For All You Older Men (28+)

  • Dbrad3693

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    Feb 21, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    Got a question for all you older gentlemen (28+)

    If lets say a hot or extremely cute about 18-20 year old started hitting on you. Checking you out, flirting, rubbing, etc etc.

    Would that make you uncomfortable?
    Would you do it back?
    If lets say the younger person was wanting, would you take them to the bedroom?

    I'm extremely interested in knowing your opinions... And experience with guys younger than yourself ?
  • MikemikeMike

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    Feb 21, 2012 2:56 PM GMT
    Hahaha for the 38+ and older like me, I don't consider anyone under 25/26 for sex.
    Younger guys have great stamina in bedicon_idea.gif most.

    Congrats on your progress at the gym!!
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    Dbrad3693 saidGot a question for all you older gentlemen (28+)


    OK, I'll be the first here. I wouldn't place 28+ as 'older'. I understand that it's all relative and yes, it's older than 18 - 20 but it's NOT older. I'm older and even some would say I'm not an 'older gentleman'.
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:09 PM GMT
    I'd like to say it wouldn't be an issue but personally I'd feel silly sleeping with someone that young.

    Flirting or anything else is fine though, always nice to receive a compliment from a younger gent icon_biggrin.gif

    But I agree with the above guys, 28 is not really what i'd classify as 'older'.
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:12 PM GMT
    I'll take the bait!

    When I was your age, I was all about the 35+. Guys my age didn't do it for me. My first boyfriend was 36, later I had a 4.5 year relationship with a 45 year old. Of all my relationships, those were the best I had.

    I did learn to be cautious about older guys that specifically wanted me for my (young) age. They tended to treat me like a thing to show off. Ludwig and Klaus, the two guys from above, I went after aggressively, and it paid off.

    Sounds like you are more interested in sex right now. I predict you will have no problem whatsoever finding men in your age range that are interested in precisely that. Good luck, and keep the rubbers handy!
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    If a 20 year old started rubbing me, he would get a punch to the neck.
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    I get hit on by youngsters quite frequently and have had sex with many. It is a little odd at first getting fucked by someone that could be your son. But the taboo nature of the sex definately adds to the hotness!
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 21, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidthe taboo nature of the sex definately adds to the hotness!


    I agree. This was true when I was younger being with older, and it is also true being older and being with younger. As long as both parties are willing participants, I don't see what the problem is. Good chemistry, physical attraction, whatever, comes in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. Nothing wrong with going with the flow as long as it's legal and safe.
  • Dbrad3693

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    Feb 21, 2012 4:15 PM GMT
    Lol
    I consider 28 older because that's 10 years older than me
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:18 PM GMT
    I've been with my bf for almost 10 years now so I was a lot younger when I was single, but younger guys can be hot, my concern would be that we were on the same page mentally. 10 years is a lot of time from 20-30. You finish school, get a career, etc. Its not really like say a 30 to 40 year old difference.
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    There is certainly nothing wrong with it as long as they are both consenting adults. I do prefer guys in their 30s and trending up as I get older. Frankly. The majority of interest I receive is in thier 20s.
  • mar0302

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    Feb 21, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    My last ex was 22.. 23 when we broke up.. It was good while it lasted, but we were at different life stages.. I think it depends what you want.. in the end it was painful for both of us to separate, but was the right thing to do.. I don't do hookups, so if someone 18-20 was after me (which happens a lot actually), I tend to avoid it.. after the last one, I'm not sure I'd ever go that young again..
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    mar0302 saidMy last ex was 22.. 23 when we broke up.. It was good while it lasted, but we were at different life stages.. I think it depends what you want.. in the end it was painful for both of us to separate, but was the right thing to do.. I don't do hookups, so if someone 18-20 was after me (which happens a lot actually), I tend to avoid it.. after the last one, I'm not sure I'd ever go that young again..

    why do you go for someone that young?
  • mar0302

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    Feb 21, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    Things happen mate.. wasn't intentional.. started out as friends and developed into something more..
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    If we are talking for a relatinoship, I don't think that would work in the long run. In spite of what Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones seem to indicate you still have to look down the road to the point when one partner has started to collect social security while the other is just entering his mid-life crisis.

