What do you think about this situation?

  • MSF415

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    Mar 04, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    OK Online Friends, I need your opinion!

    I met this guy, and we've been on a couple of dates (dating for about three weeks, have known each other about a 5 weeks). The dates are awesome...great conversation, lots in common, and I'm attracted to him.

    We text back and forth during the week. On the first date, I told him I wanted to date him, he said he wanted to date me. We haven't kissed yet (awkward goodbye on first date, so on second date I ended it with a hug).

    Here's what's bothering me:

    1) I'm always the one initiating conversation.
    2) I'm planning all of the dates
    3) I don't feel like he sees dating me as a priority (for lack of a better term). Basically, a result of #1 and #2 above.

    I'm pretty new to dating (just your standard late 20 something Catholic who repressed his homosexuality in his younger years!).

    Am I just being impatient?
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    Mar 04, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    Well it is still very early so you probably should be patient.

    Take my bf for example, when we first met, I was always the one initiating the conversation because he's just really shy.

    Now that we are approaching our 9 months together, he's a bit more open about initiating the conversation because he knows me better and is not as shy.

    As far as planning goes, I usually do all the planning because he's just a horrible planner so I've just come to accept that I should plan most things lol.
  • MSF415

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    Mar 09, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
    Thanks! I appreciate the advice!

  • Mar 09, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    Uncertainty is part of the romance for inital dating, treasure it.
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    Mar 09, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    [[[[[Using a gentle librarian voice]]]]]


    Great! Give it some time. Relax. Let your relationship develop and grow. Don't force things to happen. Get to know and accept him for who he is. If the relationship grows, take it day by day; and nothing for granted. If you should fine YOU want to end it, do so respectfully.

    You're a handsome guy, you'll be fine ; )
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    Mar 09, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    mrpotatohunter saidUncertainty is part of the romance for inital dating, treasure it.


    Do you have another profile with pictures on it?

  • Mar 09, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    I am just an old hermit with bumpy warts all over me, a tongue that spits in halves, missing half a nose, and can only type with my single remaining bony finger, so I have no picture icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 09, 2012 3:53 AM GMT


    Am I just being impatient?[/quote]

    If you think you are working way harder than he is, then, he's not into it as much as you are.
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    Mar 09, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    It is way too early to make any assumptions, I would just go with the flow!
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    Mar 09, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    Maybe he is just a passive aggressive type and isn't good with coming up with good topic to talk about at first. Let him time to break out of his shell.
  • Makferson

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    Mar 12, 2012 9:14 AM GMT
    This is a typical pattern.one is slave and another is leading. You can emerge a strong relationship.