"Unique" facial hair on a first date - Can it be off-putting?

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    Mar 08, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    Let's say you meet someone online, trade pics, etc. Then you decide to go out to dinner for a first date. The guy shows up and he's got this fully grown out facial hair with funky sideburns he didn't have in any of his pics making him look kinda really different (not necessarily bad). No, of course we're not going to judge him based on something stupid like facial hair (and in this hypothetical situation I'm actually the guy with the weird facial hair).

    However, if you could have nitpicked the decision, would you have preferred he looked exactly like he did in his pics? (clean shaven or maybe some scruff).

    TL;DR I'm going out with a guy for the first time and I'm currently growing a funky beard not present in any of my pics and I'm second guessing if maybe I should wait after the first date to start growing said funky beard for the sake of pic continuity.
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    Mar 08, 2012 10:48 PM GMT
    how funky is funky.

    too outrageous... shave em off honey
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    Mar 08, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
    It's like a goatee with Wolverine sideburns >_>
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    Mar 08, 2012 11:59 PM GMT
    Ariodante said...maybe I should wait after the first date to start growing said funky beard for the sake of pic continuity.

    Digital photography let's you update your pic on an almost hourly basis, subject to site approval delays. Change your pic as often as you change yourself, but prolly a good idea to look like the last pic your date has seen.
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    Mar 09, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    Why not just tell him you are growing the funky beard (when you meet him on your date) and then you can gauge if he is something you want to pursue something with based on his reaction icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 09, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    I think the rule on a first date is that you don't want to surprise a person you are meeting for the first time. I would warn him and say you are growing facial hair. If possible, sext him a picture (and CC: me) before the date.

    I don't think it's a matter of shallowness, but of expectations. Some people just don't take surprises well.
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    Mar 09, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    themachine said sext him a picture (and CC: me) before the date.


    ;D

    themachine said
    I don't think it's a matter of shallowness, but of expectations. Some people just don't take surprises well.


    That's totally what I'm thinking.
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    Mar 09, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    Whatever

    How would it ever be possible?

    I guess if you had swastika sculpted into the side burns...

    Na...still wouldn't kick you out of bed.
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    Mar 09, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I don't know, if I liked him I wouldn't mind.
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    Mar 09, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    It might bother me some if I showed up and you looked decidely different. Especially facial hair which I don't care for to begin with. Never used to date a guy with a beard, don't like em. A moustache I can handle so long as it's not a fu-manchu or snidely whiplash, Hercule Poirot etc.
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    Mar 09, 2012 6:04 AM GMT
    Depends if it's hot or not.
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    Mar 09, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    Not as oft-putting as unique manscaping.
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    Mar 09, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    Have a friend or even an acquaintance who looks very different from you show up and tell your date that he's you. When your date thinks that you were lying about your online pics, the real you will show up for your date.
    Then some new facial hair doesn't seem as bad as someone sharing fake pics.
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    Mar 09, 2012 8:07 AM GMT
    MolaMola saidHave a friend or even an acquaintance who looks very different from you show up and tell your date that he's you. When your date thinks that you were lying about your online pics, the real you will show up for your date.
    Then some new facial hair doesn't seem as bad as someone sharing fake pics.

    This is kinda awesome. I wish my 80-something grandfather were still alive so he could go in my place (I look a lot like him when he was my age, I assume I may look very similar to him when I'm 80).
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    Mar 09, 2012 8:09 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidNot as oft-putting as unique manscaping.
    Oh, I'll bet you have a story to tell. icon_lol.gif