Who would conduct a same sex commitment ceremony?

  • Darliehast

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    Feb 20, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    Hello friends,

    Okay so say a same sex couple wanted to have a commitment ceremony in a state which doesn't show legal rights either way who would they normally get to conduct a ceremony of this sort? Most religious officiants would not offer or accept to do this as it is against their religious beliefs... so who would you think they would be able to ask to conduct the ceremony?

    Best advance
    Darlie hast
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    Feb 20, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    A cute little wedding chapel in Vegas would do just fine.
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    Feb 20, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    When we had our commitment ceremony in 1999 gay marriage was not legal in South Africa so we had one of our closest friends whom we respected very much act as the coordinator. We were surrounded by many close friends and family in a beautiful setting.

    In 2008 we had a state-recognized wedding ceremony in Toronto officiated by a minister friend of ours even though his church did not officially sanction gay marriage. Once again we were surrounded by close friends and family in a favourite setting.

    If neither church nor state sanction the ceremony then it really doesn't matter (to them) who performs it. That leaves you free to be creative and have people who really mean something to you participate/officiate.


    I wish your friends all the best, knowing that it's not who officiates the ceremony so much as the love and commitment of the people participating that is the key to longevity.


    JD