How can I help my (not so) anonymous (anymore) friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?

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    Feb 25, 2012 7:00 AM GMT
    He doesn't want to... Bl.. I mean He doesn't know what he's missing. He says he's waiting for the one but I can see that Bla I mean, he envies my slutty lifestyle.
  • HollywoodHist...

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    Feb 25, 2012 7:14 AM GMT
    Seriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.
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    mlitsonata saidSeriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.


    NOT the right answer, we're supposed to bring him to the dark slutty side. You were supposed to list all the benefits of being promiscuous. tsk tsk
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    Feb 25, 2012 7:39 AM GMT
    You have no respect for your friend.

    :-(
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    Feb 25, 2012 10:04 AM GMT
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    mlitsonata saidSeriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.


    NOT the right answer, we're supposed to bring him to the dark slutty side. You were supposed to list all the benefits of being promiscuous. tsk tsk


    OH trust me, he'll get to that dark slutty side ALL on his own, just needs that first dick icon_smile.gif But let it be a good one!
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    mlitsonata saidSeriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.


    NOT the right answer, we're supposed to bring him to the dark slutty side. You were supposed to list all the benefits of being promiscuous. tsk tsk
    you dont have any responsibility to bring anyone to any side. Let him choose and walk down his own chosen side.
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    Come to the dark side... ...we have virgins!










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    Hypnotico said
    mlitsonata saidSeriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.


    NOT the right answer, we're supposed to bring him to the dark slutty side. You were supposed to list all the benefits of being promiscuous. tsk tsk
    you dont have any responsibility to bring anyone to any side. Let him choose and walk down his own chosen side.


    NOOOOOOOO I just wanna cure him of the shameful ailment known as virginity and you guys are not helping, he won't lose his shameful virginity with this kind of advice, guys. THANK YOU VERY MUCH... NAWT! icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 26, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    How can I help my anonymous friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?

    First, out of curiosity, why is your friend anonymous? You mean to us here?

    Many cultures create this mystique about the "first time," which no doubt is tied to straight sex where a woman experiences a permanent and observable change in her body. But gay men ain't women, so that part doesn't apply.

    And too many expectations and tensions have ruined many a straight wedding night, or whenever that first time was. It's a moment to remember, for sure, but putting too much weight on it will weigh you down.

    So I'll just tell you what I did: went online and found a guy, barely 3 weeks after I came out. I just wanted to experience gay sex, see how I liked it. My only real fears were this guy would discover I was a novice, because I made it sound online I was a veteran, afraid he'd reject me otherwise. I know some guys value virgins, but he didn't sound like he wanted that.

    Plus I was afraid I was using this to test my decision that I was gay. If I freaked I wasn't. But I had already decided I was happier being gay, my proper place in life, and so I tried to put the test idea out of my mind.

    We only did blowjobs, but it was the most intense sexual experience of my entire life (and still is). If it was a test then I passed with flying colors. And he even complimented my "technique" (WHAT technique? I was making it up), and had me over a few more times, until he moved away.

    My anal cherry waited a few more years, because I wasn't sure I wanted to do that. But eventually I planned for my deflowering, selecting a guy not for affection, but for his tiny and harmless dick. Some guys wait for love, I just waited for practicality. Love I found later.
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    Feb 26, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidHow can I help my anonymous friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?

    First, out of curiosity, why is your friend anonymous? You mean to us here?

    Many cultures create this mystique about the "first time," which no doubt is tied to straight sex where a woman experiences a permanent and observable change in her body. But gay men ain't women, so that part doesn't apply.

    And too many expectations and tensions have ruined many a straight wedding night, or whenever that first time was. It's a moment to remember, for sure, but putting too much weight on it will weigh you down.

    So I'll just tell you what I did: went online and found a guy, barely 3 weeks after I came out. I just wanted to experience gay sex, see how I liked it. My only real fears were this guy would discover I was a novice, because I made it sound online I was a veteran, afraid he'd reject me otherwise. I know some guys value virgins, but he didn't sound like he wanted that.

    Plus I was afraid I was using this to test my decision that I was gay. If I freaked I wasn't. But I had already decided I was happier being gay, and so I tried to put the test idea out of my mind.

