your ex was masculine but now?

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    Jul 07, 2008 10:41 AM GMT
    what would you think or feel, if you see your masculine/top ex-partner acting fem when he is with another guy. sad?confused?decieved? or nothing negative?
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    Jul 07, 2008 11:57 AM GMT
    I would be confused more if anything. Because that wasnt the same guy I was familiar with. Maybe he was just acting more masculine while he was with you.
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    Jul 07, 2008 1:56 PM GMT
    Is he acting that way a lot, or is it just one time and he is clowning around? If it is a lot I would think that he is one of those guys that is unsure of himself and takes on certain behaviours to fit in with a group of people. Similar to straight guys acting like homophobic, boorish jerks around other straight guys just to impress their friends.

    That sort of behaviour whether, it be masculine or feminine acting out, has always been a red flag for me. I am always attracted to people who are comfortable with themselves, not chameleons.
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    Jul 07, 2008 2:10 PM GMT
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    Seriously, I would be like "WTF?!?!?" Were you putting on a front with me?!?!? Just seriously confused!!!

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    Jul 07, 2008 2:23 PM GMT
    Sometime you gotta just go with the flow rounding out the other guys vibes.
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    Jul 07, 2008 2:28 PM GMT
    If he's your ex, what difference does it make?
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    Jul 07, 2008 2:45 PM GMT
    McGay saidIf he's your ex, what difference does it make?

    Ding! Ding! We have a winning answer.
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    Jul 07, 2008 2:54 PM GMT
    Well, from someone who kept a part of me hidden and pretended it didn't exist, I would consider the possibility that perhaps the person is actually more in touch with who he is than you give him credit. It might be that this is the real him and he's just now feeling comfortable (and free) to be that person and has torn down the walls that were foolishly built in fear of sharing his true identity. This might truly be his comfort zone.
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    Jul 07, 2008 3:24 PM GMT
    Its funny you bring this up. I actually just wrote a blog about the opposite last night.

    I am noticing a trend with the homos these days where everyone is trying to be uber masculine. People acting fake and such.

    Back to your comment, I think its strange, but if its an ex what can you really do. Sometimes you just have to let people do what they want to do.
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    Jul 07, 2008 3:29 PM GMT
    turk saidwhat would you think or feel, if you see your masculine/top ex-partner acting fem when he is with another guy. sad?confused?decieved? or nothing negative?





    He's letting his femme side show??? The utter gall! How dare he! Have you reported this to "The Femme Patrol"???? He MUST be stopped!!!!
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    Jul 07, 2008 3:29 PM GMT
    Key word here is EX

    I'm sure you had your reasons for ending it, that were hopefully worse than him being to fem or not.. maybe his new partner brings out that side of him you didn't.

    To say something now would be nothing more than drama.
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    Jul 07, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
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    Seriously, I would be like "WTF?!?!?" Were you putting on a front with me?!?!? Just seriously confused!!!



    Good Lord!

    turk - I could see as to why you'd be all Scooby-doo on this was one. But like McGay says, he's your ex. Does it really matter?
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    Jul 07, 2008 3:54 PM GMT
    It doesn't matter if a guy is straight or gay.....the uber masculinity is fake......masculinity is not only defined by how tough you look or how many curse words you can utter in one sentance.

    Guys who are just themselves ( and happen to be naturally masculine) can spot one of these ubers a mile away....

    As for your ex.....don't worry about him. He has a right to act however he wants to. As someone else here said, he may be in a better comfort zone and he is still the person you have come to know.
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    Jul 07, 2008 6:42 PM GMT
    EX Means EX?
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    Jul 07, 2008 7:48 PM GMT
    I wouldn't care. He's with someone else.

    turk saidwhat would you think or feel, if you see your masculine/top ex-partner acting fem when he is with another guy. sad?confused?decieved? or nothing negative?
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    Jul 07, 2008 9:23 PM GMT
    1. He's your ex so it doesn't really matter now, does it.

    2. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow, maybe that's the case here.

    3. Maybe he was just waking it all the time he was with you, ever notice any glitter or sequin robes?
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    Jul 07, 2008 11:40 PM GMT
    I was dating this guy once.. I was his first. He was a senior then, me, just out of high school. The typical football jock guy.. we dated for about 6 months, and the whole time we were together, he was very masculine. Now, haha.. totally flamming. He does drag sometimes, he knows everyone at the gay bar, even talks and carries himself like a queen now. Do I any negative feelings towards it? No. I can say that I'm glad I got to him before he started acting like that though... shame for him to be so hot and act like that. (no offense to any femmes)
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    Jul 07, 2008 11:47 PM GMT
    Luckydog76 said[quote][cite]McGay said[/cite]If he's your ex, what difference does it make?

    Ding! Ding! We have a winning answer.[/quote]

    I certainly must concur with this response... so what about they guys you're looking at now? Are they masculine or feminine or nuetral/in between? That's what I'd be thinking about if I was in you position, oh wait, I am.
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    Jul 08, 2008 12:34 AM GMT
    Why does the ex have to be a masculine top? Why can't he be a masculine bottom or just verstile. Even better, why not just call him the ex and not generalize it with specific attributes/characteristics like masculine and femimine since really they have no bearing on the situation...you're broken up so who cares? Clearly if anyone in a situation like this is stuck pondering why then I don't think the ex is the one who has changed or has the problem.

    Personally, I wouldn't care to give it much thought if I ever had an ex to begin with. Our paths crossed and now they have parted. How he chooses to act with others is not my concern for he is nothing for me to be concerned about considering we are no longer together. If anything, I would find it funny but I would never give the mere thought of him acting different the satisfaction of causing me worry and wonder as to why he is acting "that way" when he didn't act that way with me.

    In the long run I hope he would be happy and could live with himself for being that way. Life goes on. The only thing I'd be remotely concerend about is if I changed and if it was for better or worse.
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    Jul 08, 2008 3:22 PM GMT
    hahaha I'd laugh at him and say, whats up ya big girl?
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    Jul 08, 2008 3:31 PM GMT

    Turk,

    Your profile says you're from Istanbul Turkey and you're 2 feet 10 inches tall.

    Nothing else but a list of sports you like. So what gives? I can't take your question seriously.

    -Doug
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    Jul 08, 2008 4:32 PM GMT
    Woould not care! Why would I we are no longer a couple.
    Dah! Even if he did it when we a couple I still would not care! It's the XY factor!
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    Jul 10, 2008 6:48 PM GMT
    lilmaninsc saidI was dating this guy once.. I was his first. He was a senior then, me, just out of high school. The typical football jock guy.. we dated for about 6 months, and the whole time we were together, he was very masculine. Now, haha.. totally flamming. He does drag sometimes, he knows everyone at the gay bar, even talks and carries himself like a queen now. Do I any negative feelings towards it? No. I can say that I'm glad I got to him before he started acting like that though... shame for him to be so hot and act like that. (no offense to any femmes)
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    Jul 12, 2008 7:39 PM GMT
    turk saidwhat would you think or feel, if you see your masculine/top ex-partner acting fem when he is with another guy. sad?confused?decieved? or nothing negative?


    Did you break him? icon_neutral.gif
    If his warranty is expired your screwwwwed.

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    Jul 13, 2008 1:41 PM GMT
    I hate questions like this.
    1. He is your ex, it doesn't matter if he is femme butch or someones piss bucket.
    2. Have you looked at yourself? Maybe he felt he needed to be the butch top with you because he thought that's what u want.
    3. Maybe he got with someone who could eat ass and that always seems to turn tops into bottoms.

    The point here is get over it. He's not your problem anymore. Move on and enjoy your life.