Mother fucker came inside of me (broken condom)

  • Dbrad3693

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    Feb 27, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    Im mad as hell and have too vent
    Went to go meet a buddy of mine.... all is good right?
    I asked him to put on a condom ( safe sex icon_smile.gif )
    During intercourse it got intense and condom broke.... He of course climaxed
    while inside................
    What the fuck do i do??? Do you think im ok?
  • Timbales

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    Feb 27, 2012 2:12 AM GMT
    Contact your doctor about getting emergency HIV treatment and STD screening
  • HollywoodHist...

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    Feb 27, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    Dbrad3693 saidIm mad as hell and have too vent
    Went to go meet a buddy of mine.... all is good right?
    I asked him to put on a condom ( safe sex icon_smile.gif )
    During intercourse it got intense and condom broke.... He of course climaxed
    while inside................
    What the fuck do i do??? Do you think im ok?



    Crap icon_confused.gif Get tested now and every couple of months, always best to know. Ask him when he was last tested, how often and the results. Normally I wouldn't ask a friend this unless he brought it up but now it's your business too. But don't assume the worst and stress yourself out - not good for you either.

    I'm curious for others reading - as a top have you ever had one break on you? It's never happened to me and I'm not sure if you can really feel the difference or not. I'm assuming you can but then I really can't feel the difference between using a condom and going bareback (only done that a couple of times with a long term partner).
  • HollywoodHist...

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    Feb 27, 2012 2:16 AM GMT
    Timbales saidContact your doctor about getting emergency HIV treatment and STD screening


    Oh, what he said - better answer than mine.
  • Trepeat

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    Feb 27, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    If you`re crazy worried, you can try that initial-exposure HIV prevention thing. If nothing else, it will at least give the feeling that you`re not powerless to do anything at this point. Afterwards, screen yourself for all the routine STDs and STIs, then prepare yourself emotionally and psychologically for three months of doubt and anxiety. Don`t forget to remind yourself consistently that in all likelihood, you`re probably totally fine, but better safe than sorry.
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    Feb 27, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    I'm curious for others reading - as a top have you ever had one break on you? It's never happened to me and I'm not sure if you can really feel the difference or not. I'm assuming you can but then I really can't feel the difference between using a condom and going bareback (only done that a couple of times with a long term partner).[/quote]

    Just once but that was just as I put it on. Ive been curious about this too. I mean so many straights say this all the time and really after a great deal of experience only 1 broken condom for me in over 20 years.
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    Feb 27, 2012 6:23 AM GMT
    It never fails to bewilder me how we as gay men have so much negative speculation about other gay men when it comes to sex. The responses were naive and reeked of phobias/stereotypes about gay men being AIDS infested whores. I'm absolutely appalled. I'm FURIOUS. Even as someone who is negative.

    All the guy said was he had sex with a buddy and the condom broke and he came. He doesn't mention the other guy's HIV status, doesn't mention his sexual habits...hell, he could be a married man who fucks this guy on the side.

    How can we garnish the respect from others when we treat our own-selves in contempt and view 'fuck buddies' as tainted specimens? And rarely bother discussing status until after the fact.

    HIV is not an easy virus to catch. Any HIV counselor will advise you of that. There's also less chance that the 1st exposure to the virus will lead you to contracting it. Again, that's IF you even were exposed to it.

    PEP is not casually given out. Unless they see a legitimate cause for you taking it (as in, the guy is positive 100%), they probably will just tell you to come back for a test in 3 months.

    True, I'm being a bit optimistic about the outcome, but there's not enough info in this thread to sway me into thinking the worse case scenario.
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    Feb 27, 2012 6:31 AM GMT
    Shouldn't they give PEP to everyone just in case?

    It's important to understand that PEP is not for continued at-risk behavior, such as repeated unprotected sex. PEP shouldn't be seen as as HIV control or prevention, just as the morning after pill for pregnancy shouldn't be seen as birth control. PEP does not prevent HIV; it only decreases the likelihood of infection after exposure. The best way to prevent HIV is to prevent exposure. PEP is administered on a case-by-case basis and only if exposure was in the determined window, in some cases 36 hours.


    http://gaylife.about.com/od/hivaid1/a/postexposurepep.htm


    ...which means you might not even be administered to you.
  • HollywoodHist...

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    Feb 27, 2012 6:56 AM GMT
    TallJock saidIt never fails to bewilder me how we as gay men have so much negative speculation about other gay men when it comes to sex. The responses were naive and reeked of phobias/stereotypes about gay men being AIDS infested whores. I'm absolutely appalled. I'm FURIOUS. Even as someone who is negative.

    All the guy said was he had sex with a buddy and the condom broke and he came. He doesn't mention the other guy's HIV status, doesn't mention his sexual habits...hell, he could be a married man who fucks this guy on the side.

    How can we garnish the respect from others when we treat our own-selves in contempt and view 'fuck buddies' as tainted specimens? And rarely bother discussing status until after the fact.

    HIV is not an easy virus to catch. Any HIV counselor will advise you of that. There's also less chance that the 1st exposure to the virus will lead you to contracting it. Again, that's IF you even were exposed to it.