    We only did blowjobs, but it was the most intense sexual experience of my entire life (and still is). If it was a test then I passed with flying colors. And he even complimented my "technique" (WHAT technique? I was making it up) and had me over a few more times, until he moved away.

    My anal cherry waited a few more years, because I wasn't sure I wanted to do that. But eventually I planned for my deflowering, selecting a guy not for affection, but for his tiny and harmless dick. Some guys wait for love, I just waited for practicality. Love I found later.


    My friend is on here on RJ but he doesn't want me to name him because he is very embarrassed (understandably so) of being a disgusting virgin. I don't even remember the name of the guy I lost my virginity to and that's the best way to do it but he doesn't wanna listen to me!! icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 26, 2012 10:48 PM GMT
    [quote]But let it be a good one![/quote]

    If it's not a good experience, he may end up quitting the gay lifestyle and become straight icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 26, 2012 10:54 PM GMT
    Hypnotico saidMy friend is on here on RJ but he doesn't want me to name him because he is very embarrassed (understandably so) of being a disgusting virgin. I don't even remember the name of the guy I lost my virginity to and that's the best way to do it but he doesn't wanna listen to me!! icon_neutral.gif

    Tell your friend that a virgin is not "disgusting". Being a virgin is just a moment in your life, as is the moment when you're NOT a virgin anymore. I was a gay virgin at 45 - now THAT'S closer to disgusting.

    And I'm hoping that you're advising him about safe sex, whenever the happy event happens. And that your own slutty lifestyle that he admires is also safe.

    I never saw it really as being slutty, though I did joke about it. I equated sluttiness with success. Many men also equals many choices, many opportunities to find the right guy who makes you stop being slutty. At least it was with me.

    I got the sluttiness out of my system, had that experience, so that when the right guy came along, I was ready to settle down and be content with just him. And frankly, having "sampled" many guys made me more confident in my choice with him.

    So that I'm a proponent of (safe) sluttiness. It's just test driving as many cars as you can before you buy one. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:06 PM GMT
    I still think this is wrong. You don't have to marry the guy or anything, this has nothing at all to do with a wedding bed. The guy I lost my virginity too last a few months. But I did feel some love for him, we cared about each other and most of all I trusted him. When you go into any situation in life with no expectations and just enjoy the moment and what is happening - it is really worth something.

    I think he should be looking for a relationship of sorts, even a short term one and preferrably with another virgin - and the sex will naturally come with that. Because then you are exploring each other and learning together. This is how it was with me and it was the best ever and I wouldn't change a thing. NO only do I remember the guys name, but I remember absolutely everything we did a decade later - I could write it all out like a novel. Later guys I was with were equally as good but on a different level and hook-ups that I've had? Never worth it. NEVER. Half the time they are akward, no emotion (which is so not sexy) and just a big dissapointment.

    Let him just enjoy himself. Seriously. You are ruining this for him.
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:17 PM GMT
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    Art_Deco saidHow can I help my anonymous friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?

    First, out of curiosity, why is your friend anonymous? You mean to us here?

    Many cultures create this mystique about the "first time," which no doubt is tied to straight sex where a woman experiences a permanent and observable change in her body. But gay men ain't women, so that part doesn't apply.

    And too many expectations and tensions have ruined many a straight wedding night, or whenever that first time was. It's a moment to remember, for sure, but putting too much weight on it will weigh you down.

    So I'll just tell you what I did: went online and found a guy, barely 3 weeks after I came out. I just wanted to experience gay sex, see how I liked it. My only real fears were this guy would discover I was a novice, because I made it sound online I was a veteran, afraid he'd reject me otherwise. I know some guys value virgins, but he didn't sound like he wanted that.

    Plus I was afraid I was using this to test my decision that I was gay. If I freaked I wasn't. But I had already decided I was happier being gay, and so I tried to put the test idea out of my mind.

    We only did blowjobs, but it was the most intense sexual experience of my entire life (and still is). If it was a test then I passed with flying colors. And he even complimented my "technique" (WHAT technique? I was making it up) and had me over a few more times, until he moved away.