    If we are talking about sex, oh hell yeah I'd hook up. The beauty of bodybuilding and not having engaged in the vices of tobacco, alcohol or recreation drugs is that I look far younger than I am and I am built. I get hit on by (and hook up with) an amazing number of college age guys (thanx Grindr!). JUst look at Hugh Hefner! :-P
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    Lol. Wow, the last time I posted on a thread like this I was 26-7. I was so against being hit on by older men. Thankfully, I got over that. Age isn't that important to me anymore. It's more about the connection between me and however old the other one is, if I don't get along or like them much, than so be it. I don't strive to be with 18-20 year olds, like older men did to me. My preference is now as it was when I was 18; 21 and up!
    Age, health, politics are really just a cop out in my opinion. If you don't like someone, say it.
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    If I liked them sure.
  • He_Man

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    Feb 21, 2012 4:33 PM GMT

    "Older gentlemen (28+)"!!!! WTF Man, to view the world from the eyes of an 18 year old again.

    Well, to answer your question, if a"boy" called me an older gentlemen, then I would slap the shit out of him. That would be the only foreplay he got from me. icon_twisted.gif

    Seriously, though, 18 to 20 is a little too young for my taste, but who knows? I've dated guys in their 30s who acted worse than teenage boys, so I guess I've already had experience with the immature, in that sense.

    Basically, I only date old fogies 25+. Yeah, I like those old timers. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    Wow, I made the cut-off! I've pretty much been exclusive to older guys, but lately younger guys have alllllmost been creeping into my mind. I would consider it, but it totally defends on his demeanor. I just can't take a young guy with bravado or swag. He'd have to be shy and sweet.
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:38 PM GMT
    I saw a formula once to work out how young is "too young" to consider. It's half your age plus 7. For me, that would be 27... Which actually seems to hold true. I generally wouldn't consider anyone under 25...

    Not that there's any guarantee that anyone older than that is going to make the cut either! Maturity and age aren't directly related.

    I had to block 2 guys in the last few months on a dating website, who were in their early 20s and wouldn't take no for an answer. Their attitude, sadly, was that since they showed interest in me and I was nearly twice their age, I didn't have the right to say no.
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:41 PM GMT
    i generally have a 7 year max on either side rule. anymore than that and you just can't relate culturally. think about it in school years and it will really freak you out. i'm all for being with whomever you want to be with, but why not try to stick with something close so you can be in the same place in life and grow together?
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    I used to think I'd say "no" if it happened to me but it seems to be happening now and it's definitely a "maybe" given the guy and the circumstances. At my local gym (NOT making this up in my head) there's a cute muscular 20 year oldish kid I was uncharacteristically infatuated with at first sight because he's a younger, better looking and better built version of an old friend of mine that I crushed on about thirty years ago when he was that age. No kidding, this kid could also be his son (he's not) the way he carries himself with the same posture and exudes the identical energy and personality - he's the kind of guy who talks to anybody (and does) and gets hit on at the gym by lots of girls. We've struck up a few conversations and I've felt this fatherly-brotherly vibe even when he'd compliment me on how good I was looking, how great my legs were, what big arms I had, how ripped I was getting, etc. (Never said I wasn't oblivious.) Then he blithely mentioned that he was bi, asked me what I was into and the vibe changed markedly. Trying not to put much thought into it since it may be just a tease and it's right and wrong on so many levels but it's still hanging in the air between us. Stay tuned, I'm way overdue for my midlife crisis - initially he made me feel old but now he makes me feel young. Train, meet wreck! (Pun intended.)
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
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    cdncuteboy saidTheir attitude, sadly, was that since they showed interest in me and I was nearly twice their age, I didn't have the right to say no.

    That's actually funny. "How DARE you turn me down, you geezer? Don't you realize I may be your last chance to fuck a 20-year old?"



    Actually the language wasn't that far off! One of them called me a "silly dumb-ass faggot."
  • Stephan

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    Feb 21, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    Well, for me, I would not let him go any further. The may reason is the age thing, I could be their dad, and what I am looking for is longTerm not a one night stand.
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    Feb 21, 2012 4:49 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    catfish5 saidthe taboo nature of the sex definately adds to the hotness!


    I agree. This was true when I was younger being with older, and it is also true being older and being with younger. As long as both parties are willing participants, I don't see what the problem is. Good chemistry, physical attraction, whatever, comes in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. Nothing wrong with going with the flow as long as it's legal and safe.



    My thoughts too