    PEP is not casually given out. Unless they see a legitimate cause for you taking it (as in, the guy is positive 100%), they probably will just tell you to come back for a test in 3 months.

    True, I'm being a bit optimistic about the outcome, but there's not enough info in this thread to sway me into thinking the worse case scenario.


    Ummmm, what?? Who the hell said anything about anyone being a whore?? Because cautious about disease has nothing to do with it, I've known plenty of guys that hardly ever slept around that got HIV and AIDS. I'm pretty sure the general concensus here was pretty normal - don't let it stress you out but get tested just in case. Of course, most likely he's fine but he needs to know the score. And "as any HIV counselor will advise you" WHERE A FRIGGIN CONDOM!
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    Feb 27, 2012 9:59 AM GMT
    I don't think anyone assumes that most gay guys have HIV. It's just considering the possible outcome, it's better to be overly safe. If one in 1000 concussions caused some kind of spinal damage that could be improved if going to the doc immediately, I'd go to the doc after falling off a bike. No offense to bikes.

    Keep calm, Dbrad. Anger and worry don't accomplish anything but make you feel bad. Take care of yourself promptly, prioritize an appointment and try to think of how dumb you'd feel later on finding out all those bad feelings were for a false alarm.
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    Feb 27, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    Well I guess the real question is how sexually active is your bud and does he always use a condom. Does he screw guys left and right? Not saying you should take it at face value but it might help relax you knowing he is normally careful.

    I guess the only way you'll really feel better about all this is go to a doctor.
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    Feb 27, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    Get PEP as soon as you can. Its not that easy to get HIV and the chances are there you are fine.

    Its understandable to be upset, but its a mistake and it all honesty- this is part of the risk every one of us in this world takes when having sex. gay or straight.

    If hes a friedn of yours, surely you trust him and he knows hes neg? Does he bareback with others?

    get PEP and the chances are you will be okay.

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    Feb 27, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    mlitsonata saidI'm curious for others reading - as a top have you ever had one break on you?


    Never.

    I know people says it happens but i always wonder how that managed to happen. From all I've read they don't break easily unless 1) very old and badly stored 2) using oil based lube on latex ones 3) little or no lube 4) fucking while pnp where it is used for an extended period of time with the lube long having dried out.
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    Feb 29, 2012 5:48 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
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    Ummmm, what?? Who the hell said anything about anyone being a whore?? Because cautious about disease has nothing to do with it, I've known plenty of guys that hardly ever slept around that got HIV and AIDS.


    TallJock is overreacting due to the sensitive nature of his own profession. If you don't understand feel free to click this link.

    Honestly, I think his response to this thread was so out of control.

    Here....



    Thanks for putting more money into my pocket. I can always use more word of mouth.

    Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!

    Even an escort can be negative, disease free but too bad I can't say the same about you who is positive. Shit, what I stated has absolutely nothing to do with you posting a link. I just stated the facts, if anything you should be thanking me because I could say mother fuckers like YOU are the ones spreading the shit with your nasty ass. Be posting on craigslist with your ass wide open talking about breed you, you want a Black cock to cum in your ass. Keep on trying to "out" me...it's only doing me justice. I don't give a fuck.

    I personally don't see what kind of gratification you can possibly get out of posting a link to a site outside of this forum. Like what? And why are you even LOOKING at rentboy.com? You wanna become a rentboy? You hiring hoes? Let me show you the ropes! Don't be jealous, envious and hate on me just because you WISH you could be like me. All you're doing is exposing your own habits (which is jerking off to rentboys because you're too cheap to afford one). Because obviously we're not competition, so what the fuck is it?

    Like I said, keep posting links. You're only doing me a favor.
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    Feb 29, 2012 7:00 AM GMT
    TallJock saidAIDZ.
  • HollywoodHist...

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    Feb 29, 2012 10:06 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    TallJock said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    mlitsonata said

    Ummmm, what?? Who the hell said anything about anyone being a whore?? Because cautious about disease has nothing to do with it, I've known plenty of guys that hardly ever slept around that got HIV and AIDS.


    TallJock is overreacting due to the sensitive nature of his own profession. If you don't understand feel free to click this link.

    Honestly, I think his response to this thread was so out of control.

    Here....



    Thanks for putting more money into my pocket. I can always use more word of mouth.

    Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!

    Even an escort can be negative, disease free but too bad I can't say the same about you who is positive. Shit, what I stated has absolutely nothing to do with you posting a link. I just stated the facts, if anything you should be thanking me because I could say mother fuckers like YOU are the ones spreading the shit with your nasty ass. Be posting on craigslist with your ass wide open talking about breed you, you want a Black cock to cum in your ass. Keep on trying to "out" me...it's only doing me justice. I don't give a fuck.

    I personally don't see what kind of gratification you can possibly get out of posting a link to a site outside of this forum. Like what? And why are you even LOOKING at rentboy.com? You wanna become a rentboy? You hiring hoes? Let me show you the ropes! Don't be jealous, envious and hate on me just because you WISH you could be like me. All you're doing is exposing your own habits (which is jerking off to rentboys because you're too cheap to afford one). Because obviously we're not competition, so what the fuck is it?

