Why is it so hard to find guys to hook up with.

  • drewmal

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:01 AM GMT
    I hate random hookups but I do it very rarely when I really want NSA sex with a guy I don't know. Maybe 5 times in a year. I meet guys online but when we meet in person something happens and it doesn't work out maybe 30% of the time. Yes, my standards are sometimes too high and I don't want to go through with it. Yesterday I meet some guy and we don't connect and we both part ways. Today, I met some "straight" guy...he was so nervous and then when we finally meet he changes his mind and we part ways again.

    Ugh annoying!! Maybe I should just stop with craigslist.
  • BmwKid92

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:28 AM GMT
    the stright guy saw what you look like lame
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    Mar 05, 2012 8:01 AM GMT
    It happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Mar 05, 2012 8:35 AM GMT
    JT889 saidIt happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.


    survey says..#1 answer
    thread closed.
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    Mar 05, 2012 1:43 PM GMT
    scottd55 saidI hate random hookups but I do it very rarely when I really want NSA sex with a guy I don't know. Maybe 5 times in a year. I meet guys online but when we meet in person something happens and it doesn't work out maybe 40% of the time. Yesterday I meet some guy and we don't connect and we both part ways. Today, I met some "straight" guy...he was so nervous and then when we finally meet he changes his mind and we part ways again.

    Ugh annoying!! Maybe I should just stop with craigslist.


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    1 out of 10, you click with mutually

    2 out of 10, they look like their photos and find yourself attracted to

    9 out of 10, personality, looks etc didnt exactly meet their online profiles.

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 05, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    I wonder what the percentage would be to meet a Jeffrey Dahmer like character... maybe not a murderer, but someone who might want to cause one harm. Low percentage I would presume.
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    Mar 05, 2012 2:24 PM GMT
    JT889 saidIt happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.

    This.
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    i can't believe how judgmental people are - as if they are all perfect? look inside dudes
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    scottd55 saidI hate random hookups but I do it very rarely when I really want NSA sex with a guy I don't know. Maybe 5 times in a year. I meet guys online but when we meet in person something happens and it doesn't work out maybe 40% of the time. Yesterday I meet some guy and we don't connect and we both part ways. Today, I met some "straight" guy...he was so nervous and then when we finally meet he changes his mind and we part ways again.

    Ugh annoying!! Maybe I should just stop with craigslist.
    I'd stay away from first timers and 'straight' guys...have you tried adam4adam.com?
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    JT889 saidIt happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.


    Says the judgmental non-verified troll account with fake pictures.
  • ATXnative

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    Mar 05, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    Ive met my 2 hottest boyfriends from random ass hookups, just sayin.

    Ive had 4 random hookups in my life.
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    Haaretz said
    JT889 saidIt happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.


    Says the judgmental non-verified troll account with fake pictures.
    agreed
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    JT889 saidIt happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.


    Exactly this. And I don't trust people anyway, many of them are positive and won't even tell you. I will never risk my life for one night with someone I dont even care about.
  • ATXnative

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    Mar 05, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    Someguy89 said
    JT889 saidIt happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.


    Exactly this. And I don't trust people anyway, many of them are positive and won't even tell you. I will never risk my life for one night with someone I dont even care about.



    Do you even know what ways hiv is transmitted? Condoms are pretty much 100% effective. Unless your swallowing several loads and rubbing semen in your cuts... thats really not an issue here.
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    Then maybe i'm just a bit paranoid about it lol.. but it still won't make me change my mind. I just can't do it if there's no emotions between me and the person anyway
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    Mar 05, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    scottd55 said Maybe I should just stop with craigslist.

    This.
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    Mar 05, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    beachbum310 said
    Haaretz said
    JT889 saidIt happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.


    Says the judgmental non-verified troll account with fake pictures.
    agreed


    Haaretz said
    JT889 saidIt happens. Stop meeting up with random guys from the internet for hookups. Gross.


    Says the judgmental non-verified troll account with fake pictures.


    Looks like I offended losers who troll craigslist for hookups.
  • kayfish

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    Mar 05, 2012 4:21 PM GMT
    Ckfeezy said
    scottd55 said Maybe I should just stop with craigslist.

    This.


    don't hook up?
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    Mar 05, 2012 4:53 PM GMT
    Meeting up for coffee is like a job interview. FTS! ... A date or no dice.
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    Mar 05, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    Well by nature online hookups are shady and kinda gross, so i dont see why you are so surprised. You are meeting a stranger online for the purpose of a brief sexual encounter. The very description is a bit bizarre. So perhaps you have answered your own question? icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 05, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    Er... it's not difficult to find a rock on the beach. But if you only want a perfect agate, you may have to search for a while.

    That said, I notice that I only get those sporadic hook-up offers when I'm not looking for one. When I'm actually in the mood/location to consider it... nobody bothers me. I think there's something built into the software.
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    Mar 05, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    If you have a hard time finding a gay guy to hook up with, then I'm sorry: you're doing it wrong.
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    Mar 05, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    Larkin saidIf you have a hard time finding a gay guy to hook up with, then I'm sorry: you're doing it wrong.


    This. You shouldn't even have to try if you're really looking.
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    Mar 05, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    Hookups have their place, despite a surge of stereotypes, it has its benefits.

    How you go about it can better determine the outcomes. The more energy and effort you put forth, likely the better the rewards. Speaking for myself, I never hook up with someone that I haven't exchanged multiple photos, and haven't carried on a legible conversation. Often we start talking on and off for weeks before we meet. I usually have 2-3 guys at all time that I found to be a good fit, being consenting sane adult men, we can enjoy our bodies safely.


    It can be really exhausting, but they can be rewarding when done right (and safe.)

    Small rant,
    "bi-curious" dudes may be some of the hottest online/grindr etc dudes. However these same guys are often living a double life, lying to themselves and their girlfriends, often in denial enough that they don't consider themselves at risk for STDs and likely they have not gone to a doctor to get tested and subsequently may engage in higher risk behavior. This isn't an attack on stereotypes, just a remediation of common sense.

    Good luck.
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    Mar 05, 2012 6:23 PM GMT
    kayfish said
    Ckfeezy said
    scottd55 said Maybe I should just stop with craigslist.

    This.


    don't hook up?

    No, don't use Craigslist.