Do you have family photos on display at home?

  • hyperionx

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    Mar 03, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    I've been visiting my family in Toronto lately, and they have an assortment of family photos ranging through an entire history, some which I wish my aunts would get rid of. Most of my straight friends have photos of their family at home as well.

    But most, if not all of the gay households I've been in, have none. Plenty of photos of friends, lots of art, photography, but almost no family pictures.

    I'm just curious if that's a theme, or if I'm just turning into a sentimental fool. Thoughts?
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    Mar 03, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    I don't have any. But if I went to my parents home they have them everywhere
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    Mar 03, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    I have lots of original antique family photos on display from the mid-nineteenth century through the fifties, with a sprinkling of contemporary photos thrown in so the place doesn't look like a mausoleum (says the member whose profile photo shows what appears to be funereal urns on his dresser). All my other relatives display only fairly recent photos but I feel that there are enough photos of them floating about (on Facebook alone!) whereas if I didn't put out those of my dead relatives they'd be forgotten. Guests are, surprisingly, always fascinated with them and ask who everyone in the old photos are, and real estate brokers who usually advise sellers to put away family photos to genericize spaces always told me to leave them out (presumably since they're more relatable). Of course, sometimes it backfires. I had a contractor work for me for months and when I asked him to be careful with an oval portrait of my grandmother as a child he said "You mean you're related to all these people? I thought you were some weirdo who collected photos of dead strangers!"
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    Mar 03, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    Good question.

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  • cookingitswee...

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    Mar 03, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    Nope
  • tazzari

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    Mar 03, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    All over the place!
  • commoncoll

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    Mar 03, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    People usually have pictures of their children. Most gay people don't have children. As you mentioned they will have pictures of friends, themselves, lovers, pets, etc. They may also not be close to their family.


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    Mar 03, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
    Maybe not so much a gay/str8 thing but a generational thing? Mom had a ton of pictures but limited hanging stuff to the walls of her home office and a few framed standing pictures here and there, not overdone at all, though in the office were collages including most all of her 60plus relatives.

    I have mostly just my immediate family plus grandparents as does my brother and his wife. The rest is on the computer or in photo albums I've yet to scan.

    My dad's place is ton of framed pictures on the walls of most rooms (I'm pretty sure that's his 3rd wife's doing) plus a digital frame plus what's on his puter.

    An older neighbor came by recently, saw the pic of my mom and wanted to see more so I got out an album. Flipping through the pages, turned the wrong one, ooops, my 1st partner mooning the camera, maybe that should go on the wall?

    Then she took me to her place--I was planting a tree for her--and inside her home the walls and piano were covered in pictures. A very goodlooking family. One of her son was stunning and I couldn't take my eyes off it. Sadly he committed suicide. Her husband looks at his photos all day long wondering how it is that he's living this nightmare.

    I think that's partly why I don't have a lot of pictures. I can't be reminded at every turn of so many who I've loved and lost.

    Here's the table at my front door, these are the only photos in the living room, my mother to the left and my grandmother to the right....

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    I've got others in the breakfast nook and in the hallway to the bedrooms. No more than that.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    Sure.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    Yeah, I do. Would seem a little odd to me if I didn't. It's not like I am ashamed to be related to them.
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    Mar 03, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    Yes. My sister has most of my immediate family, my grandmother keeps the rest.