Where would I go to meet you?

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    Jul 31, 2007 5:33 PM GMT
    There are lots of intelligent, attractive guys on this site. I have to say I haven't really met any guys like this through the typical gay outlets. So, if you're not at the bars, where are you? Where do you go to meet people? How would I know you're gay and available?
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    Jul 31, 2007 8:13 PM GMT
    I go to coffee shops, and I never meet anyone. But this is interesting.
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    Jul 31, 2007 8:38 PM GMT
    I think that the kind of guys on this board, the kind I'd like to meet, must go to coffee shops sometimes! But how would I know you're gay and available?

    We should invent a secret drink order.
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    Aug 01, 2007 12:19 AM GMT
    That's what makes people so intruiging. You don't know what they are looking for untill you ask them. Then the butterflys start tickling and that is what makes meeting new people so great.
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    Aug 01, 2007 12:33 AM GMT
    If I'm not at bar, I'll stay at my hair salon most of the time.
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    Aug 01, 2007 12:36 AM GMT
    Doesn't the old bandana code work anymore????

    Hell, try glance and smile, then coyly look down at your coffee, all smiley, then steal a quick glance again (hang on to that smile).

    For me, I like to go walking at the Tacoma mall and window shop.
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    Aug 01, 2007 3:31 AM GMT
    i work from home so i only leave the house to get fabric (i make clothes) and go to hip hop dance classes. besides that, i'm at a city market on the weekend to sell my clothes :)

    if you wanted to find out if i were gay, you'd ask me.
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    Aug 01, 2007 3:49 AM GMT
    Meet...? People...?

    Hmm... I usually work from home and order most of my supplies over the internet. Maybe if you drove a delivery truck?

    Or maybe stage a bicycle breakdown by the side of the road on one of my lunch-time routes. Show a little leg, and I'll probably stop to help, lol.
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    Aug 01, 2007 4:10 AM GMT
    Coffee shop. How would you know? Heh, heh, heh. You'd know. ;)
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    Aug 01, 2007 4:44 AM GMT
    You'd know right after Joey whispered sweet nastys in your ear.

    Meet me? Online. Or at a geeky event like a Ren Faire or SCA fighter practice. Or a Coffee Shop, though admittedly if I'm at a shop, my nose is usually buried in a book or laptop.
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    Aug 01, 2007 4:52 AM GMT
    The online thing seems spooky to me. How many times have I pressed the Instant Message button only to back away. Perhaps the secret is to spill coffee on someone's laptop.
  • liftordie

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    Aug 01, 2007 4:56 AM GMT
    if you wanna meet me ur best bet is to go to your nearest starbucks and stand there holding the door open.......sooner or later...i will show up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Aug 01, 2007 4:58 AM GMT
    I've never been particularly keen on bars. I never understood what was fun about being a crowded, loud, dark place surrounded by drunk people - even with friends. If you can't see people well, hear them without screaming, etc., what's the point?

    I find the Internet is a great alternative to bars - although the fact is, I rarely meet people regardless.
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    Aug 01, 2007 5:38 AM GMT
    Festivals and street fairs are a easy place to meet people. Also fund raisers are a good place to meet gay guys.
  • MarkX

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    Aug 01, 2007 6:50 AM GMT
    I don't do bars (noisy crowds make me feel isolated), and I used to be notoriously shy. When I chose to start dating in my late 20s, I started with newspaper personals and eventually got on line. Turns out, I've had great instincts or a lot of luck. My newspaper romance lasted 5 years and we're still great friends. My on-line romance and I have been a couple for 6.5 years now. As a result, I'm now much more secure about meeting strangers, and I still really enjoy getting to know worthwhile people through forums like this. Eventually, I'll make a RealJock friend who's local, and we can hang out in real-time. Until then, I'm enjoying the quality gay men people I'm getting to know through RealJock (cause there ain't many where I live!)
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Aug 01, 2007 7:21 AM GMT
    I met my last lover at Volleyball play.
    As many say here, I don't care for bars or clubs so I mostly meet guys on line or at Vball or related events.
    Yes I have net some nice guys at the gym (Ballys) as well.
    In person my age doesn't put guys off in the way that it does on line.



    Ron
  • jc_online

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    Aug 01, 2007 12:22 PM GMT
    I too have difficult time meeting quality people. When I do go to a gay bar, I usually only meet drunk people or tricks (not mutually exclusive).

    I've been told by most of my straight friends that I don't "seem gay", so I think that makes it difficult for other gays to identify me as one-of-us.

    Plus, living in "Pat-Robertson-ville Virginia, many of the granola type of men that I am attracted to don't live in this area.

    It's all good - I'm a patient person - I'll wait it out...

    And if any of you are planning to vacation in Virginia Beach, I'm a great friendly tour guide - so let me know. :o)
  • gymingit

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    Aug 01, 2007 12:38 PM GMT
    Yeah, most people don't realize I'm gay and think I'm just a real friendly guy. I flirt with everyone gay and straight (including women). Usually it's just compliments, but I'm not afraid to talk with anyone anywhere.

    YOU WILL FIND ME IN-LINE SOMEWHERE CHATTING...... I'm waiting....lol hope this helps you find me.

    Just be carefull... most straight salesmen will flirt with any man to make that sale....lol
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    Aug 01, 2007 12:38 PM GMT
    Seems like we drink alot of Coffee 'round these parts.
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    Aug 01, 2007 1:20 PM GMT
    I think Realjock should sign a deal with Starbucks--"Meet online, connect at Starbucks!" They could give us coupons. There could be maps with the Starbucks which is equidistant from each person. There could be a "Realjock Mocha Mint Latte" for those special moments.

    The thing about chatting online--whenever I try, I feel like a creepy old man in a bathrobe. But when you're not very social, it seems like the best way.
  • DiverScience

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    Aug 01, 2007 2:49 PM GMT
    Bookstore

    Mountain trail

    Renn Faire

    Garden Center

    Craft Store (AC Moore/Michael's)

    Home Depot/Lowe's

    Home

    Lab

    Grocery Store

    Gym


    And chances are, you wouldn't know. I don't exactly advertise when I'm out and about. I dress well, except when I don't. I'm mostly clean shaven, except when I'm not. And I'm mostly not very "gay", except when I am. ::shrugs::
  • bigguysf

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    Aug 01, 2007 2:52 PM GMT
    At the gym... just come up and say HI! :)
    And for God's sake, please don't circle me with "that" look that you think is sexy but really comes off as major psycho-stalker!
    A smile can work wonders.
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    Aug 01, 2007 3:58 PM GMT
    Hmm... it sounds like we need some tee-shirts and lab coats subtly imprinted with the RJ logo.
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    Aug 01, 2007 4:04 PM GMT
    Diver, we are like the same person, except you stole my abs.
    I could have listed almost the same exact thing as you. except I'm never clean shaven unless I have to be. As soon as I'm out, I'm growing a full beard.
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    Aug 01, 2007 4:07 PM GMT
    Mindgarden, supposedly in Rennisance Italy, female Troubadors wore a blue feather in thier hair or on thier clothing somewhere to denote thier preference for the gentler sex. This is completely unfounded, but in the SCA, they have copted this idea, founding the Clan Bluefeather for GLBTXYZ medieval recreationist.