Do you avoid the gay scene ? such as bars,clubs, etc . Or do u go from time to time ? what do u love and hate about the gay scene ?

  • MarcBodybuild...

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    Feb 27, 2012 3:01 PM GMT
    Do you avoid the gay scene ?

    Answer : Not really , just depends i either go to bars and clubs with friends , dates, but it does have its up and downs....i'll tell u what it is in a secicon_wink.gif


    Do u go often ?

    Answer : nah only when there is a great reason to be there mainly dating a hot guy, hanging out with friends, but going alone nah ( ur asking for trouble if u go alone especially on friday nights when most of the people are already drunk when u get there and drama is starting on the streets lol )icon_lol.gif


    What i love about the gay scene ? met a lot of hot and nice gay guys, lesbians, drag queens, porn stars, and most of all i can enjoy socializing with new peeps, enjoy being flirted on , flirt back,yada yada. " Meet new hot and cute fresh gay guys recently came out of their closet hehehehe "


    What i hate about the gay scene :

    1. when gay guys get drunk it gets ugly, they would b*tch at you for no appearant reason , or just because ur with a hot guy

    2. drama ( especially at the bars, clubs ) HOLY SH*T! it's friday people lets have fun !!! stop with the drama


    3. People hating on you because u won't make out or flirt back ( i dont kiss people im not into )

    4. some guys can't accept the word no means no and gets upset


    5. when u have a bf that u bring in a club or bar, they would try to flirt with him even they know he is taken


    6. drunk gay guys ( who would make a scene , that would make u go " HOLY SHI*T " )




  • wellwell

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    Feb 27, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    Yes, avoid them almost completely !

    Greatest disappointment/s:

    shallow people / drunk Ppl who don't understand "No Thank You" !
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    Feb 27, 2012 5:18 PM GMT
    Have you ever been to a straight bar or club? Seriously, it's not much different. There's drama, there's crying, there's alcohol-induced bad behavior. Gays don't have a monopoly on that stuff.
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    Feb 27, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    Not very often. I'll go to a place called Revolver in Weho on karaoke night and sometimes I'll go just to watch this gogo boy with the most amazing abs. Revolver is super busy but it has this back area with a pool table and most importantly a door so you don't have to fight your way through all the men to exit.
  • XxXxXxAZNxXxX...

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    Feb 27, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    I think in the "gay scene," most guys are looking for one thing only icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 27, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    I go out, but wish gay bars were more normal. The musics too much, many of the places are tacky, and it's not really my scene. Fortunately, I live in Chicago which has two great gay sports bars and some nice gay restaurants and bars.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 27, 2012 5:34 PM GMT
    Here in Phoenix, not even sure if there really is a "gay scene" so pretty easy to avoid. When in L.A., I always enjoy a fun night out and about with friends in the gay scene. It's fun in moderation.
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    Feb 27, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    ...probably 3 times a year, with friends for a special occasion.
  • BuckeyeJock13

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    Feb 27, 2012 6:02 PM GMT
    I'll go now and then, but the bars are just not my scene. I'd be most likely in a sports bar if anything. It's nice to go out and catch up with friends now and then. It's also nice to do other things with friends that doesnt revolve around drinking and the bars. I don't feel the need to be seen to feel relevant.
  • ATXnative

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    Feb 27, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    I just do whatever I want. Cause i don't give a fuck.

    All gay activites are what you make of them.

    Judging them isnt the way to have fun at them.
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    Feb 27, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    Yeah, I sort of avoid it, mainly because the bars are choked with cigarette smoke. I drive down St. Anne at least once a week though, right past the Bourbon pub and Oz.

    Like I said, I drive through maybe once a week

    I guess in the back of my mind i know that eventually i'll have to find some sort of inroads into the scene or something scene-adjacent if I'm ever going to find a boyfriend.

    What I hate is being treated like a piece of meat. People can be very deceptive and deception is something that I'm not always very good at picking up on. Translation: its easy to take advantage of me.
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    Feb 27, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    FannyBandit saidI just do whatever I want. Cause i don't give a fuck.

    All gay activites are what you make of them.

    Judging them isnt the way to have fun at them.


    You rock.
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    Feb 27, 2012 9:03 PM GMT
    I'm gay and cause scenes...

    It can't be avoided...
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    Feb 27, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    I love gay clubs/bars because there's a great party atmosphere and people actually dance ! You also meet some incredibly interesting people.

    The thing I hate most about the gay scene are the stuck up younger pricks with their overly nasty fake tan, designer label misfires and nasty bitchy faces.

    I never EVER go to them to hookup, too many creeps just looking for a one nighter. Prefer to get my guys from straight clubs usually. There you encounter a different kind of gay and bisexual/curious guys.
  • stevendust

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    Feb 27, 2012 9:09 PM GMT
    They're fine from time to time, but I get the feeling that people get to know one another a little too well in certain scenes. I'd rather my life not be broadcast via gossip.
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    Feb 28, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    Love the gay scene from time to time.....esp in New York, something for everyone icon_wink.gif
  • nvaguy69

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    Feb 28, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
    MarcBodybuilding saidDo you avoid the gay scene ?

