Texting graphic nude shots

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    Feb 28, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    Here's the deal

    Am I one of the few gay guys who finds it a turn off when you meet a guy or exchange phone numbers and they text nude sometimes graphic new shots of themself before an actual date, phone conversation, or sex.

    I like any red blooded male likes to throw down in the bedroom when it's appropriate, healthy, and right, but what's up with guys who seem to have forgotten their manners.

    I had a guy tonight text me 5 different shots of his erection. I met the guy this wekeend. We had decent conversation for a hour when we initially met. There was hardly any conversations on sex, yet ole boy decided to go nuclear with sex pics tonight by phone. This was after he asked me to hang out with him and a family member this weekend.

    My response was " did you mom take those pics?" I totally lost interest.

    Typically I don't post on message board, but a little baffled by this behavior that seems to becoming the norm by all demographics.

    Maybe it's my Southern background, military, or whatever. I'm liberal mostly, so it's not that I'm incapable of understanding new things

    Am I the one that doesn't get it?
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    Feb 28, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    I don't get it either. Maybe if it's just a one time hook up, then yeah I can understand. But if you're actually trying to pursue something more serious, then that just seems a little odd. No judgment on those guys that do. But I like to get to know a guy before I really get to know him. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 28, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    From your description him sending you those photos seems uncalled for and kind of bizarre but I'm very far from being an authority on dating protocol. I have a phone that cannot get photos so that solves that for me!
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    Feb 28, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
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    Feb 28, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said


    Cool story, brah
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    Feb 28, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    NCSportsMuscle saidCool story, brah



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    Feb 28, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    y u no like pic of my butthole???
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    Feb 28, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    The exact same thing happened to me last Tuesday on Mardi Gras day. Met this incredibly hot guy and we made plans to meet up the next day. The moment I left him my phone started blowing up. He must have sent a dozen different pics of himself, some G rated but most of them nudes. After the first couple of pics, I just stopped responding. The next day he said he got the feeling I was flaking on him, so I was just honest and informed him that he had just taken all the mystery away for me.
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    Feb 28, 2012 5:41 AM GMT
    Anduru saidy u no like pic of my butthole???

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    Feb 28, 2012 5:58 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    NCSportsMuscle saidCool story, brah



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    Someone needs attention tonight.

    Someone throw a bone ( pun intended) her way.
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    Feb 28, 2012 6:08 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said. After the first couple of pics, I just stopped responding. The next day he said he got the feeling I was flaking on him, so I was just honest and informed him that he had just taken all the mystery away for me.


    ECHO this.

    Almost completely way this played out. He asserted I was weak for being turned off. Yes, exact words. . I got long rants about how loyal, cool, and a catch this was.

    Those things my be accurate. It's a matter of maturity. Leave some imagination or boundaries for bedroom if it comes or to that.

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    Feb 28, 2012 6:11 AM GMT
    NCSportsMuscle saidSomeone needs attention tonight.

    It's all his fault because he doesn't flirt with me anymore! icon_cry.gif


    To be on topic, though. The nude pics wouldn't be deal breaker for me, unless I didn't like what I see. But if the guy is sending nude pics when there hasn't been any kind of sexually-related flirting, it might be that he's 'tone deaf' to your conversations, if that makes any sense. Possibly an indicator of other personality flaws.
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    Feb 28, 2012 7:23 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    NCSportsMuscle saidSomeone needs attention tonight.

    It's all his fault because he doesn't flirt with me anymore! icon_cry.gif


    To be on topic, though. The nude pics wouldn't be deal breaker for me, unless I didn't like what I see. But if the guy is sending nude pics when there hasn't been any kind of sexually-related flirting, it might be that he's 'tone deaf' to your conversations, if that makes any sense. Possibly an indicator of other personality flaws.



    Good and fair points - on all.

    Tone deaf wasn't contributing issue, I think.

    It seems to possibly more a characteristic of guys here in charlotte. I am semi new here. I've lived in Toronto, Atlanta, and travel a lot so kind of know what's up.

    Anyway, I appreciate the above insight...
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    Feb 28, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    I'd be a little turned off by the act. I mean seriously, you just met this dude and already he's blowing up your phone with nude pic of his cock. Not cool. Not classy. He just made his intentions very clear with that act.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 28, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    You never know where those pics are going to end up......if pics like that are sent and things turn sour with the other guy.. the result might be embarassing!
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    Feb 28, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    Total turn off for me ... and in my case, my personal phone is provided by my company, so the photos are definitely not appreciated for that reason.
  • GQjock

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    Feb 28, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    It's all contextual I guess

    If you've been flirting with someone online a nude shot might be okay
    But the second reply after hello shouldn't be a crotch shot with your foreskin pulled back dudes.....

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    Feb 28, 2012 2:12 PM GMT
    It seems like many gay guys are overly influenced by elderly female relatives in regard to their attitudes about things. What turns me off are guys that refer to sex or the human body as dirty. I don't think you should be offended or ashamed of your junk . You were born that way....naked. And talk about being picky..... Geeezz.

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    Feb 28, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
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    Feb 28, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    This is why you get a Google Voice number and give that out to new/strange men!

    Google Voice texting doesn't allow photo texting, so they can't ask you for bad photos and can't send without your knowing.

    Problem solved, except for his urge to send such photos in the first place.
  • Laurence

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    Feb 28, 2012 2:25 PM GMT
    At least the guy showed what a skank he was early on - before you invested too much time in him.

    The time it takes a guy to send unsolicited nude shots is probably a good indicator of his character.

    Loz
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    Feb 28, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    Hmmm... this is a good one


    If this was a guy I was really interested in dating/seeing then I would be a little put off by his behavior. Call me old fashion, but I really do want to get to know someone before I "KNOW" someone. I agree, half the sexual attraction is not knowing what a guy looks like under his clothes. I want to be the person removing each article of clothing from him as I get to know him.

    If he just strips down and bares it all, then the fun and excitement is gone for me. For me, imagining what a guy looks like without his shirt on, or just in a pair of boxer briefs only adds to the excitement. If I see it "ALL" up front, then the chase is over and I loose interest!

  • Latenight30

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    Feb 28, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    It does leave little to the imagination. And when you want to develop a level of relationship... even a friendship, it takes it way to far.
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    Feb 28, 2012 2:32 PM GMT
    NCSportsMuscle said
    Scruffypup said. After the first couple of pics, I just stopped responding. The next day he said he got the feeling I was flaking on him, so I was just honest and informed him that he had just taken all the mystery away for me.


    ECHO this.

    Almost completely way this played out. He asserted I was weak for being turned off. Yes, exact words. . I got long rants about how loyal, cool, and a catch this was.

    Those things my be accurate. It's a matter of maturity. Leave some imagination or boundaries for bedroom if it comes or to that.




    +1.
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    Feb 28, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    It's like someone on RJ you don't know unlockng their private pictures without even saying hi. I block those suckers.