People "forgetting" you're gay

  • Musicman91

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    Mar 02, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    Has this ever happened to you? People always say things like "That's so gay!" or "What a fag!" quickly followed by an "OMG I'm sorry I totally forgot you're gay!" icon_neutral.gif


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    Mar 02, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    Only when I forget to wear my Tiara.icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 02, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    Nah, but I don't live in Scranton.
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    Mar 02, 2012 3:37 PM GMT
    MusicMan91 saidHas this ever happened to you? People always say things like "That's so gay!" or "What a fag!" quickly followed by an "OMG I'm sorry I totally forgot you're gay!"


    I had something similar when I was maybe 10? or so at the local park where some friends were having a yelling contest with the word "kike". And I've got my "what the fuck do you think you're doing" face on when they look at me and apologized, saying that they forgot that I was Jewish. It never happened again. We are still friends today.

    I had a cousin who continued to say "that's so gay" even when I told her I found it offensive. She decided that I should not find it offensive, having become desensitized by her new agism and forgetting to respect her friends. That friendship is ended.

    Better your friends remember to respect you. What they temporarily forgot was to respect people but their respect for you reminds them. You brought them back to their senses.
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    Mar 02, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    this happens to me ALL THE TIME. I personally don't give a shit. When that happens I tell my friends to stop being faggots and worrying about it icon_razz.gif
  • Gamemage7

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    Mar 02, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
    People always forget that I'm gay. Hell, even my best friend of 16 years still forgets it.
    Well, everyone but my roommates. But that's because they know I bring my boyfriend over for sleep overs all the time. And they love the irony of the situation, that their gay roommate would the "straight man" of the cast if their lives were a tv show.
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    Mar 02, 2012 9:54 PM GMT
    Give people the power to bother, and they will. Allow someone to speak in way that is degrading in your own opinion, either they don't know you well enough; or they don't respect you for who you are. Either way, they don't matter much, let it go.
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
    Its happened to me a lot, It generally ends up being hilarious and we laugh about it for ever afterwards. One time we were playing a competitive drinking game, and one of my buddies got screwed and yelled "cocksucker!!" he then said "oh shit im sorry," but the funny thing was it my good friend a minute to figure it out and so we just ended up laughing so hard we were crying.

    It doesn't bother me in the slightest
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:27 PM GMT
    No. But my bestest "faghag" did tell me today that she has a huge homophobia for spiders....errrrrr icon_rolleyes.gif


    We laughed so hard- becuase I agreed when she said it... icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    No, but then again I probably say "he's SO gay" more often than any of my straight friends.

    When I say it I mean gay though. Not gay like dumb, but gay like gay.
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    Mar 02, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    It seems like a generational thing. I hear kids use the term gay=stupid, and I find it offensive. I don't take many things seriously, and can laugh at anything someone like Howard Stern dishes out, but the use of the term gay to equal something stupid is wrong.
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    Mar 03, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    I was helping a straight friend move a few weeks ago and said (concerning a table), "it looks like you can flip it upside down and put the legs up in the air." His knee-jerk reply, "that's what she said."

    Then we both laughed.
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    Mar 03, 2012 12:25 AM GMT
    SwimBIkeRun949 saidI was helping a straight friend move a few weeks ago and said (concerning a table), "it looks like you can flip it upside down and put the legs up in the air." His knee-jerk reply, "that's what she said."

    Then we both laughed.


    i have friends that do that to me CONSTANTLY. And i'm out to everyone, even the guys in the import tuner club (long story). I was talking to an ex-cop the other day and he commented saying a female friend of mine (who'd walked out of earshot) was a "MILF" which i had to ask what it was. He answered, saying "Mom I'd Like to Fuck". And I joked back that i didn't have "MILFs" that I had "DILFs" and he got it immediately and laughed, was totally cool with it even.
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    Mar 03, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidPeople forget or they don't believe it when I tell them I am.

