My ex called me to join living in 3! Fuck!

  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 22, 2012 1:12 PM GMT
    I broke up with my boy 1 months ago! He always said he loved me but he can't leave his ex because of his responsibility for his ex blackout and meltdown.
    He talked with his ex that he loved me so bad and his ex knew that but his ex need him to bad so they asked me to join living with them in 3.
    I felt it's so ridiculous to do that!
  • alphatop

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    Feb 22, 2012 1:44 PM GMT
    Kobe_Whisky saidI broke up with my boy 1 months ago! He always said he loved me but he can't leave his ex because of his responsibility for his ex blackout and meltdown.
    He talked with his ex that he loved me so bad and his ex knew that but his ex need him to bad so they asked me to join living with them in 3.
    I felt it's so ridiculous to do that!


    No, unless you want a complicated, heavy relationship. There is plenty of fish in the sea....just let it go and move on.
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    Feb 22, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    While I find it - your whole short tale - completely insane, I have to admire the balls of someone - your "ex" - who just puts it out there and attempts to have it all.
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    Feb 22, 2012 1:57 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidWhile I find it - your whole short tale - completely insane, I have to admire the balls of someone - your "ex" - who just puts it out there and attempts to have it all.

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    You can't let him own you. What are you, a dog on a leash? An option?
    Love is a many splendid thing; until it becomes a bargaining chip, then it's lost it's use. Do yourself a favor, and don't get played.
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    Feb 22, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    unless you are into cuckold relationships (yes, google it), i think you should move on... otherwise you're risking always feeling 2nd best. you want a man who will put you 1st in his life. clearly this guy who you've known for only 1 month (!!!) does not know what he wants. he is trying to have everything without making difficult decisions, and life is about making tough decisions. he does not know what love is and has no right telling you those things. sounds like a loser.
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    Feb 22, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    A healthy person would have dismissed this without bothering to waste the time posting it here. My sense is you are looking for someone to tell you to do this, drop your entire life and dedicate yourself to being in some completely twisted and mangled relationship with two self destructive losers.
    I say go for it. Jump in. Life is short. What the hell. The best way to have a 3 person relationship is joining in on one with two people who are deeply flawed. Those are the ones that always work out.
    Do it now, stop reading, drop everything, sell your stuff and get started. Go.
    Now.
    Post updates when you are allowed computer time.
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    Feb 22, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    know_wunder said
    RunintheCity saidWhile I find it - your whole short tale - completely insane, I have to admire the balls of someone - your "ex" - who just puts it out there and attempts to have it all.

    This*

    You can't let him own you. What are you, a dog on a leash? An option?
    Love is a many splendid thing; until it becomes a bargaining chip, then it's lost it's use. Do yourself a favor, and don't get played.


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    Feb 22, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    Tell him to grow a pair and choose what he wants, not have his cake and eat it!!! Typical flakey behaviour of someone with no backbone....you can do waaay better!!! Move on!!!!
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 22, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    i've been his ex and talk for a while about solution. That guy kinda have problem with brain. he's the one who ask me to do that.
    I said NO for that..cuz i need a guy not two in my bed.
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 22, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    antonomad said
    Kobe_Whisky saidI broke up with my boy 1 months ago! He always said he loved me but he can't leave his ex because of his responsibility for his ex blackout and meltdown.
    He talked with his ex that he loved me so bad and his ex knew that but his ex need him to bad so they asked me to join living with them in 3.
    I felt it's so ridiculous to do that!


    No, unless you want a complicated, heavy relationship. There is plenty of fish in the sea....just let it go and move on.


    yeah...i tried it week without sex..my boy loved me more and try to be with me and hiding his ex. His ex always get jealous and cry like a crazy man cuz he want me to be a 2nd person..haha..
    anyway, im out for that fucking relationship
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    Feb 22, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    What kind of Asian are you? If you're Chinese, I'll give you the verbal a$$-whipping you deserve in Mandarin.
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 22, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    kingmo saidunless you are into cuckold relationships (yes, google it), i think you should move on... otherwise you're risking always feeling 2nd best. you want a man who will put you 1st in his life. clearly this guy who you've known for only 1 month (!!!) does not know what he wants. he is trying to have everything without making difficult decisions, and life is about making tough decisions. he does not know what love is and has no right telling you those things. sounds like a loser.


