Do you cry?

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    Feb 24, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    I cry in extreme pain or with a serious death, but otherwise don't. icon_neutral.gif

    Either way most guys seem to think it's emasculating.

    I've heard "good cries" are good to get out emotions and well I hadn't cried since highschool, around 2005ish at my great-aunt's funeral.

    But when my aunt died last year, I couldn't pull myself together so maybe it was pent up emotion...my eyes stung and were swollen and I would randomly get set off.

    Your thoughts?

    If so, what sets you off? What isn't worth crying over, that gets you emotional? Movies, sad love songs...

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    Feb 24, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    All the time. But it wasn't always like that. I went through a period of time, from my late teens to my mid-twenties, when I didn't cry at all. Since then I've become more emotional to some degree, and varying things can set me off crying. Songs, thoughts, or songs and thoughts mixed together, which is often the case. It's good to cry, and I don't believe that it's emasculating at all whatsoever.
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    Feb 24, 2012 8:37 AM GMT
    I cry with almost every movie, TV show, even the Google chrome "It Gets Better" ads make me cry. If I read about a suicide because of gay bullying, I cry, if I read about animal abuse, I cry. I'm very emotional and it's so damn annoying.
  • HollywoodHist...

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    Feb 24, 2012 9:39 AM GMT
    I didn't cry once between age 12 when my grandmother died and when I came out at age 22. A decade and not a single tear. I think it was part of a defense for myself to show that I was tough or something and not gay. Actually wait, that's not true. I had to cry for a role when I was 18 and played Cliff Bradshaw in "Cabaret". I had to cry, and did, for each performance when Cliffs girlfriend tells him that she had an abortion. But that was different because it was a character and didn't say anything about me personally.

    Since I came out, when the world lifted off my shoulders, I cry with no problem. I teared up through pretty much the entire last episode of GLEE!! lol. I think it's extremely healthy to cry from time to time. If you're worried about what other people think you can always do it when you're alone. Watch a sad movie or something that really gets to you. It's freeing and liberating.
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    Feb 24, 2012 11:58 AM GMT
    Rarely...very rarely....but moreso recently than in the past.
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    Feb 24, 2012 12:21 PM GMT
    Cried every day in the beginning stages of my depression. The tears ran out, except for the reserve supply, which only is drawn upon on anniversaries of deaths and joys and for watching acts of human excellence (Tank Man makes me cry. I'm watering right now... I promised myself I wouldn't do this!)

    Sometimes when singing I'll cry, if the moment's awesome.

    I think of crying as evidence of moments that are the meat & potatoes of life.

    I should say though, that excludes times when people are trying to squeeze out tears to dramatize. (like every time a kid cries it's because of this). I've seen people commenting on youtube about crying from a clip in a video game that is completely shallow and unemotional.

    Some people look for reasons to cry. It is shocking to me that Life hasn't given them any.
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    Feb 24, 2012 12:58 PM GMT
    Finding Nemo: five times!
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    Feb 24, 2012 1:02 PM GMT
    "I psych myself up by crying over my master's degree."-- Jenna Marbles
  • drypin

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    Feb 24, 2012 1:06 PM GMT
    Well, I certainly tear up at emotional moments in movies, but that's because I get very involved in them, so I feel like I'm experiencing the situations, too.

    But outright crying? Maybe once or twice a year. And real bawling is something I've only done a couple of times in my entire adult life.
  • kemoze

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    Feb 24, 2012 1:09 PM GMT
    i cry a lot.. last time when i was watching bobby a gay real life story . i cried the whole movie and i cry also when i am depressed.. guys with emotions cry a lot.. its not emasculating at all.. i have my brother here. he is straight and a muscle guy .. but he cries in time of depression and since we lost our brother in a car crush , all my family cry from time to time.. since that time crying is so normal in our home ..
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    Feb 24, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
    I've cried. From physical pain, and chick flicks; even some documentaries. Not going to make myself any better or worse for it. Some men wear pink, some men cry; others just bitch about both.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 24, 2012 1:36 PM GMT
    "Crying" and "showing emotion" can be slightly different. I never cry in a long pronounced way unless ... it might be a life changing event. I cried when my mother died when I was 24.

    With the recent death process of my partner's beagle, I showed emotion.
    It was so very sad, I couldn't contain myself and so for a very brief 10 seconds, it was like an outburst. Also getting all teary for a few seconds isn't crying... not that the difference is really that major.
  • Latenight30

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    Feb 24, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    all the time. I'm crying now in fact.
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    Feb 24, 2012 1:44 PM GMT
    I don't really seek it out but if it happens, it happens.

    Maybe the only time I don't do it is talking to patients. Its important for them to know I can handle what they are saying and I've pretty much mastered it. Rarely do I let myself feel so much empathy for them that I feel like I should cry (often, they are already crying).

    Its normal. Holding it back is whats not normal.
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    Feb 24, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    I'm crying now because of this post.


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    Feb 24, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    Robots don't cry.
  • DanOmatic

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    Feb 24, 2012 2:07 PM GMT
    Though I feel emotion strongly, I am only able to really cry on very rare occasions. I do tear up at some movies, and lately a bit more as I work through a recent dating disappointment--in which case I really wish that I could just have a big, sobbing cry to get it all out.
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    When my heart breaks.
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:19 PM GMT
    Very rarely. It's almost always about death or father/son redemption (movies).
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    i only cry when i get wicked pissed off at something, im not one to wear my emotions on my sleeve lol
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    Almost never. Only when some close to me dies and the movie Marley and Me.
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
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  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 24, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
    I wouldn't say I cry a whole lot, but things make me teary-eyed pretty easy --- a sad movie or TV show, even tears of joy sometimes. One thing that can get me to cry at the drop of a hat is seeing my mom cry.
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    I cried last night at the end of E.T.

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    Feb 24, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
    all the time now. I get depressed easily when i think too much about how my family treats me and I'll just randomly start crying and wanting a hug icon_redface.gif