Do you fall fast?

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    Feb 21, 2012 11:29 AM GMT
    As in do you fall in love fast?
    Honestly, it's a particular part of my personality that I really, really hate and I always have to keep myself in check because if I let myself, I could easily fall in love fast. Honestly it makes me feel semi-pathetic.

    Just wondering if anyone is the same and what you do to keep it in line.
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    Feb 21, 2012 11:30 AM GMT
    no, but I lust after someone really fast
  • Laurence

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    Feb 21, 2012 11:34 AM GMT
    When I was younger I fell in love easily (2 or 3 times a day...haha).

    Not so much now.

    Maybe as you get older, you see more of life, have been hurt a bit more and become more cynical.

    Falling in love is a good thing and shows you have an open-heart. Don't worry you will toughen up.

    There's nothing you can do to stop falling in love. What you can do is keep it to yourself a bit more, not declare your feelings so soon and see how things pan out.

    Loz
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    Feb 21, 2012 11:35 AM GMT
    Its different with everyone. Ive fallen really fast, but Ive also fallen really slow
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    Feb 21, 2012 12:01 PM GMT
    Glad I'm not the only one.
    lilTanker thanks for sharing that because it's probably a mixture of both in a sense.
    I'm thinking maybe I sort of spark the 'idea' of the possiblity of being with someone and then build it up with constant thought.

    Sadly though sometimes it takes me longer to 'fall out' of it so to speak.

    GreenHopperIts different with everyone. Ive fallen really fast, but Ive also fallen really slow


    That's different which is good. Maybe I haven't met enough people to have had experienced falling fast and slow.
    It's definitely food for thought though.
    I'm not sure but I'm not an avid believer in love at first sight so maybe I'm overthinking and it's just normal time haha.

    And Loz I probably definitely need more toughening up to do, but I've never been one to declare anything to anybody unless I'm sure it'd be reciprocated. I'm that fearful haha.
    The thing with me is I feel love and rejection as equally as strong as each other (at least I think I do) so both sides of the spectrum scare me.
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    Feb 21, 2012 12:26 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidIts different with everyone. Ive fallen really fast, but Ive also fallen really slow

    My own experience exactly. But whether slow or fast, I always stop to ask myself: does he look good because you haven't had anyone for a while, which may be related to this being a community with few good choices, or because you're rebounding from the last guy who cheated on you?

    And if the answer to any of those is yes, then date him anyway, because beggars can't be choosers! LOL! But just be careful about falling in love with him.
  • He_Man

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    Feb 21, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    Yes, and it gets me into trouble all of the time! I think that i'm a love addict -- I always have to be in love. It's a drug that I can't live without.
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    Feb 21, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Feb 21, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    I used to think I did but then I realized that it was just lust, not love.
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    Feb 21, 2012 2:52 PM GMT
    Did once and it won't happen again
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    Feb 21, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    if you're actually kind and sweet to me? then yes. Years and years of therapy eventually revealed the elementary conclusion that, because my parents are NOT very warm, cuddly people, I seek out SPECIFICALLY warm, cuddly people. Give me a hug and don't mock my personality and I'm practically yours.

    go figure
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    Feb 21, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    I tend to develop feelings pretty fast but not sure I would classify it as love. Several times it has developed into love. My current bf is probably the quickest that I went from development to achievement. It was pretty much love at first sight!
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    Feb 21, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    I fall for a guy really quick, but not sure wheter is LOVE as the word itself! I guess it's more a superficial Falling and astonishment of every positive future! but then you get to know him better = real world!FAIL! hahahaha
  • DanOmatic

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    Feb 21, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    I rarely fall that quickly in love, but when it happens, it happens hard.
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    Feb 21, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    I'm really cautious, but once I open up I can fall pretty fast; though I have a knack for falling head first. I almost got hooked on the whole process of it, but due to my own pride; I had to veer away from that lifestyle. The potential of also becoming a heartbreak addict was the flip side logical danger, and I wasn't going to have that. Now I just cradle my old wounds, and hope so one will love me and my scars.
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    Feb 21, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    if i fall fast, i fall out fast too
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    Feb 21, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    Not at all.
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    Feb 22, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 saidif you're actually kind and sweet to me? then yes. Years and years of therapy eventually revealed the elementary conclusion that, because my parents are NOT very warm, cuddly people, I seek out SPECIFICALLY warm, cuddly people. Give me a hug and don't mock my personality and I'm practically yours.

    go figure


    Hahaha I'm so glad you said that because I'm similar. It doesn't take much to hook me, niceness is what wins and gameover you're in my head lol

    know_wunderI'm really cautious, but once I open up I can fall pretty fast; though I have a knack for falling head first. I almost got hooked on the whole process of it, but due to my own pride; I had to veer away from that lifestyle. The potential of also becoming a heartbreak addict was the flip side logical danger, and I wasn't going to have that. Now I just cradle my old wounds, and hope so one will love me and my scars.


    Also similar in the sense that I see myself potentially being a 'heartbreak addict' (awesomely coined term by the way) so I always have to make the active choice to not let myself.

    Thanks for the posts, it's good to know it happens to anyone. Cheers to all the people who don't fall fast, saves you lots of internal turmoil haha.
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    Feb 22, 2012 8:03 AM GMT
    It also depends on what you mean by "fast".

    In my 20's, it certainly tended to be fast by almost any definition. Now it's a slower burn, but the ember in the flame gets as bright!