    My anal cherry waited a few more years, because I wasn't sure I wanted to do that. But eventually I planned for my deflowering, selecting a guy not for affection, but for his tiny and harmless dick. Some guys wait for love, I just waited for practicality. Love I found later.


    My friend is on here on RJ but he doesn't want me to name him because he is very embarrassed (understandably so) of being a disgusting virgin. I don't even remember the name of the guy I lost my virginity to and that's the best way to do it but he doesn't wanna listen to me!! icon_neutral.gif



    UGHHHH HYPNO!!!!! I am NOT anonymous nor am I embarrassed....I just don't wanna give up my virginity like that! Just because YOU give yourself out like a free sample at the grocery store doesn't mean I wanna do the same!!!!
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    Hypnotico said
    Art_Deco saidHow can I help my anonymous friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?

    First, out of curiosity, why is your friend anonymous? You mean to us here?

    Many cultures create this mystique about the "first time," which no doubt is tied to straight sex where a woman experiences a permanent and observable change in her body. But gay men ain't women, so that part doesn't apply.

    And too many expectations and tensions have ruined many a straight wedding night, or whenever that first time was. It's a moment to remember, for sure, but putting too much weight on it will weigh you down.

    So I'll just tell you what I did: went online and found a guy, barely 3 weeks after I came out. I just wanted to experience gay sex, see how I liked it. My only real fears were this guy would discover I was a novice, because I made it sound online I was a veteran, afraid he'd reject me otherwise. I know some guys value virgins, but he didn't sound like he wanted that.

    Plus I was afraid I was using this to test my decision that I was gay. If I freaked I wasn't. But I had already decided I was happier being gay, and so I tried to put the test idea out of my mind.

    We only did blowjobs, but it was the most intense sexual experience of my entire life (and still is). If it was a test then I passed with flying colors. And he even complimented my "technique" (WHAT technique? I was making it up) and had me over a few more times, until he moved away.

    My anal cherry waited a few more years, because I wasn't sure I wanted to do that. But eventually I planned for my deflowering, selecting a guy not for affection, but for his tiny and harmless dick. Some guys wait for love, I just waited for practicality. Love I found later.


    My friend is on here on RJ but he doesn't want me to name him because he is very embarrassed (understandably so) of being a disgusting virgin. I don't even remember the name of the guy I lost my virginity to and that's the best way to do it but he doesn't wanna listen to me!! icon_neutral.gif



    UGHHHH HYPNO!!!!! I am NOT anonymous nor am I embarrassed....I just don't wanna give up my virginity like that! Just because YOU give yourself out like a free sample at the grocery store doesn't mean I wanna do the same!!!!


    You've told me that you cry yourself to sleep because you're a virgin and now you say you're not embarrassed icon_lol.gif . Please just grow up! Will ya? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    mlitsonata saidI still think this is wrong. You don't have to marry the guy or anything, this has nothing at all to do with a wedding bed. The guy I lost my virginity too last a few months. But I did feel some love for him, we cared about each other and most of all I trusted him. When you go into any situation in life with no expectations and just enjoy the moment and what is happening - it is really worth something.

    I think he should be looking for a relationship of sorts, even a short term one and preferrably with another virgin - and the sex will naturally come with that. Because then you are exploring each other and learning together. This is how it was with me and it was the best ever and I wouldn't change a thing. NO only do I remember the guys name, but I remember absolutely everything we did a decade later - I could write it all out like a novel. Later guys I was with were equally as good but on a different level and hook-ups that I've had? Never worth it. NEVER. Half the time they are akward, no emotion (which is so not sexy) and just a big dissapointment.

    Let him just enjoy himself. Seriously. You are ruining this for him.


    I've had many hook-ups and they were very pleasurable and enjoyable, so my friend could experience the same feelings like I do when I hook up with a stranger.
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:29 PM GMT
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    Hypnotico said
    Art_Deco saidHow can I help my anonymous friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?




    UGHHHH HYPNO!!!!! I am NOT anonymous nor am I embarrassed....I just don't wanna give up my virginity like that! Just because YOU give yourself out like a free sample at the grocery store doesn't mean I wanna do the same!!!!


