Find gay friends in NYC

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    Feb 19, 2012 6:13 AM GMT
    So all my friends in NYC happen to be straight and even though they are willing, excited (and some can be great wing-men) to go to gay bars, this happens rarely. How did you guys meet gay friends in NYC?
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    Feb 19, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    You can do a search right here on Real Jock to find friends.You can go by boro.icon_smile.gif Ryan and Ruben
  • tomjack

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    Feb 19, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    join a class.. or a sports team... etc...
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    Feb 19, 2012 4:05 PM GMT
    Really? You can't find any Gay friends in NYC? I think that's kinda odd to be honest since there is such a variety of gay men there.

    Well, as suggested above, try looking on here. Quite a few men live in NYC and are on this site. Hit them up and go from there. Also what is your personality like? What draws you to having so many straight friends and not many gay friends? There's usually a reason for this and most of the time it isn't location. If you're waiting for them to come to you then you will be waiting for a quite a long. Get out and get active. Join a class or a sports team and go from there.

    Best of luck to you.
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    Feb 19, 2012 4:10 PM GMT
    I made my gay friends through dates that turned into friendships. I dunno if this one is advisable though haha. I also made a couple of friends through gay networking events. If you work in finance, the IRC (I think that's what it's called) does a monthly event called Third Thurstdays. It's fun, a good way to meet others in the industry, make friends and network too. I would assume that any industry has this. I also signed up with my company's gay network. It's worth checking out.
  • MagillaNectar

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    Feb 19, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    I'm in the same situation and I'm trying to change that. My approach right now is to go to gay bars and try talking people up but making it clear that I'm only looking to meet friends. It doesn't always work. Sometimes I'll get a guy trying to convince me I can have sex with my friends. But, I'll move on to the next guy and see what happens. Also, I'll pick more laid back bars. Not clubs. I'm not going to go to The Cock or something and try to meet friends there as I know no one is looking for friends there. I also make sure my body language is open but not in a sexual way at all.

    You can also type gay + whatever sport you like doing into google.
    There are usually clubs that meet-up to be gay together. There's definitely gay ski trips and more. Another website you can check out is: http://www.meetup.com/

    Hope that helps.
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    Feb 19, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    I am available.
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    Feb 19, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    I highly recommend the sports team route, the hockey association has been the core of my friendships in NYC. Go out and do things that you enjoy while keeping an eye out for other gay guys who participate as well.
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    Feb 19, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    Walk down the street. We're everywhere
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    Feb 19, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    sdgman saidWalk down the street. We're everywhere


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  • italguynj

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    Feb 19, 2012 7:37 PM GMT
    I agree with Rookieinnyc. Unfortunately NYC is not the best when looking for friends or dates. [If you want quick hook ups, its perfect.]

    All I can say is be as social as you can in any given environment. After awhile, you should find someone who shares the same interests as you.
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    Feb 23, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    Thanks all for your suggestions. I'll give the networking and sport club route a try....let's see how it goes..
  • GuyD87

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    Feb 23, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    Thanks for making this thread, I haven't had much luck meeting gay people in the city either. I'm pretty shy though, and I feel it's hard to go on dates with someone then just become friends. Hopefully I'll break outta my shell a little and network through some of these suggestions.
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    Feb 23, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    rookieinnyc saidSo all my friends in NYC happen to be straight and even though they are willing, excited (and some can be great wing-men) to go to gay bars, this happens rarely. How did you guys meet gay friends in NYC?


    What kind of gay? Is feminine okay? Is it okay if they're in a relationship?(Some people don't want to be a 3rd wheel) Must they be work out regularly? Gotta be more specific...
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    One other thing that worked really well for me.. If you do make this elusive first gay friend, don't wait for him to introduce you to his friends. Ask if you can hang with their group the next time they go out. Be honest and open about wanting to expand your circle. And then return the favor in the future by introducing new friends to your set of friends. Every time I've asked someone if they want to hang with my friends and me, they always respond with asking me to meet their friends too. It's a two way street. And of course, if it works out then great, if it doesn't then at least you tried.