My Boyfriend has slept with his two gay bestfriends before me!!! I cant help not to think about it!!

  • blueillusion

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    Mar 07, 2012 12:04 PM GMT
    Hi,

    I am gay and Ive met this amazing guy. We have so much in common and he makes me so happy. I met him through his two best friends. Which are both gay and I knew them before him.

    Before I started to go out with my boyfriend, I knew that the three of them experimented alot together. They had threesomes, and my boyfriend has slept with each of them about 5-10 times each on seperate occasions. He is very close with both of them and they did this during their experimenting years.

    Then he and I started to get to know each other, and we became very close and eventually boyfriends. We have been going out for one and a half years. During this time, I cant help but think that when we are out with his best friends, that he has had sex with them and previous relationships, threesomes, things that we share together, he has shared with them. It makes me so sad and angry. It makes me sad because I see them on a regular basis. If they werent around I dont think I would have a problem with them. I dont have a problem with his other previous relationships. I only have a problem with his two best friends because I see them all the time.

    I think its also abit of jealously. I want to not feel like this. It was in the past. Along time before me. But I cant help but feeling really sick and upset about this. Thinking about all the positions and things they have tried together. Ive brought it up with my boyfriend heaps of times, he knows how I feel and somehow his still with me. He wants me to try and see past it. But i cant.

    It also dosnt help that my boyfriend was my first.

    What do i do so i dont feel this way anymore??
    How do i get over this?
    Anyone esle in a similar situation?
    Im 22 btw.
  • offshore

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    Mar 07, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    Yeah, the solution is.
    Stop being such an insecure pussie
    You don't deserve ur relationship if u feel jealous about his PREVIOUS sex encounters.
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:12 PM GMT
    this sounds like the opening of one of those bad gay movies you see on netflix.
  • offshore

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    Mar 07, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    Don't tell me you are Asian btw?
  • bad_wolf

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    Mar 07, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    *back hand*
    Pull yourself together man!

    You're gonna meet guys who've slept with other and other guys are going to meet you when you've slept with other guys.
    This is just how it is.
    Would you really want to go with someone else just because they're a virgin, you might be waiting a while until you find one worth sticking with.

    Get over it and get into your head that regardless of past encounters, he's all yours now.
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    Stop being such a fucking dumbass. People have sex...with or without you. Get used to it.
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    offshore saidDon't tell me you are Asian btw?
    I don't know why I busted out laughing at this question. But I did.icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
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  • offshore

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    Mar 07, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    If th OP is Asian it will explain a lot. I am waiting his confirmation
  • bad_wolf

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    Mar 07, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    "Oh woe is me, I have a boyfriend and am madly in love, bo FUCKING HOO!"
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    offshore saidIf th OP is Asian it will explain a lot. I am waiting his confirmation


    Do you mind explaining? I'm curious.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 07, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    Three words...

    GET OVER IT!
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    GROW A PAIR.... and get done with it..
    i have a bf, before we were together, im sure he's been with a bunch
    and i've been with quite a bunch as well....

    have you heard about the pyramid? hahaah
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    if it bothers you. Leave him. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    Hi.

    I just had a horrible thought.

    What if all these new pictureless profiles with single digit post counts that come on here with whacked out topics, asking at the end, predictably, "what do you guys think?" or "Is it just me?" aren't the sock accounts of some teenage troll going after the easy pickings on RJ, but in fact are the RJ founders trying to keep the site traffic up to minimum levels?

    What do you guys think?

    Is it just me,or does anyone else feel this way?


    Discuss. A lot. Please. If you don't, I'll come back and start insulting every one of you in an almost perfunctory way, as if I was employed by a giant troll farm in Guangzhou being paid in company script.
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    it's posts like this that make me want to dump my RJ profile
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    Why is it that the loons have invaded RJ?
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    Mar 07, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    That would be funny except that we all know you're a bot anyway.


    I know I am but what are you?

    ...

    I know I am but what are you?


    ...

    I know I am but what are you?


    ...
  • ATXnative

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    Mar 07, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    TropicalMark saidWhy is it that the loons have invaded RJ?


    It was different 3 years ago when i joined. I just go around and bullshit on threads now because they are all so dummmmbbbb
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    Mar 07, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
    It either turns you on, and you don't know it; or you're just grossly insecure and need to learn to live with your boyfriend's irrelevant history with other people. Focus on the relevant working parts of your and his relationship, not chasing shadows and skeletons for some moral platform.
  • unjaded

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    Mar 07, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    WOW , your bf had sexual relationships before you , SHOCKER ! GET OVER IT AND BE A REAL MAN . or you can act like a women and ruin all you have with him .
  • LJay

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    Mar 07, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    OP, it is unreasonable to expect all sexual partners to be virgins. Period. Get used to it or get off the train.

    Have you guys discussed an orgy? That would get you to the mental ward right away and save the preliminaries.
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    Mar 07, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    Its no big deal. You are not mature enuf for sex or a relationship yet. Give it time and you should get some experience yourself.
  • invisigay10

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    Mar 07, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    Sounds like a good opportunity for hot foursomes.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Mar 07, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    blueillusion saidHi,

    I am gay and Ive met this amazing guy. We have so much in common and he makes me so happy. I met him through his two best friends. Which are both gay and I knew them before him.

    Before I started to go out with my boyfriend, I knew that the three of them experimented alot together. They had threesomes, and my boyfriend has slept with each of them about 5-10 times each on seperate occasions. He is very close with both of them and they did this during their experimenting years.

    Then he and I started to get to know each other, and we became very close and eventually boyfriends. We have been going out for one and a half years. During this time, I cant help but think that when we are out with his best friends, that he has had sex with them and previous relationships, threesomes, things that we share together, he has shared with them. It makes me so sad and angry. It makes me sad because I see them on a regular basis. If they werent around I dont think I would have a problem with them. I dont have a problem with his other previous relationships. I only have a problem with his two best friends because I see them all the time.

    I think its also abit of jealously. I want to not feel like this. It was in the past. Along time before me. But I cant help but feeling really sick and upset about this. Thinking about all the positions and things they have tried together. Ive brought it up with my boyfriend heaps of times, he knows how I feel and somehow his still with me. He wants me to try and see past it. But i cant.

    It also dosnt help that my boyfriend was my first.

    What do i do so i dont feel this way anymore??
    How do i get over this?
    Anyone esle in a similar situation?
    Im 22 btw.
    i do not understand still topic. i mean seriously you sound like a little bitch. if he is all of these great things than why are you finding things to not make your relationship work. why do people find someone great than pick them apart. u are young so you have time to grow up