    but then it may be different in different provinces and different states.

    However, it should not be discussed in any case, it is frankly none of your employer's business.
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:27 AM GMT
    No. Do you think str8 people announce that they are str8 during the interview?
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:30 AM GMT
    I regretfully lied each time I was asked in the past. But now I don't. However I can afford to do this because I live in the UK. It probably isn't as easy for people in other parts of the world. In fact, as a coloured, gay man in the UK, my chances of landing the job are significantly bettericon_smile.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 02, 2008 1:32 AM GMT
    I would never ask something like that as an interviewer and I wouldn't expect to be asked if I were interviewed. If I were asked that... red flags...
    I'd wonder if this was a company I should work for.

    Its nobody's business.
  • ShawnTX

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    Jul 02, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    Why would you tell them? Even if you're out and proud, it has no bearing on the job. DenverClimber is right, if it comes up in the interview, something is very wrong.
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:44 AM GMT
    I'm right there with the rest of the guys above me... NO WAY.

    But do make notes of anytime a remark is made towards you by co-workers.
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:45 AM GMT
    thanks so much for ur inputs, guys. now that definitely cleared up my thought about job interview. u guys are right, sexual orientation is nobody's business. i'll keep that in mind, and walk out if a interviewer ask that question. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:48 AM GMT
    LBWNS saidthanks so much for ur inputs, guys. now that definitely cleared up my thought about job interview. u guys are right, sexual orientation is nobody's business. i'll keep that in mind, and walk out if a interviewer ask that question. icon_smile.gif


    Walk out and down to the HR dept ... report such questioning ... you shouldnt have to sacrifice the possible job because of the interviewer's idiotcy. If there is no HR, report it to whomever is in charge or the state...esp. in California
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    Jul 02, 2008 1:56 AM GMT
    LBWNS saidone day, i was sending out my resumes, then suddenly a thought concerned me about job interview. i came out to my mom only, the rest of my families don't know yet. but i don't know if i should tell the interviewer about my sexual orientation? or should i keep my mouth shut before they change their mind on hiring gay people? i know some company have the benefit for gay people, but homophobic is everywhere. so what u think?


    Hell no. Your sexuality is not an issue in your workability. You are 29 and live in California and you didn't know this? Did I just land on Mars?
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    Jul 02, 2008 2:12 AM GMT
    I actually just interviewed for a job (Director of Career Services) and I got asked about what I would tell people whether they should come out in an interview. My basic point is that you should talk about things that would affect your ability to do the job. You might be really good at baking too, but you don't need to talk about that either.
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    Jul 02, 2008 2:17 AM GMT
    That's a good question. The answer is HELL NO. Your personal life is your business and should not be mixed in with you professional life. Your sexual preference is not required or needed when going in for a job interview. they are not hiring you because you or aren't gay. they are hiring you because of what you can do and for your skills. Nothing more.

    If you ever go in for a job interview and they ask you what your sexual preference is you should leave immediately since that is a violation of your privacy and rights as a person. That sort of info could be used against you, depending on your job, and you could be discriminated against. I'm openly gay but I don't go around telling everyone I'm gay. A few people I work with know but only because I trust them and I told them on my terms. The rest of my coworkers have no clue and if they do they are wise enough not to question me about it at work. After you get the job if you want to tell people your business then cool but I would serious refrain from deluvging that kind of info during an interview. It different when they ask you what your hobbies are if you have done drugs. They ask question like that because those are liabilities. Your sexual preference isn't and has no relevance in a interview.

    I'm not there to advertise my sex. I'm there to work and that's all that should matter. What I do and who I do it with on my time is my buisness as far as sex goes.
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    Jul 02, 2008 2:30 AM GMT
    Don't tell them anything not relevant to the job unless maybe you have an inside track to something you have in common with the interviewer and they ask (like a hobby)
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    Jul 02, 2008 2:59 AM GMT
    i can honestly tell u that i'm a spoiled person. i regret everyday in my life that i didn't get a job when i was a teenager. i was a spoiled teenager, and never ever thought about having a work experience at young age. now as an adult, i never had a serious job, and my resume is all blank. my interest is art and design. i wanna be an illustrator/graphic designer when i get a job. i've had a few small jobs and job interviews, but they were not related to art/design, and they were not for me at all. those interviewers i met didn't ask many questions, just asked me if i can do the job. simply say, it was very short interview. so landing a job that i want is really hard, cuz of my lack work experience. anyway, i just had a lot of thoughts on the job interview. "sexual orientation" was just pop out of my mind, and that's what got me thinking about a interviewer asking that question. but now i know, so thank u guys for ur inputs, again.
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    Jul 02, 2008 3:15 AM GMT
    I'm all about keeping it real but being able to put food on the table is more important than representn'.
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    Jul 02, 2008 3:27 AM GMT
    Amen, slapho.

    LBWINS. I commend you for wanting to get a job but being spolied is no excuse. Your story isn't that much different from alot of people your age. I hope you get the job and best wishes. For future references you now know.
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    Jul 02, 2008 3:28 AM GMT
    None of their business!!!
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    Jul 02, 2008 3:46 AM GMT
    I told my current employers during the interview when casually asked about my life. It has been great. Now I get consulted on wardrobe, color schemes, lighting. The assumption of fabulousness makes me feel wonderful, if a little campy.
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    Jul 02, 2008 3:52 AM GMT
    Kudos to coming out at work but don't you feel like the token gay guy? Sounds a bit degrading and rather fucked up for them to assume that just because you are gay you have a sense of fashion.

    So one has to wonder how they would've treated you if you hadn't told them you were gay? Just a thought so don't please don't read too far into it. It's not meant to cause any drama.
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    Jul 02, 2008 4:02 AM GMT
    I have some work and volunteer experience on my resume that tends to answer the questions before it is ever asked. It's never presented a problem that I'm aware of, and I'd never want to work for an employer who did have a problem with it.

    Oddly, when I interviewed candidates to work at a gay magazine, I couldn't always tell if the applicants were gay or straight, and I never asked. My first concern was whether they could do the job and work with a team.
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    Jul 02, 2008 4:03 AM GMT
    unless i am "doing" them, its none of their damned businessicon_evil.gif
  • atxclimber

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    Jul 02, 2008 4:14 AM GMT
    Speaking as someone who often interviews candidates, I can assure you, it's not legal in any state I've ever worked in as a manager to ask about sexual orientation during an interview. duglyduckling is right about all that stuff.

    Some of that is actually really annoying in some sense, because you can't ask if a candidate is married or partnered or has kids even in the context of trying to figure out a relocation budget. You have to dance around it, like, "Uh, so how many people will we be moving out here?" and go from there. But I understand why the laws are in place, for sure.

    I did ask the woman who runs HR at my current studio about domestic partners w/r/t the health insurance when I started here. To my delight she grinned and said, "That's going into effect in a couple months. The wording is very lenient... because I need it to be, myself."

    Anyway, if anyone asks you about sexual orientation during an interview, I'd politely dodge the question by informing them, "Hey, just so you know, it's actually illegal to ask that during an interview!" They'll probably be surprised to hear it, but they certainly shouldn't press the issue after that. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 02, 2008 5:17 AM GMT
    That's like telling your employer "oh, and by the way I like the colour pink."

    Possible Reactions:
    "Okay...
    "So what?"
    "who cares?"
    "why does that matter?"
    wow, this is uncomfortable..."
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    Jul 02, 2008 6:41 AM GMT
    WTF No way your sexual preferences are nobody's business but yours!