Jealousy?

  • werdnandrew

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    Mar 05, 2012 7:43 AM GMT
    So I am dating this guy we have been on two dates together, (first to dinner, a movie, and dessert), (second to eat, and back at my place to watch movies). Today I am telling him about a platonic best friend of mine named Leslie (female), about how in high school we would convince our moms to take us to WALMART so we could "accidentally" run into each other. Well he said in a text "Leslie can also be a boys name", next text said "I'm not jealous though lol". Was he jealous? Something to be concerned about? I actually like it in a way and think if he is jealous than that means he actually might really like me, and want to take it the next step. Already this is going better than anything in the past relationship wise so should I look onward to the future or put some extra though into this?
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    Mar 05, 2012 7:49 AM GMT
    Well you could have texted him back saying that even of he wasn't jealous, you found it cute...

    Continue to have further dates and see how things are developing...In think by the fifth date the very least is that you should have the talk.

  • werdnandrew

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    Mar 05, 2012 8:29 AM GMT
    Yeah I didn't want to tell him I thought it was cute because I don't want him to get a big head and think he can be jealous about more serious things. Like if we decided to be boyfriends I wont be interested in anyone else. I am very serious and it takes a lot for me to fall out of love or even get tired of someone or a relationship. He had a talk with me that if we were dating and that started from the first official date that we would be exclusive and monogamous, unless established that that is not what I would want. I told him I want to be exclusive and monogamous. So I'm sure it will work out for the best i just want opinions about what people think I should do.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 05, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    It would probably be a "red flag" that I'd be aware of. Maybe not worth making much of a deal about it this time, but I'd be sensitive about a repeat involving something or someone else......
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    It's a good opportunity for you to be open regarding how you feel and see how he responds. It might be a little early to get into too heavy of a discussion on how he feels but it opens the door for that discussion soon. The more open you are about how each of you feels about others in your lives, the better you'll understand each other and feel free to share everything, avoiding the misunderstandings later.
  • ATXnative

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    Mar 05, 2012 3:29 PM GMT
    werdnandrew saidSo I am dating this guy we have been on two dates together, (first to dinner, a movie, and dessert), (second to eat, and back at my place to watch movies). Today I am telling him about a platonic best friend of mine named Leslie (female), about how in high school we would convince our moms to take us to WALMART so we could "accidentally" run into each other. Well he said in a text "Leslie can also be a boys name", next text said "I'm not jealous though lol". Was he jealous? Something to be concerned about? I actually like it in a way and think if he is jealous than that means he actually might really like me, and want to take it the next step. Already this is going better than anything in the past relationship wise so should I look onward to the future or put some extra though into this?


    it was a question over texts. I wouldnt be so quick to judge. Be happy that you have his attention, and dont be such a woman... wait till he gives you a legitimate reason to make some waves, one that you dont need validation to bring up.
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    Oh, thought you accidentally were going to say my name?

    Take this as "red flag" as HndsmKansan said. Don't get too worked up in too many details about the guy too soon. Get to know him. This could just be one of his quirks, and you may have to live with those if you're really adamant about dating him ; )
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    Mar 05, 2012 3:35 PM GMT
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    Mar 05, 2012 10:41 PM GMT
    Ugh! Texting and email leave so much context and meaning out of communication. Pick up the phone. Better yet, speak face to face (or at least via Skype video).
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    Mar 05, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
    Exactly what GAMRican said, talk about it if you're concerned about it.

    And I don' t think this is a "red flag". It could easily just be playful banter on his part. From what you said of your story about Leslie, I can't see why he'd be jealous anyway.
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    Mar 05, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
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