came out to a friend

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    Mar 04, 2012 12:08 AM GMT
    i came out today to someone at work, shes not a close close friend but i trust her a lot, shes cool with it

    but why do i feel quite freaked out, like im quite butch but feel like crying i dont understand these feelings, and dont know what my mind is thinking, shes the first person ive told can someone help and give me advice :-)
  • TheBizMan

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    Mar 04, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    I think it's the finality of it all. You no longer have to pretend to be straight. You are out and it's final. No going back.

    At least that's the sort of awkwardness I felt initially after coming out.
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    Mar 04, 2012 2:02 AM GMT
    this is true, its like a tattoo i guess, now she knows i cant make her un know about it, im happy but i dunno, just hoping i made the right choice
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    Mar 04, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidi came out today to someone at work, shes not a close close friend but i trust her a lot, shes cool with it

    but why do i feel quite freaked out, like im quite butch but feel like crying i dont understand these feelings, and dont know what my mind is thinking, shes the first person ive told can someone help and give me advice :-)


    Congratulations!
    You're beginning your newly found path in freedom.
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    Mar 04, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    gymfreak1987 saidthis is true, its like a tattoo i guess, now she knows i cant make her un know about it, im happy but i dunno, just hoping i made the right choice


    You made the right choice.. be assured of that.

    edit: and by choice I mean decision to come out.
  • HollywoodHist...

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    Mar 04, 2012 2:17 AM GMT
    You made the right choice and congrats icon_smile.gif

    Some of those feelings have to do with the pressure being lifted a bit which coincides with a feeling of dread and uncertainty of the future. But the bad parts of these feelings usually go away pretty quick and you are just left with the feeling of freedom. It will get a little better each time you come out to people that you feel you are hiding something from.
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    Mar 04, 2012 2:47 AM GMT
    I wish I was brave enough to do something like that, congrats on it. The feelings you have are probably just worries in the back of your head thinking about the bad that could possibly come from it... again, congrats on being brave enough and true to yourself to do that.