How do you teach yourself discipline?

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    Mar 08, 2012 7:24 AM GMT
    How do you retrain you mind into making a habit out of working out? What are the steps needed to banish laziness and get yourself motivated to regularly working out?
  • DanOmatic

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    Mar 08, 2012 12:20 PM GMT
    You just need to make a commitment to it and do it, even if at first it seems like a chore.

    Start by just picking 3-4 specific times a week that you work out, say every MWF from 4-5 pm or something like that, and just treat it like something that you can't back out from. Focus on things you enjoy doing, but push and challenge yourself without overdoing it.

    Once you establish a regular routine, it will feel more natural, and pretty soon you may start wanting to add to the time you spend getting fit. Eventually you might even really start enjoying it!
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    Mar 08, 2012 12:23 PM GMT
    Incentive incentive incentive! But same may argue exercise is it's own reward ; )
  • xKorix

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    Mar 08, 2012 12:28 PM GMT
    I imagine you're feeling a lot of resistance and unpleasantness when it comes to working out. Instead of avoiding/shoving all those feelings down and trying to ignore them and push forward(which is exhausting and probably not too efficient). Just feel those feelings. Feel that unpleasantness in your stomach, the resistance, overwhelming, whatever. Just feel it all and those emotions will clear and it'll get easier, you won't be carrying so much emotional weight around when it comes time to push yourself. This isn't just all about the mind, discipline is also emotional(perhaps maybe even more-so than mental).
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    Mar 08, 2012 12:47 PM GMT
    by having a slice of cake a day and telling myself i must go work it off. It satisfys my sweet tooth and i work my ass off. Win win
  • rafiki87

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    Mar 08, 2012 12:51 PM GMT
    think about these two questions: what are your reasons to exercise? how is it important to you?

    if your answers are somewhere along the lines of the superficial, "i want to get hot so i can get laid and people will like me", then it won't be long 'til your demotivated if you're not successful initially.

    also if in your head exercise is something you "have to do" instead of "want to do" then you'll have trouble sticking to it.
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    Mar 08, 2012 1:25 PM GMT
    It´s better to get someone to teach you

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    Mar 08, 2012 1:31 PM GMT
    I just lost 22 lbs by diet exercise and the gym. I posted 8.5 x 5.5 collage pictures with the words "Healthy, Eat Right, Exercise Daily, 180, and March 2012" along with a picture of a guy stretching the waist on pants he is wearing that are too big. There is one in my home office above the monitor of my PC, one on the mirror in the bathroom, and one on the wall at the side of my bed. I see these every day constantly and they remind me of my objectives. When I see them and I haven't done the Eat Right and Exercise parts I feel a tinge of guilt and this helps to strengthen my resolve to keep at it.
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    Mar 08, 2012 1:43 PM GMT
    GonzoTheGreat saidIt´s better to get someone to teach you

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    That would work on me...
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    Mar 08, 2012 1:44 PM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    GonzoTheGreat saidIt´s better to get someone to teach you

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    That would work on me...

    +1
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    Mar 08, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    I´ll have to think of some pick up lines for you boys
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 08, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    It helps if you are a structured guy anyway. I know what needs to be done
    and I want it completed. We all have days when it can be a challenge.
    I just think about how I feel if I haven't completed my goals.... that feeling is much stronger than the "lazy doubt" I might have on whether I really want to go in there. It can really help.

    By and large I just get my ass to the gym and go out of my way to enjoy what I'm doing while there.
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    Mar 08, 2012 2:08 PM GMT
    I went to this Asian guy. He made me paint the fence and wax his car. Worked pretty well.
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    Mar 08, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    A good friend of mine told me that doing most actions daily for 41 days will cause then to develop into a habit. Our body and mind just get used to it. I know when I first started to work out I dreaded it but now I literally crave it.
  • neosyllogy

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    Mar 08, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    What are things that you are good about doing?
    Try working those in.

    For example, I hate having people wait on me and breaking comittments. So when I started I got a training buddy. He was less dedicated than I and didn't provide a lot of direct motivation, but because I kept kicking his ass to come when the moment arrived I found myself forced to go as well. After a month or two I just began enjoying it and now it's easy to go on my own.