    Like I said, keep posting links. You're only doing me a favor.


    Dang, you are fucking retarded. I only posted that to show how your overreaction to basically no one using the term "whore" only applied to you because of your own insecurity with what you do as a side profession. You somehow conjured up the use of that word in this thread. No one is calling anyone names. But you certainly are. Maybe I shouldn't have posted your ad but I only did so to explain your bizarre reaction to this thread.

    You are the archetype of someone who is narcissistic and acutely-overly defensive, deluding yourself into thinking that other members are attacking you directly. You are not on the same wavelength as many others here. Your interpretation of what is being said in the threads is way off base. Even with my posting on this thread, not once did I subjugate you, nor did I call yo names. I simply said your contribution to this thread was out of control. I think you should talk to a counselor. All you do is moan and bitch in every thread and you sound like a victim all the time.

    And for the record, I don't wish to be anything like you and I don't jerk off to renboys on rentboy.com. I jerk off to videos on xtube.com. icon_twisted.gif You are one of the whiniest angry real jock members on this site. I should probably just block you, I believe it's long overdue. And not once did I infer or suggest that you were positive and spreading disease. And I don't go hooking up casually and use craigslist like you inferred. You don't know anything about my sexual habits. You inferring that I'm spreading HIV is not the same as you being overly sensitive because you decided to be an escort and your ad in online for the whole world to see. There's nothing wrong with being an escort. But I think in your mind you believe there is. Hence, your overblown initial reaction to this thread.


    Agree agree agree. So weird this guy. Some people actually scare me, how they read things that aren't there. I've seen it with a few guys on RJ. Seriously delusional. Glad most of the guys are great though.
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    Feb 29, 2012 12:12 PM GMT
    TallJock saidThanks for putting more money into my pocket. I can always use more word of mouth.

    Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!

    Even an escort can be negative, disease free but too bad I can't say the same about you who is positive. Shit, what I stated has absolutely nothing to do with you posting a link. I just stated the facts, if anything you should be thanking me because I could say mother fuckers like YOU are the ones spreading the shit with your nasty ass. Be posting on craigslist with your ass wide open talking about breed you, you want a Black cock to cum in your ass. Keep on trying to "out" me...it's only doing me justice. I don't give a fuck.

    I personally don't see what kind of gratification you can possibly get out of posting a link to a site outside of this forum. Like what? And why are you even LOOKING at rentboy.com? You wanna become a rentboy? You hiring hoes? Let me show you the ropes! Don't be jealous, envious and hate on me just because you WISH you could be like me. All you're doing is exposing your own habits (which is jerking off to rentboys because you're too cheap to afford one). Because obviously we're not competition, so what the fuck is it?

    Like I said, keep posting links. You're only doing me a favor.


    Love that winning attitude!

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    Feb 29, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    I don't think it really matters how sexually active he is. He could fuck 100 guys a year safe and be fine. He could fuck 2 unsafe and get aids.

    I'd get on that post exposure shit. But it is too late now really you need to do it in first 24 hours.

    Don't let guys cum in you even with condom on ever again....they can blow on your chest.
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    Feb 29, 2012 3:10 PM GMT
    mlitsonata said Some people actually scare me, how they read things that aren't there. I've seen it with a few guys on RJ. Seriously delusional. Glad most of the guys are great though.

    They are more like seriously uneducated in this matter and only read into whatever feeds into their worst fears coupled with the inability not to be able to see the complete picture. And when this is pointed out they almost always come back and post a tirade of how knowledgeable they are on the topic and 'you dont know me' ..blah blah... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 05, 2012 1:35 PM GMT
    I don't know what the "procedure" is in the USA, but in South Africa, with one of the highest HIV + rates in the world, the authorities have basically drilled the message into our brains that if you are exposed to someone's semen or blood, you should immediately go to your hospital/doctor/gay-friendly clinic and ASK for PEP. The doctor will then advise you on your risk and prescribe PEP or not.

    We are to assume that everyone we have sex with could be HIV+, even in monogamous relationships. We know that that just is not true, and some will call it overkill, but the message behind it is that we must always practice safer sex. If that doesn't happen, for whatever reason, it is best to minimise the chances of seroconverting by going on a course of PEP.

    I hope you went to see your doctor, and that everything is fine. Like someone said before me, HIV is not easy to contract, so the chances that you were infected are in your favor. Just be safe and take care of that beautiful body you've been building so successfully.
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    Mar 30, 2012 1:01 PM GMT
    lmfao at "TallJock".

    He used to be that whiney bitch "Fit4fit4funinDenver" or something, whining about how all his "dates" would stand him up or otherwise fuck with him. Maybe his johns decided not to have anything to do with him upon meeting and seeing what an unpleasant guy he is.

    Interesting to note that he now identifies as "mixed" where he used to identify as black.

    Not that there is really anything wrong with that if he is indeed mixed... but for someone bitching about CL ads with bottoms wanting to be stuffed with "black cock"...

    yeah, whatever man. You are gonna be a LULZcow for sure.