    Answer : Not really , just depends i either go to bars and clubs with friends , dates, but it does have its up and downs....i'll tell u what it is in a secicon_wink.gif


    Do u go often ?

    Answer : nah only when there is a great reason to be there mainly dating a hot guy, hanging out with friends, but going alone nah ( ur asking for trouble if u go alone especially on friday nights when most of the people are already drunk when u get there and drama is starting on the streets lol )icon_lol.gif


    What i love about the gay scene ? met a lot of hot and nice gay guys, lesbians, drag queens, porn stars, and most of all i can enjoy socializing with new peeps, enjoy being flirted on , flirt back,yada yada. " Meet new hot and cute fresh gay guys recently came out of their closet hehehehe "


    What i hate about the gay scene :

    1. when gay guys get drunk it gets ugly, they would b*tch at you for no appearant reason , or just because ur with a hot guy

    2. drama ( especially at the bars, clubs ) HOLY SH*T! it's friday people lets have fun !!! stop with the drama


    3. People hating on you because u won't make out or flirt back ( i dont kiss people im not into )

    4. some guys can't accept the word no means no and gets upset


    5. when u have a bf that u bring in a club or bar, they would try to flirt with him even they know he is taken


    6. drunk gay guys ( who would make a scene , that would make u go " HOLY SHI*T " )






    Avoid it...
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    Feb 28, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    Rarely, these days. BF is not into it at all and while he is fine with me going out with friends to dance or what-have-you, I'd rather do the kind of stuff we can do together, which anymore is hang out with a small circle of mutual friends or our families.

    I'm past the clubbing shelf-life, I think, anyway, and on the rare occasion that I do go, I feel invisible. Not worth the time or $.
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    Feb 28, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I went to a gay club only one time in my life. Not going back
  • He_Man

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    Feb 28, 2012 1:15 AM GMT

    I go out a couple of times a month, but I live here in Fort Lauderdale, so there are a lot of gay bars, each with their own theme, I guess. You have Bills for the bear crowd, Matty's and Alibi for pretty much anyone, Ramrod for the levi-leather crowd and The Manor for the club and party crowd. I'm sure I'm leaving a couple out.

    They're all fun in moderation. I have friends who go out every night, but I don't see how that could be fun after awhile.

    I'm pretty affectionate, so going out to gay clubs is nice for a change because I can kiss or hold the hand of my date and not worry about what the Heteros are thinking. I can feel at home in a gay club or bar, whereas in a regular club, I feel like I have to hide my sexuality.
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    Feb 28, 2012 1:21 AM GMT
    Do I avoid the gay scene?*

    Up to not too long ago I sort of did. It was a mixture of my own insecurities and the fact that I don't like places where the music is so loud you leave with your ears ringing and your voice hoarse. I've been to gay dance clubs a handful of times though. Nowadays I don't mind frequenting gay bars when I'm with friends. I've never been alone though.

    *Are you equating the gay scene with just clubs and bars or other gay-oriented activities? I belong to other gay-oriented groups that meet out of the club scene.

    Do I go often?

    Gay bars once every few months, gay-oriented social groups more like once a month.

    What I love about the gay scene?

    Being surrounded by guys just like me and being open about my life is nice in a world where gays often have to either hide or abbreviate who they are.

    What I hate about the gay scene?

    I don't know about you (and maybe it's because I went to the wrong clubs or am too old icon_rolleyes.gif but the few times I've been to bona fide gay dance clubs I felt sort of invisible!
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    Feb 28, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    Never any more. I used to go a little bit when I was 20-22 but I never really liked it. I didn't like the music, I didn't like the attitudes, I didn't like the drama, I didn't like the bizarrely acceptable inappropriate touching (people thought I was an asshole because I didn't like them grabbing my butt... well, I don't know who raised them, but that's not acceptable behavior)... I could go on.

    It's not a good fit for me. So I haven't been back since. And I haven't missed it one bit. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 28, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    Rarely anymore.

    Hate the superficiality and attitude.
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    Feb 28, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    MarcBodybuilding said

    What i hate about the gay scene :

    1. when gay guys get drunk it gets ugly, they would b*tch at you for no appearant reason , or just because ur with a hot guy

    2. drama ( especially at the bars, clubs ) HOLY SH*T! it's friday people lets have fun !!! stop with the drama


    3. People hating on you because u won't make out or flirt back ( i dont kiss people im not into )

    4. some guys can't accept the word no means no and gets upset


    5. when u have a bf that u bring in a club or bar, they would try to flirt with him even they know he is taken


    6. drunk gay guys ( who would make a scene , that would make u go " HOLY SHI*T " )


    Clearly, you have never been to a "straight scene" either.
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    Feb 28, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    A definite no. Hate the gay scene with a passion and I avoid it to the fullest extend. I have more fun in bars with my gay friends than I ever did at a gay bar. Sorry plus I have met too many Fems (sorry if that offends) and not to mention the drama. Haha.