    (sssshhhh,, I think Hypno secretly wants you!)
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    BlackCat90 said
    Hypnotico said
    Art_Deco saidHow can I help my anonymous friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?

    First, out of curiosity, why is your friend anonymous? You mean to us here?

    Many cultures create this mystique about the "first time," which no doubt is tied to straight sex where a woman experiences a permanent and observable change in her body. But gay men ain't women, so that part doesn't apply.

    And too many expectations and tensions have ruined many a straight wedding night, or whenever that first time was. It's a moment to remember, for sure, but putting too much weight on it will weigh you down.

    So I'll just tell you what I did: went online and found a guy, barely 3 weeks after I came out. I just wanted to experience gay sex, see how I liked it. My only real fears were this guy would discover I was a novice, because I made it sound online I was a veteran, afraid he'd reject me otherwise. I know some guys value virgins, but he didn't sound like he wanted that.

    Plus I was afraid I was using this to test my decision that I was gay. If I freaked I wasn't. But I had already decided I was happier being gay, and so I tried to put the test idea out of my mind.

    We only did blowjobs, but it was the most intense sexual experience of my entire life (and still is). If it was a test then I passed with flying colors. And he even complimented my "technique" (WHAT technique? I was making it up) and had me over a few more times, until he moved away.

    My anal cherry waited a few more years, because I wasn't sure I wanted to do that. But eventually I planned for my deflowering, selecting a guy not for affection, but for his tiny and harmless dick. Some guys wait for love, I just waited for practicality. Love I found later.


    My friend is on here on RJ but he doesn't want me to name him because he is very embarrassed (understandably so) of being a disgusting virgin. I don't even remember the name of the guy I lost my virginity to and that's the best way to do it but he doesn't wanna listen to me!! icon_neutral.gif



    UGHHHH HYPNO!!!!! I am NOT anonymous nor am I embarrassed....I just don't wanna give up my virginity like that! Just because YOU give yourself out like a free sample at the grocery store doesn't mean I wanna do the same!!!!


    You've told me that you cry yourself to sleep because you're a virgin and now you say you're not embarrassed icon_lol.gif . Please just grow up! Will ya? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


    icon_lol.gif You lying tramp! When have I ever said some shit like that? It's obvious that AARP member you slept with a few days ago rubbed some of his Alzheimer's off on you because you are clearly delusional!!
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:35 PM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    mlitsonata saidI still think this is wrong. You don't have to marry the guy or anything, this has nothing at all to do with a wedding bed. The guy I lost my virginity too last a few months. But I did feel some love for him, we cared about each other and most of all I trusted him. When you go into any situation in life with no expectations and just enjoy the moment and what is happening - it is really worth something.

    I think he should be looking for a relationship of sorts, even a short term one and preferrably with another virgin - and the sex will naturally come with that. Because then you are exploring each other and learning together. This is how it was with me and it was the best ever and I wouldn't change a thing. NO only do I remember the guys name, but I remember absolutely everything we did a decade later - I could write it all out like a novel. Later guys I was with were equally as good but on a different level and hook-ups that I've had? Never worth it. NEVER. Half the time they are akward, no emotion (which is so not sexy) and just a big dissapointment.

    Let him just enjoy himself. Seriously. You are ruining this for him.


    I've had many hook-ups and they were very pleasurable and enjoyable, so my friend could experience the same feelings like I do when I hook up with a stranger.


    Sure, physically they are pleasurable and enjoyable - hell it's sex - of course it is! But it's better, a LOT better (at least for me and maybe for BlackCat too) when there is some emotional feeling in it as well - even if it's not love, but just something as simple as caring about the person. Have you had that yet? I hope so.
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    BlackCat90 said
    Hypnotico said
    Art_Deco saidHow can I help my anonymous friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?




    UGHHHH HYPNO!!!!! I am NOT anonymous nor am I embarrassed....I just don't wanna give up my virginity like that! Just because YOU give yourself out like a free sample at the grocery store doesn't mean I wanna do the same!!!!


    (sssshhhh,, I think Hypno secretly wants you!)


