Sometimes You just want someone to talk to who is around your age and understands.

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    Feb 20, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    Sometimes you are going through so much and it feels like no one understands. Everyone you know is either younger than you or not mature enough. Sometimes they are older than you and know too much already. We all need someone there who you can just talk to and just have them feel how you feel. So hard to find someone like that being born and raised in the swamps of Louisiana.
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    Feb 20, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    In my case I can't relate to ANYONE my age. They gotta be at least 20 years older just so I can feel on the same wavelength.

  • Feb 20, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidIn my case I can't relate to ANYONE my age. They gotta be at least 20 years older just so I can feel on the same wavelength.


    Same here.
  • Lawrencium

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    Feb 20, 2012 7:00 AM GMT
    Dude I totally get where you're coming from. First off, I'm from Chalmette myself, spent a lot of time in the swamps as a kid. Luckily for me, I moved out a while ago and have been in VA (after a stint in Ecuador) for about 12 years.

    I have worked at a bar since I was 17, and for the longest time was the youngest one there by a couple of years, including clientele and coworkers. As a result, many of my friends are older than me and my best friend, whom i met at the bar, is about 20 years older. Recently, we have both gone through some issues and for the first time in the six years that we have been close, nothing she could do or say made me feel any better and vice versa.

    Then, one day, out of the blue, I reconnected with a friend from middle school who is my age. Truth be told, while I have a plethora of older friends whom I turn to in times of need, having that person that is 23 put things out there how she sees them helped....maybe I didn't agree, at times I thought she was naive....but the fact of knowing that someone else didn't get what I didn't get, at that very moment, who is literally at the same stage of life as me, was comforting.

    Sometimes you just need people your age to relate to...older friends in all their wisdom are great, but at times you just need to connect with someone who is at the same point in the effed up journey of life as you are.
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    Feb 20, 2012 7:02 AM GMT
    There is one guy I've met that I could relate to. We are both not out, but unfortunately, he is too afraid to embrace his sexuality so he decided to slow things down with me. It's very difficult to find the ideal person to talk to, I agree. Anyone 10 years older than, most of the time I feel like I'm talking to my pops
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    Feb 20, 2012 7:08 AM GMT
    My grandmother would agree with you completely.

    She is from a small farming community of about 400. At 93, she is the last one standing of all her peers and relatives. The next oldest people in town are in their 70's , yet nobody could understand why she was so depressed after her sister died. She has no one left in her peer group.
  • Circus_Kid

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    Feb 20, 2012 7:12 AM GMT
    I agree!! Another "raised in the rural south" type person here! Though I'm still young, most of my friends are younger than me, and it's noticeable at times. Like when I'm freaking out about life in general icon_confused.gif... Part of the reason I made an account on here, to get some sort of support from similar people, even if it's just via the internet!
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    Feb 20, 2012 7:41 AM GMT
    mars93 saidI want someone who motivates me to loose weight and loves me as a person and the things i do. I lost 30lbs once and i want my bf to make me feel better. Make me feel like they wanted to be with me. Wants to play with my size. Im only 18:young, but i want someone to love me for who i am. Whose not bad looking. If yourr around my size or smaller then i'd wouldnt mind bfing you. Lol


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    Feb 20, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    mars93 saidI want someone who motivates me to loose weight and loves me as a person and the things i do. I lost 30lbs once and i want my bf to make me feel better. Make me feel like they wanted to be with me. Wants to play with my size. Im only 18:young, but i want someone to love me for who i am. Whose not bad looking. If yourr around my size or smaller then i'd wouldnt mind bfing you. Lol


    lolwut



    I think he confused this topic being about the same "size" maybe ...
  • calibro

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    Feb 20, 2012 8:47 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidIn my case I can't relate to ANYONE my age. They gotta be at least 20 years older just so I can feel on the same wavelength.


    oh, is that what you had been saying?
  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 20, 2012 8:51 AM GMT
    I was born in the frost in northern Canada, and I feel the same way.
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    Feb 20, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    i hear ya. it seems as though i spend most of my time w/ ppl who r older than me. i agree that older ppl r def interesting, knowledgable, and cool. however, it was talking 2 guys my age, who are going thru the same merde that i am, that finally made me decide 2 come out.
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    Feb 20, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidIn my case I can't relate to ANYONE my age. They gotta be at least 20 years older just so I can feel on the same wavelength.

    I used to be light years ahead too. Problem with that is one day years from now you wake up and realize you're the poster child for arrested development.
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    Feb 20, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    Yes... I'm sure there is no one else having the same issues as you right now.

    I was raised in the country of Idaho (just as rural if not more so than Louisiana's swamps).... There's always some one to talk to.
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    Feb 20, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    welcome to my worldicon_wink.gif
  • vintovka

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    Feb 20, 2012 4:57 PM GMT
    I think it's also just important who have friends who know the difference between those times when you want feedback/ideas, and those times when you simply need to vent and have someone validate where you're at.
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    Feb 20, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    silverblaze999 said
    Ariodante saidIn my case I can't relate to ANYONE my age. They gotta be at least 20 years older just so I can feel on the same wavelength.


    Same here.


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    Feb 20, 2012 8:51 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidIn my case I can't relate to ANYONE my age. They gotta be at least 20 years older just so I can feel on the same wavelength.
    Call me anytime! LOL Seriously, that's sort of funny since I tend to get more guys 30 years my junior wanting to chat! icon_smile.gif Is it just me? Do I have a sign that says 'come in and let's chat'? LOL
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    Feb 20, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    eb925guy said Is it just me? Do I have a sign that says 'come in and let's chat'? LOL


    You're handsome and look very friendly ;)
  • Timbales

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    Feb 20, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    I don't mean this to sound self-pitying, but I've never really felt like I relate well to others. I'm a good listener and sounding board for others, but I seldom feel like I have anything in common with anyone.
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    Feb 21, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    seaguardian saidSometimes they are older than you and know too much already.


    Nobody likes a know it all, but there's no such thing as knowing too much. As nice as it can be to explore your world with someone at a similar phase of self exploration, understanding the self is hardly measured by age. Some know their selves early on, others die never having figured it out. Self exploration is a solitary path, even when you have found a good friend to keep you company, to walk along and pass the time.
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    Feb 23, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    seaguardian saidSometimes you are going through so much and it feels like no one understands. Everyone you know is either younger than you or not mature enough. Sometimes they are older than you and know too much already. We all need someone there who you can just talk to and just have them feel how you feel. So hard to find someone like that being born and raised in the swamps of Louisiana.


    YUP.
    It isn't a function of location. Just fate/luck.
  • mynyun

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    Feb 23, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    If you're human, I can't relate to you.
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    Feb 25, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidIn my case I can't relate to ANYONE my age. They gotta be at least 20 years older just so I can feel on the same wavelength.

    I often feel the same way lol.
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    Feb 25, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    Yeah, theres certainly a lot to be said for talking to someone with similar perspectives... as you say, sometimes the wisdom of age isn't helpful right now, right here on the journey.

    If you're asking the question of someone "do you see what I see now" its not the same as "do you remember seeing what I am seeing".. seeing could be feeling, hearing etc..

    We all need to find kindred spirits for our time of "right here, right now".. Hope you do... Realjock has a great community - you're bound to..