Disappointed in Gay Superficiality

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    Mar 10, 2012 8:15 AM GMT
    I'm disappointed in all the superficial friendships, lies, cheating, gossiping, backstabbing, materialism, permiscuousity and lookism thats going on in the gay world.

    I'm tired of it all, I'm tired of being gay. icon_neutral.gif

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    Mar 10, 2012 8:16 AM GMT
    typical.
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    Mar 10, 2012 8:37 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThen don't be a part of it ... there are gay people out there that are so not like that ... instead of making your friends at bars, try making them at charitable organizations, gay religious groups, gay hiking or biking groups ... basically change your habits and you will find a whole different world


    Thanks for the advice you, I need to hear there is a cure.
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    Mar 10, 2012 9:21 AM GMT
    I feel that way sometimes, but the world in itself are those things..and not just the gay world.

    I feel as if sometimes people think being gay makes us superhuman..but at the end of the day..we are just as messed up as any other guy

    we just like the penile.
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    Mar 10, 2012 10:35 AM GMT
    Neutral saidDisappointed in Gay Superficiality
    I hear ya girl. You tell'm.
    All those bitches who think they're hot shit really annoy the fuck out of those of us who are.
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    ...and in the straight world...

    http://www.straight.com/article-166964/how-do-we-find-integrity-superficial-world

    http://www.informzoo.com/main/cat/7/273

    http://www.experienceproject.com/question-answer/In-What-Ways-Do-You-Think-The-World-Is-Superficial/15583

    http://love.allwomenstalk.com/we-live-in-a-superficial-world-would-he-go-for-me/

    http://www.cracked.com/article_18866_5-reasons-women-are-as-shallow-as-men-according-to-science.html



    ....and were more topics by straight people complaining of superficiality. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:16 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Neutral saidDisappointed in Gay Superficiality
    I hear ya girl. You tell'm.
    All those bitches who think they're hot shit really annoy the fuck out of those of us who are.


    They sure as hell annoy me too, In fact to a stage were I got really depressed last night till this evening.

    you should have heard the crap that went down. it was shocking. icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
    The horrible people, the horrible people
    It's as anatomic as the size of your steeple
    Capitalism has made it this way,
    Old-fashioned fascism will take it away

    Hey you, what do you see?
    Something beautiful, something free?
    Hey you, are you trying to be mean?
    If you live with apes man, it's hard to be clean

    There's no time to discriminate,
    Hate every motherfucker
    That's in your way !!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    Neutral saidI'm disappointed in all the superficial friendships, lies, cheating, gossiping, backstabbing, materialism, permiscuousity and lookism thats going on in the gay world.

    I'm tired of it all, I'm tired of being gay. icon_neutral.gif



    I say screw them. Disalign yourself with them. And do not disown your sexuality because of that.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 10, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    Meh, it can be a disappointment, but don't equate "being gay" to the traits you mentioned....

    You are your own person, I say, rise above it. If you hang with some that do that.. don't hang there anymore. It's about your behavior too. I've seen it and been immersed a bit. Most of those people dont' play an important part in my social scene.
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    The world in general is superficial. It's just that gay guys have taken it to a higher level.
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    Neutral saidI'm disappointed in all the superficial friendships, lies, cheating, gossiping, backstabbing, materialism, permiscuousity and lookism thats going on in the gay world.

    I'm tired of it all, I'm tired of being gay. icon_neutral.gif



    There are people like that, and a lot of them, in all groups. Just look at any reality show, straight or gay themed, and you will see those kind of people. Or look at how much of an oddity and novelty it is when someone like Melissa McCarthy becomes a star in a world where we have a narrow view of how someone should look. I think the problem we have as gay men is that we are already a much smaller group than the population as a whole and when you filter out the riff raff to find quality people, you are left with even fewer. Filter the shallow, petty, and superficial among heterosexuals, you are still left with a lot of people since there are so many more of them to begin with. Good gay men are out there, the search for them might just be a little more difficult.
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
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    All I can say is captured in this image/quote.

    Stop whining and do something about it.
  • Voice22

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    Mar 10, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    you say "in the gay world" like it doesnt happen in the straight one
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    They you'll LOVE all the "superficial friendships, lies, cheating, gossiping, backstabbing, materialism, permiscuousity and lookism" thats going on in the straight world.
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
    Men aren't, for the most part, as nuturing as women. Everything else is speculation.
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    miamimasseur saidThe world in general is superficial. It's just that gay guys have taken it to a higher level.


    +1

    I agree with you.... again.
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    Mar 10, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    Voice22 saidyou say "in the gay world" like it doesnt happen in the straight one



    Ummmm, i don't think guys in the straight world behave like this...
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    It's just part of the "I didn't see/experience this until I came out" phenomenon.

    Hard to find a date? Difficult to find a "quality" guy? Compared to what? Compared to when you weren't looking for a date?

    Tired of superficiality, being judged by your peers, being looked over in a system that seems to be "unfair"? I think it's just a more gradually introduced thing for straight people, such that they don't really notice it.

    Coming out means deliberate learning and sudden, abrupt realizations.

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    Mar 10, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidMen aren't, for the most part, as nuturing as women. Everything else is speculation.
    Dont say that dirty word in here!icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    Neutral saidI'm disappointed in all the superficial friendships, lies, cheating, gossiping, backstabbing, materialism, permiscuousity and lookism thats going on in the gay world.

    I'm tired of it all, I'm tired of being gay. icon_neutral.gif

    you're no fun!
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    Mar 10, 2012 8:16 PM GMT
    I could say I feel very judged by the gay world, which I do, however that presupposes that I'm not being judged by everyone. The only difference is that I care about what the gay world thinks of me because it affects my state of mind. The irony is that I can sit down and chat to any female so comfortably because I don't 'feel' like I'm being judged, put me in a room full of gays and I lose my shit!

    I'm sure most gay men find it easier to chat to women, that may be a complete generalisation. I'm sure there's an academic study on it somewhere.

    I do agree with the general comments, it's a superficial world and you're probably just seeing the materialism as it pertains to you. That being said, I've been non-scene for a while now and even though I meet less gay guys around, I'm not nearly as stressed.
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    Mar 10, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    Alpha1 said
    miamimasseur saidThe world in general is superficial. It's just that gay guys have taken it to a higher level.


    +1

    I agree with you.... again.


    You guys SERIOUSLY need to get out more often.
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    Mar 10, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    Voice22 saidyou say "in the gay world" like it doesnt happen in the straight one



    Ummmm, i don't think guys in the straight world behave like this...


    have you never hung out with straight guys? They arent different from us
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    Mar 10, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
    Aggieboy said
    Voice22 saidyou say "in the gay world" like it doesnt happen in the straight one



    Ummmm, i don't think guys in the straight world behave like this...


    You've never seen Straight guys having a pissing contest and judging one another over who has the biggest biceps, makes the most money, has the better car or bags the most chix?

    You have never heard of a Straight guy being friends with another Straight guy only to make a play for his wife or kill him in business?

    Have you ever met any Straight dudes?