I'm having a hard time leaving home for any reason...aka technology loop

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    Feb 19, 2012 8:24 AM GMT
    I've been planning to leave my apt just to get a god damn turkey burger for over an hour now but instead downloaded iphone apps, watched some YouTube videos, trolled on RJ, and mindlessly listened to deep house music. I don't think I used to be like this. I used to want to go somewhere and just went. But now whenever I want to go somewhere I "wrap things up" and then get distracted in a technology loop. Is this common with anyone else? You're like "hey I'm going to go here" and then the internet and the phone internet and something else just consumes you instead? Here's a clip that closely resembles what I go through on almost a daily basis. Maybe someone can relate and has some advice...maybe someone else can post irrelevant gifs too. Or maaaaaaybe you're reading this thread when you should be out doing something!

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    Feb 19, 2012 8:36 AM GMT
    You should only worry if you get to the point where I am now...where I figured how to run a moderately successfully internet based business and now I literally don't have to ever leave my computer or phone. Ever.

    Ever.

    EEEEVEEEEERRRRRRRRR.
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    Feb 19, 2012 9:05 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou should only worry if you get to the point where I am now...where I figured how to run a moderately successfully internet based business and now I literally don't have to ever leave my computer or phone. Ever.

    Ever.

    EEEEVEEEEERRRRRRRRR.


    Well that makes you adaptive and therefore successful.
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    Feb 19, 2012 9:08 AM GMT
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    Feb 19, 2012 9:23 AM GMT
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    Feb 19, 2012 9:34 AM GMT
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    HAHAH I was actually positioned JUST like that when I read this post except I was leaning back instead of forward.
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    Feb 19, 2012 10:41 AM GMT
    I am the same...I'd like to go out more but just don't really have reason to
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    Feb 19, 2012 1:47 PM GMT
    Run out there and eat your turkey burger. RUN! Save yourself! It's too late for us. RUUNNN!
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    Feb 19, 2012 1:50 PM GMT
    JakeBenson saidI've been planning to leave my apt just to get a god damn turkey burger for over an hour now but instead downloaded iphone apps, watched some YouTube videos, trolled on RJ, and mindlessly listened to deep house music. I don't think I used to be like this. I used to want to go somewhere and just went. But now whenever I want to go somewhere I "wrap things up" and then get distracted in a technology loop. Is this common with anyone else? You're like "hey I'm going to go here" and then the internet and the phone internet and something else just consumes you instead? Here's a clip that closely resembles what I go through on almost a daily basis. Maybe someone can relate and has some advice...maybe someone else can post irrelevant gifs too. Or maaaaaaybe you're reading this thread when you should be out doing something!



    You are not alone. - More importantly, where do you go to get a good turkey burger and what are your favorite toppings? -

    I like mushroom swiss...
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    Feb 19, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    Could it be... have we really made a place for gay men to feel accepted? How could it be, the jock in you may be getting really acquainted with the nerd in you... awesome!
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    Feb 19, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    JakeBenson saidI don't think I used to be like this. I used to want to go somewhere and just went. But now whenever I want to go somewhere I "wrap things up" and then get distracted in a technology loop. Is this common with anyone else?

    Yes, with me. I partly have reasons, my mobility handicaps and epilepsy, plus I'm retired, and so you see me here a lot. But I also get seduced by online for its own sake, much as you describe for yourself.

    My solution is to have a husband who has an incredibly busy social life, and I give his company priority over a computer. I may not be able to "wrap things up" by myself but he can do it for me. Just try having an impatient Italian standing in your office doorway waiting for you. icon_rolleyes.gif

    (We'll be doing that this afternoon, getting ready for a private musical event at a friend's place that will occupy us all evening. Don't expect to see me online here from about 3 PM until around 10 tonight)

    Another solution is to create recurring outside interests for myself that are scheduled, that I can't control and delay or defer. Golf is my latest, bicycling with friends an existing one, and I just joined a couple more condo association committees whose meetings I must attend on time, and from those I get assigned tasks I must work on.

    So Jake find yourself a BF or some friends who'll drag you away from the computer. And get yourself involved with non-technology interests beyond your doorstep. Take the decision to go somewhere out of your own hands, and then you won't have any choice.
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    Feb 19, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
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    HAHAH I was actually positioned JUST like that when I read this post except I was leaning back instead of forward.


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    Feb 19, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
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    HAHAH I was actually positioned JUST like that when I read this post except I was leaning back instead of forward.


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    Haha. Yeah, I was definitely leaning over just now. And didn't even realize it.

    But this happens to me sometimes too. Usually when I have to do something at a certain time. Then my plan to look at one youtube video turn into an hour of randoms. Not always this bad but technology is time consuming. You just really have to force yourself not to become too addictive to the internet(no matter how great it is) and you'll be fine(I know I know, easier said then done).
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    Feb 19, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    pfft amateur, I got up at 4am to workout and its 1030 and I still haven't left my bed with my laptop, watching TV on my appleTV and surfing RJ icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 19, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    This is also why the nation has such an obseity problem: people never leave their computer chairs. We are edging ever closer to the future human on motorized lounge chairs depicted in Wall-E. You have to draw a line at some point and either force yourself to get up or put certain things largely off limits because of the amount of time they consume (For me I had to ditch videogames for the most part).
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    Feb 19, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    Power off
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    Feb 19, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    Depends on what requirements I have waiting for me. Generally I do and
    this sort of stuff is pretty limited. Maybe the Turkey burger wasn't enticing enough for you....

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    Feb 19, 2012 4:38 PM GMT
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    this is perfect. happens to me all the time. i wouldn't question it. addiction may be part of it, over-stimulation may be part of it, or (most likely) there is an unconscious urge not to do what you were planning to do. i don't want to get all analytical on you, cuz i'm no psychologist, but what i know is that your "technology loop" could have been replaced by any other activity (e.g. working out at the gym, reading, watching tv) to avoid whatever it was you were planning to do. think of the procrastination dynamic - same thing.
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    Feb 19, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    ADD much?
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    Feb 19, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    At least Youtube is free, and hassle-free. Going out costs money sometimes.
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    Feb 19, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    Going out is asking for trouble. There are all sorts of people who want your money, attention, time, affection. Some just looking to fuck someone over. Staying in insulates you from the dirty, evil humans.

    If going out was an enjoyable experience each time, I'd do it more often.

    Jake would you call the feeling you get when you're trying to get out "anxiety"? With me, I feel like I should get something done but that there's something *wrong* with doing it right away. Like I should slide things later so they're finished just before the due date. There's no reason to not do them immediately.. just a weird worry that overpowers my brain's logic.