    We're both bottoms, I don't like BC90 like that.
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 said
    Hypnotico said
    BlackCat90 said
    Hypnotico said
    Art_Deco saidHow can I help my anonymous friend in losing the disgusting stigma that is virginity?

    First, out of curiosity, why is your friend anonymous? You mean to us here?

    Many cultures create this mystique about the "first time," which no doubt is tied to straight sex where a woman experiences a permanent and observable change in her body. But gay men ain't women, so that part doesn't apply.

    And too many expectations and tensions have ruined many a straight wedding night, or whenever that first time was. It's a moment to remember, for sure, but putting too much weight on it will weigh you down.

    So I'll just tell you what I did: went online and found a guy, barely 3 weeks after I came out. I just wanted to experience gay sex, see how I liked it. My only real fears were this guy would discover I was a novice, because I made it sound online I was a veteran, afraid he'd reject me otherwise. I know some guys value virgins, but he didn't sound like he wanted that.

    Plus I was afraid I was using this to test my decision that I was gay. If I freaked I wasn't. But I had already decided I was happier being gay, and so I tried to put the test idea out of my mind.

    We only did blowjobs, but it was the most intense sexual experience of my entire life (and still is). If it was a test then I passed with flying colors. And he even complimented my "technique" (WHAT technique? I was making it up) and had me over a few more times, until he moved away.

    My anal cherry waited a few more years, because I wasn't sure I wanted to do that. But eventually I planned for my deflowering, selecting a guy not for affection, but for his tiny and harmless dick. Some guys wait for love, I just waited for practicality. Love I found later.


    My friend is on here on RJ but he doesn't want me to name him because he is very embarrassed (understandably so) of being a disgusting virgin. I don't even remember the name of the guy I lost my virginity to and that's the best way to do it but he doesn't wanna listen to me!! icon_neutral.gif



    UGHHHH HYPNO!!!!! I am NOT anonymous nor am I embarrassed....I just don't wanna give up my virginity like that! Just because YOU give yourself out like a free sample at the grocery store doesn't mean I wanna do the same!!!!


    You've told me that you cry yourself to sleep because you're a virgin and now you say you're not embarrassed icon_lol.gif . Please just grow up! Will ya? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


    icon_lol.gif You lying tramp! When have I ever said some shit like that? It's obvious that AARP member you slept with a few days ago rubbed some of his Alzheimer's off on you because you are clearly delusional!!


    It was just oral, I didn't sleep with him, it was basically a handshake. You wish you were slutty as me! I feel very bad for you, BC90, I'll pray for you. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:40 PM GMT
    mlitsonata saidSeriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.


    Dont think thats true for everyone though.. I certainly would not recommend waiting for someone special haha.. because then when you meet that special someone you suck at it lol icon_smile.gif
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    mlitsonata saidSeriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.


    Dont think thats true for everyone though.. I certainly would not recommend waiting for someone special haha.. because then when you meet that special someone you suck at it lol icon_smile.gif


    THANK YOU! Sluts have more fun! icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 26, 2012 11:43 PM GMT
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    mlitsonata saidSeriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.


    Dont think thats true for everyone though.. I certainly would not recommend waiting for someone special haha.. because then when you meet that special someone you suck at it lol icon_smile.gif


    I was awesome and so was he!! lol. Or so we thought - neither of us knew what the hell we were doing so who could tell icon_smile.gif But we had a good time.

    And you're right, might not be like that for everyone. Just wishing it could be. icon_smile.gif
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    mlitsonata saidSeriously, I think you should leave your friend alone, lol. I lost my virginity to someone that really meant something to me and I wouldn't take that back for the world. I got slutty after that for a while, lol, but it was great to have that meaningful experience the first time. He's doing the right thing.


    Dont think thats true for everyone though.. I certainly would not recommend waiting for someone special haha.. because then when you meet that special someone you suck at it lol icon_smile.gif


    THANK YOU! Sluts have more fun! icon_lol.gif


    Whatever....I respect your whorish behavior and you'll just have to respect my pure behavior icon_lol.gif deal with it biatch! icon_lol.gif