    (Every now and then we skid out and you need a little bit of willpower to get back on the wagon, but muuuuch less than when first starting)

    What motivates you in daily life? How can you link that to work outs to help you get started?
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    Mar 08, 2012 4:52 PM GMT
    Go with a buddy if you can, at a prearranged time. Hopefully you will reinforce each other's discipline. It's usually harder to blow off others than to blow off our own plans. (Well, unless you're gay, but even so...)

    Related to that is to engage a trainer/coach, if you feel you could use one and within your budget. You make a schedule with him or her and it makes you feel more obliged to show up, especially if they're gonna bill you for the time, whether you show or not.

    I'm going that with golf right now. If left to my own devices I know I'd get lazy and the cobwebs would start to form on my clubs. But I engaged this guy, once a week, and I never miss a session. All of these are forms of external motivation, that takes the matter largely out of your own hands.
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:20 PM GMT
    You need to want to change , a lot..to make it work. I don't like being thin, and I wanna be in shape..and that keeps me on task and motivated. You have to basically, not like yourself, as much , the way you are, as the way you want to be. If it's not all that important, you will eventually stop. I have a couple of people I train with, and I tell them straight out, ..."it's up to you, how hard you wanna train and diet". If, it was easy, everyone would be in shape If, you train a little and diet a little...you will make little progress. I don't fault a person for not training or dieting as hard as me....maybe they place more importance on other things in thier lives. A person who is content, with the way they are, even though not in super shape, is most likely better adjusted.
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    slings, handcuffs, gags...

    Oh wait...this is about working out huh?
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    Pictures of guys with perfect bodies in my bedroom/closet/bathroom/fridge.

    Constant reminder of my goals.

    Plus, nothing makes you feel shittier than going into the fridge and grabbing something unhealthy and closing it to see some dude with a perfect body...will make you put that unhealthy shit down real quick.
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:51 PM GMT
    har19 said
    GreenHopper said
    GonzoTheGreat saidIt´s better to get someone to teach you

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    That would work on me...

    +1


    I'm in.
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    Mar 08, 2012 7:02 PM GMT
    In the bedroom I like someone else to teach my ass some discipline ;-)
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    Mar 08, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    Young_Sir saidI went to this Asian guy. He made me paint the fence and wax his car. Worked pretty well.

    I lol'd
  • metta

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    Mar 08, 2012 7:19 PM GMT
    I have always been very disciplined with how I live my every day life. When my father past away when I was 18, I knew that I did not have anyone to fall back on. I needed to make sure to take steps to be prepared for "just in case" as much as possible.

    For working out, it has never been an issue. I have a routine and I stick to it. It is like brushing my teeth. I could not imagine not doing it.
  • neosyllogy

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    Mar 08, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    7Famark saidPlus, nothing makes you feel shittier than going into the fridge and grabbing something unhealthy and closing it to see some dude with a perfect body...will make you put that unhealthy shit down real quick.


    That's awesome! icon_biggrin.gif

    metta8 saidI have always been very disciplined with how I live my every day life. When my father past away when I was 18, I knew that I did not have anyone to fall back on. I needed to make sure to take steps to be prepared for "just in case" as much as possible.

    For working out, it has never been an issue. I have a routine and I stick to it. It is like brushing my teeth. I could not imagine not doing it.


    That was useless. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 08, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidGo with a buddy if you can, at a prearranged time. Hopefully you will reinforce each other's discipline. It's usually harder to blow off others than to blow off our own plans. (Well, unless you're gay, but even so...)

    Related to that is to engage a trainer/coach, if you feel you could use one and within your budget. You make a schedule with him or her and it makes you feel more obliged to show up, especially if they're gonna bill you for the time, whether you show or not.

    I'm going that with golf right now. If left to my own devices I know I'd get lazy and the cobwebs would start to form on my clubs. But I engaged this guy, once a week, and I never miss a session. All of these are forms of external motivation, that takes the matter largely out of your own hands.


    This is working for yourname2000 and me. Sometimes we feel that there are days where we would work out less, or not at all, if we didn't have each other as workout buddies. On our off-days, when we are working abs/core only, we let each other know when we've actually done our sets.

    It also helps to visualize your goal, and to keep repeating to yourself what you are going to achieve by going to work out. It is a "power of positive thinking" thing.

    You could also just start posting on your twitter/facebook feed, so that you know "someone is watching", and will notice if you miss it. Opening yourself up to scrutiny adds pressure to keep with it... I've had success with this technique, too.