Friend lists: Over-add, or over-delete?

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    Mar 08, 2012 9:11 AM GMT
    Facebook, buddy and hot lists, twitter, etc. Do you find yourself finding excuses to add more and more people, or are you constantly paring them down? I'm an over deleter. I will constantly delete people off those lists until they are at an ABSOLUTE bare minimum.
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    Mar 08, 2012 10:53 AM GMT
    I just add and add and add.... look at my RJ lists to see, i think im in the hundreds for both.. it doesnt really mean much to me, its just a click lol
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    Mar 08, 2012 2:22 PM GMT
    Neither

    I'm selective about my 'add friend's so that I rarely if ever need to delete. I only add people I actually know, that want to be friends, that are likely to get along with other people on my list, that aren't contentious.
    No one that posts moronic political manifestos.
    No one that's homophobic (to my experience with them.)
    No one that's too easily offended.
    No one that's morally and narrowly righteous.

    So there's lots of people and acquaintances that don't make it to my page.
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    Mar 08, 2012 2:25 PM GMT
    My Facebook just cracked 100 friends in the past few months, after years of hovering. Largely because I've been meeting a lot of new people since last summer. I do a major purge once or twice a year. There are a few people who'll get the chop once summer arrives.
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    Mar 08, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    Groups and filtered posts are your friends. Anybody I'm not sure about goes in the "limited profile" category and can neither post on my wall or see 70% of what I post. Since what you see on there is a random blend of people, it's easier to just think I don't post a lot than deal with the awkwardness of "why didn't you friend me?" If they post too much annoying stuff, I just filter them from my view.

    Also now I'm pretty sure you can prevent people on a particular list from sending you game/app requests which is helpful.
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    Mar 08, 2012 4:47 PM GMT
    I have a group set up for my close friends, and then I'll add old acquaintances and such to my general friend list. I leave my profile unsearchable so that anyone I add has to be added by me.
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    Mar 08, 2012 4:57 PM GMT
    Neither, I guess. I don't "add" them in the first place if I can't figure out who they are. And most of those end up going on some sort of filter, if they post too much automatic or political crud.
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:18 PM GMT



    The people on our buddy-list are people we've had good experiences with.

    We like them; they like us.



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    Mar 08, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    I initially used the RJ Buddy List as a self-reminder of guys with whom I exchanged a pleasant post or an e-mail. Not really buddies but rather "friendlies". But it got out of hand, so I pared it way back, about 20 right now. You'd be surprised the guys who aren't on it, with whom I appear friendly here.
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    That cookie looks delicious.
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI initially used the RJ Buddy List as a self-reminder of guys with whom I exchanged a pleasant post or an e-mail. Not really buddies but rather "friendlies". But it got out of hand, so I pared it way back, about 20 right now. You'd be surprised the guys who aren't on it, with whom I appear friendly here.


    You appear friendly?
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    I almost never delete. Once you're on my list, it's pretty much for life! icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    People that I have never met before try to add me all the time on facebook.
    Seems to be a popular thing to do in the gay community. I have many people sitting in limbo that I don't know, so they aren't going to be added to my friends list.
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    I used to keep my Facebook quite pared down.. but I would get hundreds of requests.. For some reason the entire country of Brazil wants to be friends with me.. at some point I just started accepting them.. and I've now got the maximum Fb amount of friends.. somewhere just shy of 5,000.. the app doesn't work on my iphone, and the website itself is slow.. I need to go through a purge period and clean it up.. too much work though..
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    sashaman saidI almost never delete. Once you're on my list, it's pretty much for life! icon_cool.gif


    Oh great...now I'm stuck with you, ugh... icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    I add, then delete. Add. Delete. Add. Delete...
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    Oh mah gawd Migz, you axed me, but I see you trimmed it down to a mere 7 people so I can live with that.
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:36 PM GMT
    I am usually the one being purged so I don't have to worry about cleaning my friend list.

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    Mar 08, 2012 9:36 PM GMT
    I tend to be a deleter rather than an adder. I prefer genuine relationships versus a cloud of strangers.

    david hall
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    Mar 08, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    From time to time, I go through and delete people I haven't seen or been in contact with for a couple years.
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    Mar 08, 2012 10:32 PM GMT
    i usually try to keep my buddy list (in facebook) as short as possible.
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    Mar 08, 2012 10:38 PM GMT
    I used to have over 300 'friends' on Facebook when I was in college. As you can imagine, the vast majority of those people were random classmates, former roommates/dormmates, acquaintances from student organizations, friends of friends, and random people I met at social events. A couple years ago I cleaned out my list of people I didn't communicate with on a regular basis (at least weekly).

    Right now I have 60 friends, most of whom I talk to regularly. However, I'm quite sure I can afford to delete some more people because I know I haven't talked to some in at least a few months.

    Oddly enough, I have very few friends leftover from childhood and school years before college. I completely moved on from everyone and started anew with friendships after I graduated from high school.
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    Mar 08, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    I would say I'm more of a delete kind of guy. I like my friends list to keep hovering around 100. I prefer my friends to be people I know and frequently interact with. What is the point otherwise?

    Anyway, I have recently learnt a valuable fb lesson. Never ever... EVER, add a person you are in lust with and fancy the pants off, especially if the feeling isn't mutual. They just serve a painful reminder and I hate stalking people, i.e. going on their page daily to see what they've been up to. It's nonsense and it's behaviour that I despise. So anyway, I recently deleted a couple of these guys and vowed to never ever add someone like that again.
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    Mar 08, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    i'm in the middle, always have been. and the way that works is this. 98% of the people on my facebook friends list are there BECAUSE i met them in person. Not in HOPES OF meeting them in person. The other 2% are the few people who i befriend online but its very easy to get kicked off my friends list. I only have about 120 people on there anyhow icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 09, 2012 12:00 AM GMT
    I pared it back to 10 on FB recently (had around 20, way too much). Most of them I've known in person for well over a decade. The newest ones I've only known for about 5-6 years.