What do you do when a guy loses interest in you?

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    Feb 23, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    What do you do when you talk to a guy for a bit and he just kind of falls off the face of the earth? I mean, there's an embarrassing point where you asked him "how he's doing" enough, you know? Hahah believe me I've been there...no bueno.

    And what about when that happens and he was the one that started talking to you in the first place?

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    Feb 23, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    What do you do when a guy loses interest in you?

    You lose interest in him.

    Anything else is a losing proposition, that wastes time that is better spent looking for another and better guy.
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    Feb 23, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    It should not be that simple. Can't I just blame someone else? icon_lol.gif
  • MarcBodybuild...

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    Feb 23, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    If the guy loses interest dont take it personal. It's just things happen, maybe there is somebody there that might bond with u even more
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    It seems like this topic has come up a lot lately... and oddly enough it just happened to me AGAIN! too. So I'm right there with y'all haha
    But my advice, which Im trying to take myself as well, forget about him. If he lost interest, don't waste your time on him, cause he's not wasting his time on you.
  • melloyello

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    Feb 23, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    Wills, you're the epitome of why gay guys suck (meaning I'm not sure whats wrong with him that he'd dump you!). Just a quick view of your profile leads me to believe you're a prince among men.

    That guy is an idiot and should have been appreciative of your interest in HIM.

    But it sucks that this happens to anyone.
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    Listen here's what you do, you tell him the 4 letter word NEXT and keep it moving.
  • Montague

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    Feb 23, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    You move on!
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    Who would lose interest in you?!

    Nah, I feel ya...happened to me recently too. Don't tell me you like and care about me, and then disappear.
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    He goes from "hot guy" to "another guy" on my cell. If he should mess up anymore, than he's an automatic "Ignore list"
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:48 AM GMT
    Find someone better and show him that he wasn't worth your time either
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    Blaming anyone is not going to bring him back, so best thing to do is move one.
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:49 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidWhat do you do when a guy loses interest in you?

    You lose interest in him.

    Anything else is a losing proposition, that wastes time that is better spent looking for another and better guy.


    This is exactly me.

    Eh.. maybe it's narcissism, but i'm never interested in someone who isn't interested in me. Dating should be 50-50. I never even let a guy ask me out three times in a row. After one date or two at the most where he takes the initiative, if I like him, I ask him out. They then mistake this for infatuation and disappear. And then reappear again when I don't ask them out a second time 0.o I'll ask someone out twice (three times if I like him THAT much) and if he makes excuses for all those attempts, I move on. I've got this down to a science haha.. But really, if he's interested, he WILL make an effort. Dating a guy should never be difficult in the first few months before the complacency sets in haha
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    One follow up question then, as I am in a similar situation. Should I make contact with the person who is no longer interested, and officially "end" things, seeing that it's hard to get ahold of him anyway, or should I just not even put that much thought into it?
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    Feb 23, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    7Famark saidWho would lose interest in you?!


    ^---THIS

    But in all seriousness, I've come to a point in my life that I'm not going to beg for a guy's attention. If he falls off the face of the earth, I'll just stand at the edge and wave.

    Doesn't mean that I won't at least give it a last ditch effort to just give the guy the benefit of the doubt that maybe life is just happening to him and he needs some space, but there's just a threshold where you just have to cut your losses and move on.



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    Feb 23, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
    OP,

    You really shouldn’t sweat it, honestly. If you are new here, which it sounds like you are, such a situation is much more commonplace than you may realize. There are a thousand different reasons why it could happen, and nine hundred ninety-nine of them have nothing to do with you. If you’re just looking for guys to chat with, there are plenty who will be courteous and cool enough to entertain a continuous conversation without falling off of the face of the earth. For those that can’t, it’s not even worth blinking an eye over...sum it up as a loss and keep it moving!

  • Feb 23, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    You find something better to do. That's what he's done.
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    Feb 23, 2012 5:55 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidWhat do you do when a guy loses interest in you?

    You lose interest in him.



    He's right.
  • TheBizMan

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    Feb 23, 2012 6:48 AM GMT
    You move on .....right on to me! hello! ;)
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    Feb 23, 2012 6:50 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    Art_Deco saidWhat do you do when a guy loses interest in you?

    You lose interest in him.



    He's right.


    Indeed.
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    Feb 23, 2012 7:07 AM GMT
    ah not good!
    it's happened to me too many times so I know how you feel...
    too many guys become enamoured so quickly - if they do I now take it as a warning sign that he's probably gonna lose interest just as fast...
    In other words: learn from the experience. He's looking out for number one and so should you.
  • dancedancekj

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    Feb 23, 2012 7:14 AM GMT
    Gotta move on, and I take that time to be a bit narcissistic and do something for me, or that I've been neglecting for myself.
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    Feb 23, 2012 7:51 AM GMT
    Don't bother wasting any more time on them. Clearly they don't care, so you shouldn't or should quit caring even if you have to force yourself out of infatuation.
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    Feb 23, 2012 8:17 AM GMT
    having been with the same guy for 20+ years, I have to say I don't know, because I can't even remember it ever happening. I was always the hard one to tie down.
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    Feb 23, 2012 8:22 AM GMT
    It's happened to me so many times lately that I'm beginning to give up on ever talking to a guy again, haha. What's even worse is the fact that I was the one approached every single time, then they suddenly ignore texts and I never hear from them again. Story of my life, lol. I usually delete their numbers from my phone to fight the urge to text them. Eventually you'll get over it. The best part is running into them after a while, completley ignoring them, and making them feel guilty as fuck.