    When that happens I am forced to give them a "demo" by resorting to salaciously lewd and inappropriate displays of sexual misconduct in public. icon_twisted.gif


    WURKS EVRY TYME!



    weird, all i had to do was "inspect" my fingernails, lol. apparently there's a "gay" way and a "straight"way to do it?
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    Mar 03, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    MusicMan91 saidHas this ever happened to you? People always say things like "That's so gay!" or "What a fag!" quickly followed by an "OMG I'm sorry I totally forgot you're gay!" icon_neutral.gif




    Yeah, I had someone yell, "Fag," at a driver who cut him off. I was in the passenger seat. I guess my look could have soured milk, 'cause I got a long, rambling apology.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    from time to time, last time I looked at the girl and said, "it's okay, sometimes I forget your a cunt". oddly enough, she didn't think it was nearly as funny as I did.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidPeople forget or they don't believe it when I tell them I am.

    When that happens I am forced to give them a "demo" by resorting to salaciously lewd and inappropriate displays of sexual misconduct in public. icon_twisted.gif


    WURKS EVRY TYME!


    Careful, if they expect you do that, and someone doesn't like you, they could use it as means of getting you fired for sexual misconduct. I'm sure someone is taking note of your actions. No bueno.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    I'd be content if my coworkers would stop referring to it as a "lifestyle choice."

    I'm numb to names.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    MusicMan91 saidHas this ever happened to you? People always say things like "That's so gay!" or "What a fag!" quickly followed by an "OMG I'm sorry I totally forgot you're gay!" icon_neutral.gif

    Not quite, but an interesting experience. I was waiting for my partner in a shopping mall restaurant at their bar, watching TV while he finished his Christmas shopping. I got talking with the guy next to me, who was likewise waiting for his wife. We mostly chatted sports and "guy stuff".

    Some news item about gay rights came up on another of the bar TVs, and he started bashing and cussing-out gays something terrible. I remained calm and just listened. Soon his wife arrived, and next my "friend" with introductions all around, and a little more small talk just long enough to allow my partner to enjoy a drink himself.

    When it was time to go I said in a voice loud enough for his wife and other bar patrons to hear: "Well, nice chatting with you, By the way, you should know you've been drinking with 2 gay guys who live together and sleep in the same bed. Have a Merry Christmas!"

    Outside my partner & I laughed all the way to our car and the whole way home. I considered the guy a lost cause anyway, so I figured I had nothing to lose by making him feel uncomfortable after what he said about gays to a perfect stranger. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    A lot of gay people say "that's so gay" and they mean both in the gay way and the lame way. Just like a lot of black people say "that's so ghetto" and they mean that in a black stereotypical way.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    Brownale saidA lot of gay people say "that's so gay" and they mean both in the gay way and the lame way. Just like a lot of black people say "that's so ghetto" and they mean that in a black stereotypical way.

    True, but the straights mostly mean it in the lame way, especially among school kids, whereas gays mean it more in a joking way. And most minority groups have their own examples of these distinctions concerning the same words & phrases, which depend upon the speaker and the intent.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    My mom forgets every single day almost, basically I think she's hoping it's a phase and I'll say one day that I'm gettin married to a girl and having a baby at the same time. I have an older brother not like I'm the only child.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    weird, all i had to do was "inspect" my fingernails, lol. apparently there's a "gay" way and a "straight"way to do it?[/quote]

    hahahahahaha i totally remember kids doing this in middle school lol.....trick question cuz apparently both ways are gay? hahahaha
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    You don't hear that saying so much here in New Orleans. It's too diverse a city to go saying shit like that here. Although I have heard tourists say it and it really takes me back when I hear it. I just kindly inform them that it's not a cool thing to say here. Usually people apologize their ass off afterwards, but a couple of months ago I had a girl just look at me and say "it's just a saying dude." I informed her that the latest thing was to say "that's so female." She just rolled her eyes and walked out.
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    Happens all the time