I need to take a vacation solo

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    Mar 08, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    I really need a vacation badly - but, will probably be taking it 'solo'. Being somewhat shy & introverted, not the easiest thing to do. Just wondering if anyone has any suggestions on where might be good?
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    Mar 08, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    This was my problem when I tried traveling around. I mentioned elsewhere that as a kid in my 20s or 30s probably I would have enjoyed it more. But now? Not so much. I did a lot of roadtrips where I'd get to see some of the country. The days were pretty fun but I wasn't into dining alone, going out at night alone. So I wound up just traveling to friends' houses around the country and bugging them instead.

    For just an occasional trip, maybe you could try one of those gay vacation deals where you're isolated with a group that doesn't have much other choice but to get to know each other. Like maybe a gay scuba diving trip, something like that?
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    Mar 08, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    Hmm... not sure why any particular place would be better than another in terms of being "solo."

    But if you feel the need for group activities: I used to get away for a weekend by going to a charter dive boat that would pair-up any single divers who showed up. I ended up playing scoutmaster to a lot of beginners. You can also sign up for all kinds of "lessons" packages that would through you into a group setting for part of the day. e.g. kiteboarding, surfing, sailing, etc. etc.
  • Hothouse

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    Mar 08, 2012 4:58 PM GMT
    I've stayed at gay guest houses and found them to be a very friendly environment and easy to meet and have conversations. A good number of vacation areas have gay guest houses, seems like more mature guys there, but that could be a financial thing.
    Did a gay cruise that was a lot of fun, and the single guys seemed to have the most fun, although it was like being on a floating gay bar and I somewhat went into "fag-overload." (don't give me shit for that - just my expression.)
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:04 PM GMT
    I've wanted to take a solo vacation for some time now. Just go somewhere and relax on a beach with my headphones in.
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:18 PM GMT
    Crested Butte, CO. Head out in late May. Spend a couple of days in town, then backpack through the Maroon Bells.

    Take an ultralight backpack with a one-person tent, Pur H2O pump with a camelback, dehydrated food with a camper's stove, hiking poles, a dependable head lamp, a writer's journal, a copy of The Hobbit, and a couple of blunts.

    You'll find your Self again.
  • LJay

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    Mar 08, 2012 5:28 PM GMT
    You might link up with a special interest tour group: history, rollercoasters, food, whatever, that allows you some free time on the tour and also gives you group options so that you won't be just wandering aroung aimlessly.

    You could even head for a large city and take a couple of guided days while being completely on your own the rest of time.
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    I recommend Hawaii since you are only a few hours away. If you get your tickets ahead of time you can get some really good deals (but in March usually rains every day).
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    Mar 08, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    Barefoot Windjammer Cruise.......choose to help out with keeping the ship in operation or sit back and relax...small group of people......all sorts of options....gay......clothing optional....icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    credo saidCrested Butte, CO. Head out in late May. Spend a couple of days in town, then backpack through the Maroon Bells.

    Take an ultralight backpack with a one-person tent, Pur H2O pump with a camelback, dehydrated food with a camper's stove, hiking poles, a dependable head lamp, a writer's journal, a copy of The Hobbit, and a couple of blunts.

    You'll find your Self again.


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    Mar 08, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    I went to NYC alone over Christmas/New Year and really enjoyed it. You do not necessarily have to go somewhere remote in order to enjoy a bit of solitude.
  • caljock2001

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    Mar 08, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    I went on a week long bike and wine tasting tour through Tuscanny with back road bike tours for singles. I had a great time and met some fun people. It was designed for singles shy or extroverted, athletic. Check out http://www.backroadbiketours.com

    Ps: make sure you get your own room and not have a roomate.
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    Mar 08, 2012 6:38 PM GMT
    If you're wanting to not take a solo vacation, I will volunteer to go with you... icon_wink.gif

  • Neon_Dreams

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    Mar 08, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
    Go somewhere you really want to go... I want to do the same thing. I recently became single and realized there are places I desire to visit- and I'm not going to sit around and wait for the opportunity for someone else to accompany me.

    Italy, New Zealand, Brazil, Montreal...a few places I would like to stamp it up in my passport.

    Do everything you enjoy doing...alone. It can be the most liberating experience of your life!

    My thoughts.


