Can Fuck buddies turn into something more like BF's?

  • MarcBodybuild...

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    Mar 06, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    Would it be a mistake to have a relationship with a guy that started first as your fuck buddy?
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    Mar 06, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    That depends entirely on you and the guy, doesn't it? icon_wink.gif
  • MarcBodybuild...

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    Mar 06, 2012 5:52 AM GMT
    yeah.. but i wanna hear from people who had fuck buddies that ended up being their boyfriends.

    cause its like one of those topic that people barely hear, its like the ( UNICORN of the sex world )
  • Ridiculance

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    Mar 06, 2012 4:48 PM GMT
    In my experience. Kind of lol. My friend and I have been fuck buddies for 4 years. It wasn't like we screwed every day, week, or even month. But we maintained contact and did care for each other. To this day we have not seen each other anywhere but in a bedroom lol. Just the other day I asked him out on a date simply because I wanted to see him with his clothes on for a change haha. We both laughed hysterically and agreed. We know we like each other and just realized our schedules are busy and we just never have time to do anything but get off lol. But maybe it could turn into romance? It's pretty ideal right now icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 06, 2012 4:51 PM GMT
    whenever either starts falling, it is mutual to end it, in my experience
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    Mar 06, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    MarcBodybuilding saidWould it be a mistake to have a relationship with a guy that started first as your fuck buddy?



    You could start a relationship with the guy on the other end of a glory hole, if you really liked him. The bigger question is... why NOT?


  • ATXnative

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    Mar 06, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    MarcBodybuilding saidWould it be a mistake to have a relationship with a guy that started first as your fuck buddy?


    You seem to ask a lot of personal questions, that require evaluating a specific situation and its factors individually that will vary a lot. Instead of running straight to the forum board for some attention THINK FOR YOURSELF.

    Post interesting things if you want attention, yo.
  • Teqkilla42

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    Mar 06, 2012 6:22 PM GMT
    These are the kind of things other people can't decide for you dude. It depends too much on you and the other dude.

    Honestly, the fact that you seem to need to run to RJ for advice on every small detail about a relationship says to me you're really not ready for one. You're older than me, sure, but it seems like you still have a lot of growing up/maturing to do.
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    Mar 06, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    If it is necessary, it is possible.
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    Mar 06, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
    I've had several fuck buds...None turned into the boyfriends.
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    Mar 06, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    JayPride42 saidThese are the kind of things other people can't decide for you dude. It depends too much on you and the other dude.

    Honestly, the fact that you seem to need to run to RJ for advice on every small detail about a relationship says to me you're really not ready for one. You're older than me, sure, but it seems like you still have a lot of growing up/maturing to do.
    I think it's insightful to learn what other people's experiences have been.
    I work with data and some of the best decisions are made based on a large data set, if there is information out there I think it does one a terrible disservice to not glean it to take what you can.

    HOWEVER... it isn't inherent that the data will be meaningful, you do need to make your own mind up on it.

    I had a very wonderful relationship with a guy I met just hooking up. He ended up being one of the most amazing men I've ever known to this day and the first man to show me what unconditional love really looked like. It didn't last but we are still in touch, with a very sweet spot for each other and even though I dated several guys before him, I think he was my first 'love'.

    I think if you give someone enough time they will eventually live up to whatever expectation you have of them, the question is, if it's going to be a long wait, how patient are you?

    If you like him then go for it. It's frequently the things we don't do that we regret... that's what my grandpa says, I believe him.
  • Hothouse

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    Mar 06, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    Don't most gay relationships start out as fuck buddies?
    It seems most guys that start "dating" also hop in the sack about 15 minutes into it.
    They start having sex on a regular basis under the idea that they're dating, but it sounds an awful lot like fuck buddies that get to know each other over time. It's called dating, but it sure seems more like fuck buddies.
    It either works out or it doesn't - it either becomes a LTR or it ends. Most fuck buddy relationships are the same way - they either take place over an extended period of time or they end rather quickly.
    I personally don't see why a relationship that starts out primarily to satisfy sexual needs can't become more intimate and emotional and turn into a LTR.
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    Mar 06, 2012 6:55 PM GMT
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    DJBoston saidYou could start a relationship with the guy on the other end of a glory hole, if you really liked him. The bigger question is... why NOT?

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  • Koaa2

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    Mar 06, 2012 6:57 PM GMT
    A fuck buddy is just what it is. If you start dating etc, a lot of other stuff will eventually come into the relationship, whether good or bad. So if you want to keep a good fuck buddy for a while, just stick to the sex. Have fun.
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    Mar 06, 2012 7:02 PM GMT
    yes a fuck buddy,can eventually become a great boyfriend..

    i have had several FB,become wounderful BF..you have already gotten past the stage of knowing someone naked and what they like and dislike..you are friends now because of the sex,and feel comfortable with each other..

    so why not move on to the next level..
    it does work,as long as both guys are open and willing to move on..
    if not,you still have a great FUCK BUD whom you trust..
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    Mar 06, 2012 7:16 PM GMT
    Yeah. Actually that's how most of my friends who are now dating one another started out. Nothing wrong with it actually.

    Sex is already taken out of the equation (fuck buds) so what they develop is beyond the that. I would have to say that it all depends on you and the person you are dealing with and what type of arrangement you guys have.
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    Mar 06, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    It depends but personally I am against it.

    Sex really should happen after mutual intellectual and emotional rapport. That is why people say "when you are in love the sex is always good".

    A hookup basically is a meeting for sexual purposes without getting to know the person, so to speak. It starts from a carnal point. Seeking to develop after something that should be lead up to is backwards.

    I realize however this is the modern age and we are guys, so most people start out with sex early in the relationship. Maybe that's why relationships are in a state of decline.

    Food for thought.

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    Mar 06, 2012 7:27 PM GMT
    Of course you can. If you are both looking for relationships then open up thhe conversation and see what goes.
    Cheers
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    Mar 06, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    jackrabbit108 saidIt depends but personally I am against it.

    Sex really should happen after mutual intellectual and emotional rapport. That is why people say "when you are in love the sex is always good".

    A hookup basically is a meeting for sexual purposes without getting to know the person, so to speak. It starts from a carnal point. Seeking to develop after something that should be lead up to is backwards.

    I realize however this is the modern age and we are guys, so most people start out with sex early in the relationship. Maybe that's why relationships are in a state of decline.

    Food for thought.




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    Mar 06, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    it can if you are both at a place where you want more than a FB... timing is everything
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    Mar 06, 2012 8:49 PM GMT
    Having an FB is about sexual compatibility.

    A relationship requires a mental connection.

    If both are able to connect to each other in both ways, then why not?
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    Mar 06, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    jackrabbit108 saidIt depends but personally I am against it.

    Sex really should happen after mutual intellectual and emotional rapport. That is why people say "when you are in love the sex is always good".

    A hookup basically is a meeting for sexual purposes without getting to know the person, so to speak. It starts from a carnal point. Seeking to develop after something that should be lead up to is backwards.

    I realize however this is the modern age and we are guys, so most people start out with sex early in the relationship. Maybe that's why relationships are in a state of decline.

    Food for thought.



    Actually, this is not true. I know of PLENTY of guys that are in love, and precisely because the sex isn't good, they have open relationships.
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    Mar 06, 2012 8:55 PM GMT
    I acknowledge I am in the minority but there is no right answer.

    I did preface it by saying it depends icon_smile.gif
  • maryowen7002

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    Mar 14, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    no
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    Mar 14, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    Yes, next question.