Lust in a relationship. Trouble?

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    Feb 23, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    Long story short.

    Wet out clubbing with my friends, really cute guy introduced himself to me n danced with me. I was really drunk n it was a straight club in the country. I totally crushed on him, my friend was like he was hitting on you but I ignored it cuz the chances were like 0 from 1 to 10 haha. Anyways, turns out he's friends with one of her gay friends. Who is like a total fucking douche model dickhead. Anywayssss, he came thru my work the other day, and messaged me on grindr mentioning it. But his profile was headless but I could tell it was him from the clothes he was wearing on his grindr and facebook profile. Stalker much I know, so he doesn't know that I know who he is. But I do, but after he messaged me a couple of times on grindr he stopped replying. Wtf? He doesn't remember me from the club I'd say, as it was awhile ago. But why start a conversation and then just end it? Like wtf? Now the other thing, I'm in a relationship. I'd never cheat, but I literally lust on any cute guy that talks to me haha. But I'd like gay friends, or is it a bad idea ever trying to have any even though I know i'll crush on them? I'd never do anything, but these feelings make me feel like shit...
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    Feb 23, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    Do you need to be on Grindr at all if you are in a relationship? In my mind that just spells trouble as 75% (conservative number) are on there looking for sex at some point or another.
    If you're looking to make friends, make them in real life, not on a hook up app. The friendship will be stronger as you will be more likely to have something in common to bond over, other than the fact you both like cock.
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    Feb 23, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    At least you have a relationship...I don't really have any gay friends, I mean maybe acquaintances but nothing like I have with my close friends, they're all straight men with a few women thrown into the mix as well. It makes it easier to be friends with straight men since there's no potential of anything more...that's why I'm primarily looking for a boyfriend here and not really friends...I mean if that were to happen that's cool, it's just friends are not something I lack, a boyfriend, however, is.
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    Feb 23, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    its normal to lust whether you are single or not, acting on it is a different story
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    Feb 23, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    ythings saidits normal to lust whether you are single or not, acting on it is a different story


    I was agree that it is normal to lust, and it is going to happen. But is it wise to put yourself in situations where lusting over someone might become something more. Like being on Grindr, you might have a moment of weakness after a fight that may drive you to someone on there. I would say just think about what you are doing, if it starts to become an issue then maybe the relationship isn't right or your actions to avoid putting yourself in certain situations need to change.
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    Feb 24, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    Haha, I guess I don't feel so guilty then. It just felt like I might not love my partner, was werid.

    And I wouldn't cheat, as I don't enjoy sex haha. Too messy n gross. Iunno why I use grindr, to speak to guys who relate me to me? Having all friends as girls kinda gets old after you can't contribute to anything anymore.
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:47 AM GMT
    There's so much wrong with this thread it's hard to know where to start...
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:50 AM GMT
    Larkin saidThere's so much wrong with this thread it's hard to know where to start...


    Start with the fact that kristoff started it. 'Nuff said.
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    See, I'm lost already. You were in a straight club but this hot "straight" dude danced with you? Man, things have changed greatly, but human nature hasn't, I suspect. If the guy is hitting on you and he pupports to be straight then one of two things is going on probably: 1) he wants to have sex with you on the down low, or 2) he's trying to find out if you're gay (are you in the closet with this crew you were out with?) for somebody else. Keep your antennae up in either case would be my advice.
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Kristoff saidLong story short.
    feel like shit...

    Have you considered blocking me or my posts? Cause I wouldn't hold it against you.
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Ah, much to learn you young folk have
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    somewherenew saidDo you need to be on Grindr at all if you are in a relationship? In my mind that just spells trouble as 75% (conservative number) are on there looking for sex at some point or another.
    If you're looking to make friends, make them in real life, not on a hook up app. The friendship will be stronger as you will be more likely to have something in common to bond over, other than the fact you both like cock.


    FTW.

    Being on grindr while in a relationship is an absolute No-no. That's your first/biggest mistake. Remember how you would feel if your boyfriend was doing that to you. And also remember - why would you eat a hamburger when you have steak and potatoes at home...
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
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    somewherenew saidDo you need to be on Grindr at all if you are in a relationship? In my mind that just spells trouble as 75% (conservative number) are on there looking for sex at some point or another.
    If you're looking to make friends, make them in real life, not on a hook up app. The friendship will be stronger as you will be more likely to have something in common to bond over, other than the fact you both like cock.


    FTW.

    Being on grindr while in a relationship is an absolute No-no. That's your first/biggest mistake. Remember how you would feel if your boyfriend was doing that to you. And also remember - why would you eat a hamburger when you have steak and potatoes at home...


    Cause variety is the spice of life icon_smile.gif

    But in all seriousness if you have the urge to eat a burger, go out and look at the burger, then be honest to the damn steak and potatoes!