    yeah..that's right! Love is not an option for somebody..i denied it and piss off that guy! I just felt it's funny and gross
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    Feb 22, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    It depends on what this ex is expecting from ur bf. It's hard to tell until u get to know him. My ex is currently my roommate, the three of us have been living together for over year. I was living with my ex first because we decided to stay as friends, no meltdowns or anything like that just a mutual decision. Then my bf decided to move in and he knew my ex well, at first he thought that was weird but after he met him and he realized that there was nothing else there he no longer sees him as my ex, I don't see him as an ex either.

    However this guy seems to be in a delicate condition because apparently he NEEDS your bf. This is different so I don't know. Get to know him first, take ur time but don't make a decision until u understand the situation
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 22, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidA healthy person would have dismissed this without bothering to waste the time posting it here. My sense is you are looking for someone to tell you to do this, drop your entire life and dedicate yourself to being in some completely twisted and mangled relationship with two self destructive losers.
    I say go for it. Jump in. Life is short. What the hell. The best way to have a 3 person relationship is joining in on one with two people who are deeply flawed. Those are the ones that always work out.
    Do it now, stop reading, drop everything, sell your stuff and get started. Go.
    Now.
    Post updates when you are allowed computer time.


    sorry about my post! i just wanna share my story cuz its an experience for me and manybe for somebody else.

    I dropped it for sure! im not a dump who do that crazy stuff for my life.

    I can find someone better ;-)
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 22, 2012 2:35 PM GMT
    cookingitsweet said
    know_wunder said
    RunintheCity saidWhile I find it - your whole short tale - completely insane, I have to admire the balls of someone - your "ex" - who just puts it out there and attempts to have it all.

    This*

    You can't let him own you. What are you, a dog on a leash? An option?
    Love is a many splendid thing; until it becomes a bargaining chip, then it's lost it's use. Do yourself a favor, and don't get played.


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    yeah....he's such a loser! im not in that game...im totally out and lost all my respect to my ex
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 22, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    RedheadedRy saidWhat kind of Asian are you? If you're Chinese, I'll give you the verbal a$$-whipping you deserve in Mandarin.



    thx man....im Cambodian-Chinese...
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    Feb 22, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidA healthy person would have dismissed this without bothering to waste the time posting it here. My sense is you are looking for someone to tell you to do this, drop your entire life and dedicate yourself to being in some completely twisted and mangled relationship with two self destructive losers.
    I say go for it. Jump in. Life is short. What the hell. The best way to have a 3 person relationship is joining in on one with two people who are deeply flawed. Those are the ones that always work out.
    Do it now, stop reading, drop everything, sell your stuff and get started. Go.
    Now.
    Post updates when you are allowed computer time.


    haha. don't hold back man.
  • Kobe_Whisky

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    Feb 22, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
    hey..guys! im moving out with no regret cuz I knew his color after this crazy request..

    I can find a better guy soon or date someone on RJ
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    Feb 22, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    Dear fuck.
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    Feb 22, 2012 3:10 PM GMT
    Kobe_Whisky saidyeah....he's such a loser! im not in that game...im totally out and lost all my respect to my ex


    Good. You didn't need to be treated that way by anyone anyways. They obviously didn't deserve you ; )
    Whomever you date next should treat you with respect! Forget about them and their insecurities. They can figure that out on their own time.
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    Feb 22, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    sounds badass
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    Feb 22, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    stop talking to him, move on. OMG icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Move. On.
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    Feb 22, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Kobe_Whisky saidI broke up with my boy 1 months ago! He always said he loved me but he can't leave his ex because of his responsibility for his ex blackout and meltdown.
    He talked with his ex that he loved me so bad and his ex knew that but his ex need him to bad so they asked me to join living with them in 3.
    I felt it's so ridiculous to do that!


    lmfaooo i laugh when i read thisicon_lol.gif
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    Feb 22, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    whats his #? I got this icon_razz.gif

    J'aime les hommes francais icon_razz.gif