confused and need help

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    Mar 02, 2012 4:04 PM GMT
    Ive been meeting up with this guy and we been getting along perfectly, we like the same everything from music, games, sports, very sexually attracted to eachother i think, well i am to him, we have really long sex sessions, and can lay there just snuggled,

    but

    he keeps putting on his FB things like, "why am i single" "theres no guys around here" but that said and we still text and talk to eachother and meet up

    sometimes hed be sexual in his texts other times hed be mushy, then id be mushy but he would say im being too mushy lol,
    anyway is he just playing hot and cold, am i just not his type

    ive never been with a guy before just girls so im very confused and dont know what to do

    any help would be AWESOME
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    Mar 02, 2012 4:15 PM GMT

    "he keeps putting on his FB things like, "why am i single" "theres no guys around here"


    You could always send him a private FB message that says:

    "Just saw your FB post. You don't have to be single; you've got me." with a wink like this: *wink*


    OR

    "Just saw your why am I single post. I'm single too, and together we could do something about that.." with again, a wink.

    I feel this is a fine thing to say given the extent of your romantic connection with him.

    warmly,

    -Doug
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    Mar 02, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    I personally can't stand guys that play games like this. You are a very attractive man and it sounds like you're a pretty nice guy as well. You can do so so so much better and find someone who's willing to treat you the right way. It can be hard when it's your first time with a guy to let go of that, but I really think you should move on. If you do, and he happens to see that he's losing something great and wants to try, then you can give him another chance.
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    Mar 02, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    meninlove said "Just saw your why am I single post. I'm single too, and together we could do something about that.." with again, a wink.

    I feel this is a fine thing to say given the extent of your romantic connection with him.

    warmly,

    -Doug


    Out of the two, I prefer this suggestion!

    The fundamental thing with guys and dating that people (girls too) often completely forget is that guys don't understand subtle. You have to really spell it out.

    If you have been hanging out loads, like the same things, have a great sexual connection - but you've not had any serious talk about where things are going, he probably just assumes you're happy to be friends with benefits.

    If you are feeling that you want more, you're going to have to tell him! If he likes you as a friend and to have sex with but doesn't think he wants a relationship with you, then it's better to find out sooner too. Hopefully, he will realise that you are really into him and then perhaps you can progress from 'hanging out' to dating?

    Something really basic like "I really like spending time with you, I like you a lot and I think you're very sexy - do you feel the same about me?" Lay it on the line. Too many guys don't say what they feel and miss out. If you don't say anything then he could assume that YOU'RE the one who isn't really that into him - and if someone comes swooping in who is a bit more forward, you could end up losing him.

    Mail me if you want to chat more mate.
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    Mar 02, 2012 5:54 PM GMT
    I know the feeling. I went out with this guy for 3 months. He always referred to himself as single. The end for me came at Christmas. I bought him a christmas gift and he was like you didn't have to get me a gift I never really thought of us as dating. I'm like I come over here we go out to dinner, movies, stay in cuddle have sex. I came over twice to help you move into your new apartment and we aren't dating? What do the fuck you call it? I said I can't speak for you but I don't make out, kiss cuddle or have sex with friends. Maybe you don't even consider us that either. I left went home and removed his number from my iphone address book... next