    Window shopping is still shopping bishes!
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:17 AM GMT
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    running11 said
    somewherenew saidDo you need to be on Grindr at all if you are in a relationship? In my mind that just spells trouble as 75% (conservative number) are on there looking for sex at some point or another.
    If you're looking to make friends, make them in real life, not on a hook up app. The friendship will be stronger as you will be more likely to have something in common to bond over, other than the fact you both like cock.


    FTW.

    Being on grindr while in a relationship is an absolute No-no. That's your first/biggest mistake. Remember how you would feel if your boyfriend was doing that to you. And also remember - why would you eat a hamburger when you have steak and potatoes at home...


    Cause variety is the spice of life icon_smile.gif

    But in all seriousness if you have the urge to eat a burger, go out and look at the burger, then be honest to the damn steak and potatoes!

    Window shopping is still shopping bishes!


    Honesty is the best policy icon_smile.gif btw hows Bozeman? I went to college there my freshman year of college.
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    I must have said "isn't he in a relationship" 10 times while reading that.
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    somewherenew saidDo you need to be on Grindr at all if you are in a relationship? In my mind that just spells trouble as 75% (conservative number) are on there looking for sex at some point or another.
    If you're looking to make friends, make them in real life, not on a hook up app. The friendship will be stronger as you will be more likely to have something in common to bond over, other than the fact you both like cock.


    FTW.

    Being on grindr while in a relationship is an absolute No-no. That's your first/biggest mistake. Remember how you would feel if your boyfriend was doing that to you. And also remember - why would you eat a hamburger when you have steak and potatoes at home...


    Cause variety is the spice of life icon_smile.gif

    But in all seriousness if you have the urge to eat a burger, go out and look at the burger, then be honest to the damn steak and potatoes!

    Window shopping is still shopping bishes!


    Honesty is the best policy icon_smile.gif btw hows Bozeman? I went to college there my freshman year of college.


    Well if you like mountain men eye candy it is great but no gay men are really here. I can't wait to get to grad school so just one step at a time for me lol. Did you get to la yet?
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    somewherenew saidDo you need to be on Grindr at all if you are in a relationship? In my mind that just spells trouble as 75% (conservative number) are on there looking for sex at some point or another.
    If you're looking to make friends, make them in real life, not on a hook up app. The friendship will be stronger as you will be more likely to have something in common to bond over, other than the fact you both like cock.


    FTW.

    Being on grindr while in a relationship is an absolute No-no. That's your first/biggest mistake. Remember how you would feel if your boyfriend was doing that to you. And also remember - why would you eat a hamburger when you have steak and potatoes at home...


    Cause variety is the spice of life icon_smile.gif

    But in all seriousness if you have the urge to eat a burger, go out and look at the burger, then be honest to the damn steak and potatoes!

    Window shopping is still shopping bishes!


    Honesty is the best policy icon_smile.gif btw hows Bozeman? I went to college there my freshman year of college.


    Well if you like mountain men eye candy it is great but no gay men are really here. I can't wait to get to grad school so just one step at a time for me lol. Did you get to la yet?


    Nope, still at work- in Montreal actually. Leaving tomorrow, going back to Minneapolis, and then catching a 530 flight to LA for the weekend. Looong day haha
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:27 AM GMT
    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    somewherenew saidDo you need to be on Grindr at all if you are in a relationship? In my mind that just spells trouble as 75% (conservative number) are on there looking for sex at some point or another.
    If you're looking to make friends, make them in real life, not on a hook up app. The friendship will be stronger as you will be more likely to have something in common to bond over, other than the fact you both like cock.


    FTW.

    Being on grindr while in a relationship is an absolute No-no. That's your first/biggest mistake. Remember how you would feel if your boyfriend was doing that to you. And also remember - why would you eat a hamburger when you have steak and potatoes at home...


    Cause variety is the spice of life icon_smile.gif

    But in all seriousness if you have the urge to eat a burger, go out and look at the burger, then be honest to the damn steak and potatoes!

    Window shopping is still shopping bishes!


    Honesty is the best policy icon_smile.gif btw hows Bozeman? I went to college there my freshman year of college.


    Well if you like mountain men eye candy it is great but no gay men are really here. I can't wait to get to grad school so just one step at a time for me lol. Did you get to la yet?


    Nope, still at work- in Montreal actually. Leaving tomorrow, going back to Minneapolis, and then catching a 530 flight to LA for the weekend. Looong day haha


    Awe well it will be worth it to see your boo. Say hi to Troy for me!
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    Feb 24, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Why is that some guys who gets to have a bf all of sudden wants to see if the grass is greener.....icon_rolleyes.gif