Anyone else put very little stock in online dates?

  • NerdLifter

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    Feb 23, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    Online dating = yes, larger dating pool. But also seems to have a much higher probability of flaking as well as people having unrealistic expectations/preconceptions of the other person; so much so that I come to almost expect it. If I can, I like to stick with organic relationships and networking.

    Anyone else feel disillusioned and find online dating counter productive at times?
  • dancedancekj

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    Feb 24, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    Studinprogress saidOnline dating = yes, larger dating pool. But also seems to have a much higher probability of flaking as well as people having unrealistic expectations/preconceptions of the other person; so much so that I come to almost expect it. If I can, I like to stick with organic relationships and networking.

    Anyone else feel disillusioned and find online dating counter productive at times?


    It's pretty much my only choice here (although the IRL crowd is the same as the online crowd for the most part). I have never gotten a date via organic relationships or networking.
  • NerdLifter

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    Feb 24, 2012 6:28 AM GMT
    dancedancekj said
    Studinprogress saidOnline dating = yes, larger dating pool. But also seems to have a much higher probability of flaking as well as people having unrealistic expectations/preconceptions of the other person; so much so that I come to almost expect it. If I can, I like to stick with organic relationships and networking.

    Anyone else feel disillusioned and find online dating counter productive at times?

    It's pretty much my only choice here (although the IRL crowd is the same as the online crowd for the most part). I have never gotten a date via organic relationships or networking.

    I hear you man. Those kinds of situations all around suck.
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    Feb 27, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    eh ive had mixed success, its not really natural but it definitely allows you to meet guys ud never otherwise meet, whether that is a good thing is anyone's guess icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 27, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    I met one guy on line in 98 relationship lasted one year. Dated one guy 5 years we met on line also but haven't had much luck in the last year
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    Feb 27, 2012 10:19 AM GMT
    Studinprogress saidOnline dating = yes, larger dating pool. But also seems to have a much higher probability of flaking as well as people having unrealistic expectations/preconceptions of the other person; so much so that I come to almost expect it. If I can, I like to stick with organic relationships and networking.

    Anyone else feel disillusioned and find online dating counter productive at times?


    Yes.

    I've yet to go on a date or meet anyone from online/mobile apps. I use it as an ego boost mostly - like how many people can hit on me in one day. I know, that sounds super shallow but that's about all it's good for. I gave a guy my number...no text after a very long conversation. So whatever. You win some, you lose some...
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    Mar 01, 2012 9:36 PM GMT
    It's only good if you're not taking it seriously at all and you're using it as a way to meet as many guys as possible. Even then it's not such a great thing, however. Frankly, I think that most guys who use online dating, at least in big cities where there are thousands of out gay guys and plenty of places to meet them, have problems with social skills and need the structure of online dating in order to put themselves out there. As a result, the online dating pool can kinda look like a swamp at times.
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    Mar 01, 2012 10:02 PM GMT
    dancedancekj said

    It's pretty much my only choice here (although the IRL crowd is the same as the online crowd for the most part). I have never gotten a date via organic relationships or networking.


    This
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    Mar 01, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    Well if you think about it, its not very "natural", that is to say in real life you meet someone and then determine whether to date or not, in reality, you would probably never meet most of the guys you do meet online..There is a reason for it, online we see what we want, we do in real life as well, but online its just bits and pieces of pictures and information..there is no soul to it

    We use online dating because its easy and convenient but its replaced quality with quantity and depth with variety...the business of love has become qualitative as is the business of sex..

    When computer dating came out people laughed and called it a nerd culture but now its the prevailing culture..but in the gay world, where the alternative is bars, clubs and other establishments where people feel awkward, it has actually helped many people embrace their sexuality..

    The conclusion is that its a double edged sword, personally, I take it with alot of salt icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 01, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    I don't go to the bars or clubs and don't really have a large group of friends so I don't really have many options. I tend to go long periods without going on dates. Since my move here in feb 2011 I've only met 2 people
  • MikemikeMike

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    Mar 01, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    Thank-God I have never had to do this!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I feel for guys that live where this is their only choiceicon_sad.gif