Thinking about relocation...could use some guidance.

  • Djmaxvayo

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    Feb 21, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    I am really struggling with a major decision...I have lived in Columbus for about 9 years. I was in a long-term relationship until about two years ago. I ended it because I was not happy for a lot of reasons. Ever since then, I have focused more intently on growth and self-development. I am happy with the way I am evolving and changing.

    The big question is...is it time to relocate? I tried really hard to meet guys here in Columbus: I belong to several of these sites, go out as often as I can, get involved in the community, DJ for events, and try to keep a positive attitude. I have been talking with an amazing guy who lives in another city for a while now and we are getting along really well. The plain truth is that I am extremely frustrated with Columbus on many levels; I should have been able to get involved with someone in Columbus, but the guys here are just weird.

    The way I see it right now is this: relocating to a more liberated part of the country (Ohio is repressed and uptight) could only be a positive step, even if things didn't work out with the guy I'm interested in. At least I would be in a place where I am MORE LIKELY to find someone.

    Thoughts?
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    Do it! Sounds like your current city is not a good match for you. Time for a fresh start somewhere else. icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:26 PM GMT
    I kinda went through the same thing 3 years ago. I don't believe the problem is so much the city you live in but rather the way that you view it. your view of the city not supporting relationships is becoming a reality.

    however, i am not you, but consider the alternate view i offer.

    I am returning to seattle to visit after a 2.5 year absence in minneapolis. I have a feeling that when I return tomorrow, I will realize that it was simply my perspective, not the city.
  • patmos9990

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    Feb 21, 2012 4:39 PM GMT
    Have you thought about having to make all new friends again. Finding a satisfying job somewhere else? If so, go for it!
  • Djmaxvayo

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    Feb 25, 2012 9:27 PM GMT
    Thanks guys! Those were helpful comments. I wouldn't mind making new friends and finding a different job. I have only a few close friends here anyhow. I am not a social butterfly; I prefer a few good friends over a bunch of platonic friends.
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    Feb 25, 2012 9:29 PM GMT
    Change is good. icon_smile.gif
  • kemoze

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    Feb 26, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    Dude, u are talking about moving from a city to another city.. its not that hard.. just go for it .. seems like u are not willing anymore to stay there.. for me i have moved from egypt to kuwait just after my graduation and i have worked so hard so far and now i am applying for a study visa to australia .. relocating is not hard and its kind of adventure. all i care about is whether i will make new friends in australia or no?!!!

    Go for it ..