Girls Crushing On You

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:21 AM GMT
    Right now I'm having to deal with a 19 year old girl's 'crush' on me. Despite the fact that I've told her that we are just friends she keeps trying to kiss me when we go out and is sending me text messages all the time about spending more time together.

    All of my friends have told me that she is in love with me but I've been trying to ignore that despite the signs. I don't want to hurt her feelings but it's beginning to make me feel uncomfortable.

    Any other guys on here gone through a similar experience with female friends ?
  • BmwKid92

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:26 AM GMT
    whatever gets my dick wet
  • TheBizMan

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    Does she know you are gay/bi/not-straight? I suppose I should ask if you are out.
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    Mar 05, 2012 7:30 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidDoes she know you are gay/bi/not-straight? I suppose I should ask if you are out.


    This is the problem, I told her I'm bi so that's one reason why I think she's perusing it but I have no interest in sleeping with young girls. All my friends know my sexuality, been 'out' since my late teens.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:39 AM GMT
    Have you ever slept w a woman?? Sounds like you have zero desire to do so, I say tell her the only way you're hooking up with her is if she has a good looking brother and maybe maybe she can watch. That will give her a hint.icon_idea.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:40 AM GMT
    Tell her you aren't interested in younger girls then.
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    Mar 05, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidHave you ever slept w a woman?? Sounds like you have zero desire to do so, I say tell her the only way you're hooking up with her is if she has a good looking brother and maybe maybe she can watch. That will give her a hint.icon_idea.gif


    Ha I'm not a fan of 3somes and that scenario is all TOO creepy but cheers. Yes, I've fucked my fair share of women.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    whateveryo said
    MikemikeMike saidHave you ever slept w a woman?? Sounds like you have zero desire to do so, I say tell her the only way you're hooking up with her is if she has a good looking brother and maybe maybe she can watch. That will give her a hint.icon_idea.gif


    Ha I'm not a fan of 3somes and that scenario is all TOO creepy but cheers. Yes, I've fucked my fair share of women.


    I was joking. That would at least put her off.icon_lol.gif Sounds like you should just tell her that you are NOT into her sexually.
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    Mar 05, 2012 7:51 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidTell her you aren't interested in younger girls then.


    I kinda made it explicit to her when I told her that we are just friends. I don't want to knock her for her age because girls have enough issues with self confidence in their teens.
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    Mar 05, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    I get DISGUSTED when girls do this.....get away!!
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    Mar 05, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    She isn't tipsy when she does this is she?
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    Mar 05, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    The_Dollarwine saidShe isn't tipsy when she does this is she?


    A bit yeah because it's when we go out clubbing and some alcohol is obviously involved. The thing is it's happened a few times and she's looked at me with those puppy dog eyes after.

    She doesn't meet up with me sober and chase me round trying to stick her tongue my throat though ! LOL

    Personally I'm hoping it's just young naivety and it will go away. I'm meeting her this afternoon so will try and get it buried.

    No one else had any similar experiences ?
  • ATXnative

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    Mar 05, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    Obviously you need to tell the bitch to step off. That's youre fault for not telling her, "Sorry honey, you have the wrong part".
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    Mar 05, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    Yup. Had this happen to me before.

    And now, I have a son to prove it. icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 05, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    She isn't tipsy when she does this is she?
  • ATXnative

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    Mar 05, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    The_Dollarwine saidShe isn't tipsy when she does this is she?

    coughyoushouldreadalittlebeforepostingcough

    yeah.
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
    i get a lot of girls crushing on me, it makes me very uncomfortable =/ even if i tell them that im gay lol
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    "Crushing" doesn't happen in adults who are above the age of consent, so no.
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    I have had this happen to me...and usually talking will not make it go away. I have even made up stuff, to make me look like a bad person, hoping to remove the attraction. That doesn't work either, no matter what terrible thing I say, they follow with.."oh that's ok". Maybe she just thinks , that you are a very cute guy...you do have that effect on people ( like me , for instance). Maybe , she likes guys that are very well endowed.....lol Bottom line, it will continue, until you do something very drastic...to change her mind. But...even people who are abused , go back for more. And what about those women who go for convicted murderers, locked up in prison. Love is blind...and kinda creepy...when it's not mutual.
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    Mar 05, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    I get it from girls all the time, not really guys..What a topsy-turvy world icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 05, 2012 6:07 PM GMT
    It's all sorted now anyway. I sat her down and had a very frank talk with her about it. I didn't like making her cry but I had to make sure she knew how I felt.

    We smoked a nice joint after and laughed about it, best resolution I could have hoped for.

    KARATEKIDBut...even people who are abused , go back for more.


    You just described me in my early 20's, that's why I didn't wanna be so harsh about it, I remember what it was like to be that age.
  • neosyllogy

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    Mar 05, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    Can't you just tell her you're "gay".

    (Personally, I'm into pussy and cock, but I won't say I've never benefitted from letting someone know I'm into guys when they're into me. Hey, I didn't say I was only gay, but I'm not about to clarify either... icon_neutral.gif)
  • neosyllogy

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    Mar 05, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    Haaretz said"Crushing" doesn't happen in adults who are above the age of consent, so no.


    Soooooo not true.
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    Mar 05, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    neosyllogy saidCan't you just tell her you're "gay".

    (Personally, I'm into pussy and cock, but I won't say I've never benefitted from letting someone know I'm into guys when they're into me. Hey, I didn't say I was only gay, but I'm not about to clarify either... icon_neutral.gif)


    Read my 2nd response, my sexuality is addressed there buddy and the mistake I made in telling her.
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    Mar 05, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    tell her...that...her vagina has teeth and you would like to keep your penis attached.

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    Ok in all seriousness, if she keeps on pestering you and you keep being nice to her about the whole thing...I would recommend just flat out telling her she is too young for you. I know you don't want to hurt your feelings but maybe you need to a little to get her off your back.