    Joe
  • laxdude25

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    Mar 08, 2012 6:55 PM GMT
    I think there are in fact very few places which don't work solo, and often the experience is much more genuine than if you go with a group or a friend.
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    Mar 08, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    I looked on your profile to see what your likes and dislikes are but didn't see any. I did see some states that you have not visited, Louisiana as one of them. You would have the time of your life in New Orleans! If you're a photographer, there are PLENTY of romantic and beautiful sights to capture! Our food and culture will certainly tantalize your palate and psyche. Though I have lived here for over 40 years, I love venturing out to see what's new.

    Regardless, wherever you go, truly savor every moment solo and reconnect with yourself - mind, body and soul.

    Bon voyage and happy returns!
  • imbrad

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    Mar 08, 2012 7:07 PM GMT
    I'm doing the CO trail... If my buddy doesn't get his shit together i might be going solo too. Sometimes you really need to take time to embrace yourself as an individual no even if it is painful or uncomfortable. Imagine if everyone was comfortable enough with themselves to allow themselves to be alone from time to time!
  • Suetonius

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    Mar 08, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    credo saidCrested Butte, CO. Head out in late May. Spend a couple of days in town, then backpack through the Maroon Bells.

    Take an ultralight backpack with a one-person tent, Pur H2O pump with a camelback, dehydrated food with a camper's stove, hiking poles, a dependable head lamp, a writer's journal, a copy of The Hobbit, and a couple of blunts.

    You'll find your Self again.


    Credo's suggestion is great if you want to be alone. If not (and if you want your company to be gay), try staying at a gay guesthouse/B&B in a resort area - there will be other guys to meet in a relaxed setting. I really enjoy Provincetown - not as busy as Key West or Fire Island - at the end of a Peninsula and on the edge of a national park. July-August has the most dependable weather. With art galleries and some night life. There are a few gay guesthouses on various Hawaiian islands as well.

    Caljock suggested a Tuscan bike tour - search the web, and you will be able to find some gay tours as well - I remember finding one that did hiking in Switzerland - (not at the time I wanted to go). There are gay tours in many parts of the world, where meeting others is built into the experience. Or, try looking at websites for gay and lesbian sierrans (and other gay hiking clubs). There is a chapter in LA . The trips are mostly short - but they may have longer ones.

    Sitges is a laid back gay resort town 1/2 hour from Barcelona - definitely a place to vacation.

    If you want another vacation next year and you ski, try Aspen Gay Ski Week in January.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 08, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    I've taken two solo vacations --- one on an Atlantis cruise to the Mediterranean (though I knew many friends who were also going) and the other to New York City. There is something to be said for traveling solo. Had a ball both times, and wouldn't hesitate to do it again.
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    Mar 08, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    Sometimes solo vacations are the best. You don't have to worry about anyone else's agenda but your own.

    And almost anywhere is ideal, really. It would depend if you wanted to be isolated or if you wanted to kind of be anonymous in a crowd.

    To be isolated, mountain hikes in CO sounds ideal or staying in various places along the PCH/West Coast of the US or Canada.
    NYC is the best place to be anonymous in a crowd. Love, love, love NYC.
  • Suetonius

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    Mar 09, 2012 12:08 AM GMT
    Gay trips:
    You might try Out Adventures: http://www.out-adventures.com (which has periodic ads on RJ), or Hanns Ebenstein Travel: www.hetravel.com

    The tour site at http://cruisingwithpride.com/all_gay_tours.html
    lists a number of gay tour companies.
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    Mar 09, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    I started solo backpacking when I was 19 years old. Last year I broke my solo record and was in a wilderness area above 12,000' alone for six days. My first trip I was a bit nervous and definitely felt strange and came right back out after one night. Then after a few years it really grew on me. Now 6 days is too short... but that's all the food I can carry by myself icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 09, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    After I finished college I backpacked alone in Europe for 3.5 months. I loved it. I had the flexibility to go wherever and not argue with anyone on my trip, and meet and hang out with whomever. I had a blast at some of the hostels and ventured far into the east.

    I also really like solo road trips in the US, well, the part about being on the road. But I'm not so fond of camping solo when on road trips or staying in hotels alone.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Mar 09, 2012 1:26 AM GMT
    So enough about them and their stories, back to you. There are gay-only cruises. They're easy to find online, or in gay porn or gay-oriented workout magazines.If your don't venture as far as the local book store, are you really up for a trip to a gay brothel in Vietnam?
  • honeybadger

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    Mar 09, 2012 1:39 AM GMT
    I'm on a solo vacation in south east Asia right now. Thailand is a great place to travel on your own IMO. Have fun and safe travels!