Dropping Hints?

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    Feb 19, 2012 10:51 PM GMT
    So last night I had a friend stay the night and we were cuddling with eachother watching a movie in my living room but my parents kept walking in icon_rolleyes.gif. I would always have to get up and move myself or he would have to get his arm out from around me. Apparently they had a lot to do so they kept walking past us icon_neutral.gifand after a while I got fed up with having to reposition myself so I stopped moving. So they saw us together and didnt say much. But later in the night my mom said you sure are close with your friend and I just said yeah and walked away lol. icon_confused.gif

    I'm not out of the closet yet and I was wondering if you guys think it's good to drop hints to your folks.

    Would it make talking to them about it easier if they already have an idea?

    If you guys have any stories or advice with dropping hints to those around you comment and let me know.
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    Feb 19, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    What's the sound a closet door opening?

    WestCoastGuy saidmy mom said you sure are close with your friend.
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    Feb 19, 2012 11:07 PM GMT
    Well, your parents sure were busy talking last night! ... icon_eek.gif ... icon_wink.gif

    I dont think you have to tell them anything. Give them time to adjust now.
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    Feb 19, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    If you were in the south, you could just say you were rassling with your buddy. icon_lol.gif

    But seriously, why drop hints? Do you feel that it might be easier for them to take the news, rather than tell them directly?
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    Feb 19, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    theantijock saidWhat's the sound a closet door opening?

    WestCoastGuy saidmy mom said you sure are close with your friend.


    haha funny
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    Feb 19, 2012 11:24 PM GMT
    theantijock saidWhat's the sound a closet door opening?

    WestCoastGuy saidmy mom said you sure are close with your friend.

    yeah his mom was prolly givining a chance to say something. Now we have him waiting for his parents and his parents waiting for him. hahahahaa ... icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 19, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    xrichx saidIf you were in the south, you could just say you were rassling with your buddy. icon_lol.gif

    But seriously, why drop hints? Do you feel that it might be easier for them to take the news, rather than tell them directly?


    Well it wasn't my intention' I just wanted to enjoy a movie with a friend. But they kept comming in so much I said fuck it; maybe they will just figure it out and I won't have to move when they walk in anymore.
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    Feb 19, 2012 11:34 PM GMT
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    theantijock saidWhat's the sound a closet door opening?

    WestCoastGuy saidmy mom said you sure are close with your friend.

    yeah his mom was prolly givining a chance to say something. Now we have him waiting for his parents and his parents waiting for him. hahahahaa ... icon_lol.gif

    I didn't feel ready/ was surprised by the question because they have never asked me anything like this before. So I was a bit confused and taken off guard. Maybe I should have said yes we are close and I wanted to fuck his brains out but you guys were still there hahahhahahah
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    Feb 19, 2012 11:35 PM GMT
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    xrichx saidIf you were in the south, you could just say you were rassling with your buddy. icon_lol.gif

    But seriously, why drop hints? Do you feel that it might be easier for them to take the news, rather than tell them directly?


    Well it wasn't my intention' I just wanted to enjoy a movie with a friend. But they kept comming in so much I said fuck it; maybe they will just figure it out and I won't have to move when they walk in anymore.


    mission accomplished

    We'll be sending your mom a toaster oven soon.
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    Feb 20, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    When you decide the time is right for talking, don't come off in a belligerent manor forcing it down their throats. At 21 and still living at home, leave some flexibility for them to adjust without putting them in a defensive posture. Even though they probably already suspect, the taste of the truth could be a bitter pill. I suspect that you are probably still financially dependent on them to a small degree. Nevertheless, it's amazing how understanding some parents can be. Good Luck.
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    Feb 20, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    Thanks man. Yeah I was really surprised that they would mention that. But you're right they didn't come off as negative or judgemental to me. Just that they were genuinely asking.
  • starboard5

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    Feb 20, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    I'm willing to bet your parents know and have always known. They may not be comfortable broaching the subject. Dropping hints may make you feel better, but it could be felt as hurtful to them. When the time comes and you're comfortable, have the talk with them. I think they'll appreciate your honesty.
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    Feb 20, 2012 2:28 AM GMT

    They could very well already know and were checking out your friend to see if he's good enough for their son.

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  • Webster666

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    Feb 20, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    I think that you're doing exactly the right thing.

    Years ago, whenever I wrote a letter, I'd mention that Ron (my partner) and I went somewhere, or did this or that. It didn't take long for the family to put two and two together.
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    Feb 20, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    WestCoastGuy saidSo last night I had a friend stay the night and we were cuddling with eachother watching a movie in my living room but my parents kept walking in icon_rolleyes.gif. I would always have to get up and move myself or he would have to get his arm out from around me. Apparently they had a lot to do so they kept walking past us icon_neutral.gifand after a while I got fed up with having to reposition myself so I stopped moving. So they saw us together and didnt say much. But later in the night my mom said you sure are close with your friend and I just said yeah and walked away lol. icon_confused.gif

    I'm not out of the closet yet and I was wondering if you guys think it's good to drop hints to your folks.

    Would it make talking to them about it easier if they already have an idea?

    If you guys have any stories or advice with dropping hints to those around you comment and let me know.



    UH! Well, sorry to break it to ya, but if your mom has even an average IQ, she knows by now. Usually, you're the last one to know that others know your dirty little secret. I would find it hard to believe that they don't know by now. Two "hetero" guys don't cuddle with each other while watching movies together. They have to know by now.
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    Feb 20, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
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    UH! Well, sorry to break it to ya, but if your mom has even an average IQ, she knows by now. Usually, you're the last one to know that others know your dirty little secret. I would find it hard to believe that they don't know by now. Two "hetero" guys don't cuddle with each other while watching movies together. They have to know by now.


    Agreed. She's probably known for years. SHE'S actually dropping hints to YOU to come on out.

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    Feb 20, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    theantijock saidWhat's the sound a closet door opening?

    WestCoastGuy saidmy mom said you sure are close with your friend.
    Oh I think that door was closing and you were NOT in it!
    Just bring it up with them, they know and you'd be best to just get it over with icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 20, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    starboard5 saidI'm willing to bet your parents know and have always known. They may not be comfortable broaching the subject. Dropping hints may make you feel better, but it could be felt as hurtful to them. When the time comes and you're comfortable, have the talk with them. I think they'll appreciate your honesty.


    Yeah but it's not just about them its about me too and I really wasnt expecting that conversation. It came out of left field.
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    Feb 20, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    She's gonna throw a condom at you next time.. don't sweat it.