What The H&ll Is My Problem???

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    Feb 24, 2012 12:13 PM GMT
    this can't be right.. this is just not me... Ive been trying to study for weeks now, but Im doing terribly... I start for a few minutes.. and then this self-critical voice in my head goes "you're wasting the world's time with this.. you're gonna fail" and all manner of dumb critique starts going through my head and I lose all motivation... I'm only doing stuff I've always really enjoyed.. scientific stuff, chemistry, biology, ecology, but nowadays I look at new material for a few minutes and I become completely unmotivated... like it feels pointless to keep going..this is not normal.. Im not going through any crisis in my personal life..... Ive never had a fear of failing in school.. granted.. I've had to work my butt off at times.. but by putting in hard work Ive made it through, steady but surely.. what is wrong with me that I keep losing motivation?

    So far, RJ has come up with very good (and sometimes very bad, but usually well-intended and appreciated) advice to problems I was experiencing.... so now, in my hour of need, I once again turn to you, O people of realsock.. have you had this before?..and what have you done to combat this counterproductive and unconstrictive form of self-criticism?

    Thank you for listening...

    Me

    Edit: it feels like Im blocked somehow subconsciously.. Ive heard of this in writers.. that they called it writer's block.. perhaps that is a way to approach it?
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:08 PM GMT
    Perhaps it's the blahs associated with coming off the holidays after (presumably) a layoff? Or that you know the material really well and you're getting bored with it?

    Hang in there at any rate!
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    I'd review all areas of your life... there may be other areas with which you are not satisfied and are just "acting out" with your studies. Remind yourself of your achievements and what you are capable of. I'd certainly reach out to a counselor if need be.... you can't let your studies suffer because you are working through an issue. Try and use this situation as a way to get intuned with whats going on with you, and it needn't be a negative.
    Use it as a positive.... get with it!
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    Try to keep the distractions away and set rewards for yourself if you finish something. I used to do that in college and it helped a lot. Like I would keep a small piece of chocolate that I would only eat if I finished a chapter or time for TV/games if am done by that time.
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI'd review all areas of your life... there may be other areas with which you are not satisfied and are just "acting out" with your studies. Remind yourself of your achievements and what you are capable of. I'd certainly reach out to a counselor if need be.... you can't let your studies suffer because you are working through an issue. Try and use this situation as a way to get intuned with whats going on with you, and it needn't be a negative.
    Use it as a positive.... get with it!


    Hmm, I wonder.. this answer seems to make sense to me, its surprising... im usually not at all the type to not "be with it".. I am actually very sensitive to everything that is going on.. but its possible, in which case Im repressing something very pressing (lol)
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:23 PM GMT
    I had exactly the same problem with ecology a few months ago. I LOVE studying biology but during the first year you have to do a little bit of about pretty much everything and I just couldn't get motivated to learn ecology.
    I'd say there's pretty much no (nice) way to create motivation.
    Hopefully you'll get over the low, if not you just have to work the stuff through...
  • alphatop

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    Feb 24, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    Take a year off, travel....do things you've never done before...change the point of view....and the answers will come to you.
  • Cygnus

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    Feb 24, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    Have you thought of doing meditation?

    Might seem like a little left field, but sometimes it helps to stop and smell the roses (so to speak).

    You might be getting a little burned out and just need a little bit of a mental break during your day. You mentioned that you enjoy the items you study, my gut says that even too much of a good thing can be draining.

    Many people have a hard time meditating and allowing their minds to calm down. Today, we are in information overload as a society and don't get the cycles of older generations in our daily lives. Whether it be a slower stream of information or just slowing down for the winter. Today, we get news updates on our phones 24x7 of activities happening half way around the world.

    Here is a wild idea, try unplugging for 24 hrs and see what happens. No phone, no internet, especially no studying. Consider it a mental health day. You can hang out in the sun, go do an activity, etc, but limit information coming in.

    I would be curious if you allow yourself and your mind to have a moment of rest.

    I don't get the feeling that you are in " the world is coming to an end" etc type mode, just burned out... and out of balance with having down time...

    Hope this helps...
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:48 PM GMT
    So you used to like science? Try better living through chemistry. Have your doctor put you on Ritalin and a SSRI 'till you feel better.
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    Feb 24, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidSo you used to like science? Try better living through chemistry. Have your doctor put you on Ritalin and a SSRI 'till you feel better.


    That's crap. If he's gonna use drugs, I recommend magic mushroomsicon_eek.gif
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    Feb 24, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    Whenever you think you " I can't.", think back 3,4 or however many times you feel like, "I can!!!" That's what I do, it's how I've gotten so far despite all the voices that say I can't, both inside and from others.

    Another thing that helps is studying with someone who has the same intent as you. By yourself, your intentions may not be enough to give birth to action but with another person, I feel like it's easier start and to keep going.

    Meditation is also a good one. It doesn't have to be as drastic as an entire day, just 3-5 minutes is good for me. Just time to really breathe and release my mind from constantly juggling everything we have to think about in every given second.
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    Feb 24, 2012 6:59 PM GMT
    It's environmental despair. College students and recent grads are bombarded daily with news and punditry about a failing economy, a for-profit university system that leaves most grads financially underwater and emotionally resentful, talk of "The Lost Generation," and incredibly grim job prospects. Maybe you're fearing an uncertain future -- something that daunts me daily and doesn't exactly gird my resolve.

    I'd worry if this social malaise wasn't getting to you.
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    Feb 24, 2012 7:19 PM GMT
    How long have you been a student? Could it be a little burn-out, perhaps?

    If not that, then maybe some other facet of your life is out-of-whack and affecting your studies.
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    Feb 24, 2012 8:04 PM GMT
    Elusium saidIt's environmental despair. College students and recent grads are bombarded daily with news and punditry about a failing economy, a for-profit university system that leaves most grads financially underwater and emotionally resentful, talk of "The Lost Generation," and incredibly grim job prospects. Maybe you're fearing an uncertain future -- something that daunts me daily and doesn't exactly gird my resolve.

    I'd worry if this social malaise wasn't getting to you.


    This is also a good point I had not thought about.. thanks
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    Feb 24, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidSo you used to like science? Try better living through chemistry. Have your doctor put you on Ritalin and a SSRI 'till you feel better.


    Used to? How used to? Im STILL doing science
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    Feb 24, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    Cygnus saidHave you thought of doing meditation?


    Thanks, i do that every day actually.. and Ive tried taking a day off as well, took the whole winter break off.. but cheers! Appreciate your time !
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    Feb 24, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    u need ritalin or adderall...

    you'll be a super star
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    Apr 02, 2012 6:12 PM GMT
    I'm in the same funk right now. I have so much on my mind and I find it incredibly hard to focus on animal physiology or child/adolescent developmental psychology, both of which I have tests in in the next two days.

    I'm working through some things and feeling a ton of difficult emotions, and sometimes I don't believe I'm going to be able to make myself do the things I know I have to (or want to) do like study, work, keep up my house, etc.... it really bothers me that I can't seem to stay on top of things.

    Thanks for posting this. Even though you don't have answers, reading your post helped me calm down.

    Feel free to message me about this or whatever.

    Sending good thoughts your way!

    -Matt
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    Apr 02, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    Take a break from whatever major things are ruling your life at moment for an undetermined amount of time. As long as it's not long enough to make you totally out of whack with it once you get back into the groove. Give yourself a break for feeling this way too. It's only human. Kick ass at life; indulge in the steam room, sleep all day on weekends. Kick ass at having fun too. ...hey, that may be what's missing. An Epic badass motherfuuking time with friends!?1/