It's all about looks

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    Mar 02, 2012 5:12 PM GMT
    It's pretty obvious that dating is all about looks. Do you think gay guys are pickier and emphasize too much on the physical aspect than personality?

    What about all the less attractive guys, what should they do icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 02, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    No.
    Dating is all about vibes.
    Hookups are about looks and vibes.
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    Mar 02, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    People actually come to like a face more the more times they see it. So, for less "attractive" people, join a club or something where people see you over and over. They will stop seeing your face, and see you.
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    Mar 02, 2012 6:08 PM GMT
    Looks will get an initial attraction and interest going as we cant read peoples minds and decipher character so we initially go by looks. It is difficult to get close and intimate to someone you are not attracted to. But for things bloom into something greater will depend on personality and compatibility.

    Kinda like a well written and targeted resume might get you a job interview. But whether you get the job or not will depend on the interview.

    now where is my prize for stating the obvious?! icon_evil.gif
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    i don't know why it's considered shallow to equate looks with personality on the dating scale. i don't care how much fun it is to be around you or how well you'd treat me if i'm not physically attracted to you. it's just like i wouldn't date a hot douche bag. if the guy you like doesn't find you attractive then you can either move on or create a thread about it here.
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    I have to agree, its sadly about looks. Pay attn to who gets asked out most or hit up the most, its never about the personality. And people make excuses for good looking people, where they don't for less attractive sorts. Both straight and gay culture are guilty of it and the media encourages it. It is why you see so many attractive single people even into their 40s and 50s. Too many are looking for the bigger, better deal.
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    Looks are very important.... it's a given. But, personality, humour and intelligence are also key for me. I cannot date a guy who doesn't have something about him too.

    Even for hook-ups, I tend to need more than a cute face and a hot body. There has tobe a strong connection there otherwise I'd rather give it a miss.
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    Meh, in terms of sexual attraction of course looks are a factor but they can be redundant very quickly if the guy is a) an arrogant a hole or b) not sexy.

    It's like Carrie said in Sex And The City "men that are too good looking are never good in bed because they never had to be". A generaliztion yes but also a good point.

    Some of the best sex I've had is with partners who were not drop dead gorgeous but they had this amazing sexual aura that blew my mind. After those experiences I know it's not all about looks when it comes down to 'sexy time'.
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    Handsome faces are for show, handsome personalities are for keeps.
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:32 PM GMT
    Uggos are gay.
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:38 PM GMT
    seanhex saidWhat about all the less attractive guys, what should they do icon_eek.gif


    They try everything within their means to become more attractive, as they should.
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:40 PM GMT
    My favorite ugly guy is CLAYSTATION.
  • Coug24_wyo

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    Mar 02, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    I hear ya man, my own experience in dating and the like have lead me to think its all about looks too. Having been once overweight seems to be a deal clincher, and or I'm just not meeting the right guys yet. I'm really hoping it's the latter because I often feel ugly and unable to find anyone with the current gay guys I'm meeting.

    GL OP for what it's worth I think your attractive and extremely so for your age! Any guy turning you down for looks is just probably looking for faults in everyone they meet!
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:51 PM GMT
    I did not ask the question because I feel ugly, as a matter of fact I have gotten a lot of compliments on here and in real life, but I am also guilty of judging others and not giving them and myself the chance.

    Also I have become very picky which is not good either. I have a lot of friends and I like them for who they are, many different cultures etc.. But when it comes to dating I find myself saying next. icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:52 PM GMT
    i disagree.. its def not all about looks
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    Mar 02, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    Haaretz saidMy favorite ugly guy is CLAYSTATION.


    *GASP!!!*
    (clutches pearls)
    icon_lol.gif!
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
    GreenHopper saidi disagree.. its def not all about looks


    Yeah, it's all about sex. It's everywhere. Even the most undeserving of it get it, spread and multiply the poor, ignorant, angry numbers.
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    graphicabc saidIt's pretty obvious that dating is all about looks. Do you think gay guys are pickier and emphasize too much on the physical aspect than personality?

    What about all the less attractive guys, what should they do icon_eek.gif


    They should adopt the habits of so called attractive guys, if they would like their attractions returned by other so called attractive guys. In most cases "unattractive" has more to do with the shape you keep your body in than your literal face being unpleasant.
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    graphicabc saidIt's pretty obvious that dating is all about looks. Do you think gay guys are pickier and emphasize too much on the physical aspect than personality?

    What about all the less attractive guys, what should they do icon_eek.gif


    plastic surgery
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Mar 03, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    Mutual attraction is healthy, smart, and requisite for longevity in a committed partnership. You can't put up with the ever expanding list of petty shit that emerges once the bloom is off the rose if you ultimately aren't physically attracted to someone.

    However, that is not sufficient reason to not run them over in the driveway (accidentally officer, truly!) the 10,000th time they leave the lid off the peanut butter. You have to have something deeper and complimentary, balance, trust, admiration, curiosity, respect, tenderness and spiritual commonality. You have to like the person as a person, and be able to think of them as the perfect witness to your life, and the person whose life you most want to witness and celebrate.

    Physical/sexual attraction and appeal are funky quirky things, and beauty is unique for each of us. We all have our d'ruthers, and if yours is "I'd'ruther be fucking someone else" then you're with the wrong guy. But if you can know him, love him in spite of his insanity, and still be able to objectify him and want to fuck him senseless and then cuddle him...you're not shallow, your damned lucky.

    Attraction is real, and feeling guilty about it is a waste.
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    It is about attraction and looks do matter somewhat to an extent but for me it is more about attraction.
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
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    ...I'm sorry what were we all talking about again?
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:34 AM GMT
    nah, I got so many comments on my luffy avatar!
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    Funny. I am as easily attracted the hottest body and pretty face as the next guy, but it's not a dealmaker for me. If I can't connect with the guy beyond, interests, history likes or dislikes, than I'm not going to be really into the guy. Unfortunately I have the esteemed honor of looking younger and appearing to be naive, so most guys act as if they're going to get right to home base with me right from the start. Oddly enough, I do nothing to make them keep this fantasy a reality the whole time I talk to them. Maybe, it's just cause they're so wound up in the importance of looks they forget I am more than my own looks. Heaven forbid a guy have a brain, heart and a body.
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    Mar 03, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidWell, he doesn't have to have model good looks from the neck up.

    But he better look DAYUM good in a pair of Speedos. icon_twisted.gif

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    That counts me out icon_sad.gif