Don't know what to do

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    Feb 29, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    I am in a relationship with a man that I love more than anything.

    Any advice/thoughts or similar situations out there?

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    Feb 29, 2012 5:48 AM GMT
    It seems to me that you simply do not trust him anymore. It's difficult to be with someone you don't trust, but you should consider, does this mistrust come from a genuine doubt about his ability to be faithful or a personal insecurity and self doubt. It does seem odd to be on a dating/cruising site without telling you and lying to you about the porn was clearly a mistake, but I'd pay attention to his behavior and if he makes gestures to be open and honest then maybe you can feel you can trust him again. Unless you've seen other reasons to be worried. In my view, porn isn't a reason to be worried either.
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    Feb 29, 2012 5:57 AM GMT



    "On the flip side of the porno and cruising website, I love him so much. He is the best person I have ever met. We are not only lovers, but we are best friends and would do anything for each other."

    If so, and he would do anything for you, then it would seem to me he would also have fidelity, if that's what you need (which is fine) and because he would do anything for you.

    -Doug
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    Feb 29, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
    I know I'm being too possessive and controlling right nowmore frequently.

  • Feb 29, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    "The problem is, there is a gay website that he went to about 2 months ago. It is a gay dating site, and also where men find cruising sites and partners. He said he only went there out of curiosity to see who in his town had profiles on that website (where I used to live, we have been dating long-distance for the last 3 years while I'm in college).

    It seems like an excuse, if he wasn't caught would he ever tell you this? Seems very shady to me.

  • Feb 29, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    Sorry to go on about this but checking a cruising site "out of curiosity"? Even if it the case, what's going on on the back of his head?
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    Feb 29, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    i think you should stop wasting your life making sock accounts and writing really long fictitious posts
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    Mar 01, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    Zaneinthewoods said
    It seemsnow.