Is it fagy to wear jewelry?

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    Mar 10, 2012 11:31 AM GMT
    Both my grandfather and father always looked at men who wore cuff-links or tie-tacks very suspiciously. Watches were OK, but with a crocodile strap, thank you very much. Now I see guys wearing rings, necklaces, etc. Frankly, I want to blend in. Is it very effeminate to wear jewelry?
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Mar 10, 2012 2:20 PM GMT
    No; it's not 'faggy' to wear jewelry. I think if you were a walking, talking jewelry store, then yeah, it's excessive. The only jewelry I own is the one silver chain my sister bought me for Christmas a few years ago, one "Wounded Warrior Project" dog tag, and a watch.... that is it. That is enough for me.
  • rnch

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    Mar 10, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    It seems like almost every gay man in know has some kind of gold/silver chain or leather strap/necklace that he wears on a regular basis.



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    Mar 10, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    No...true fagginess is reserved only for guys that take cock up the ass.

    Edit: "faginess"
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    Mar 10, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    It's faggy to worry what other people think. Jewelry choices? Not so much.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 10, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    You know not to base opinion on how your Dad and grandfather viewed things like this. Talking about a major change in perception.....

    Personally, I wear a watch (and my watch could be considered "flashy" I suppose since it's western with a lot of silver... and of course my concho driven western belts and belt buckles.... thats enough for me. I don't however, view guys who wear earings or anything else for that matter as "faggy". Thats just their thing. I say, show flexibility and let people express themselves.
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    Mar 10, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    The abundance of antiquated gender expectations never ceases to amaze me...

    Cuff links and tie bars are refined pieces for discerning men. It's not "faggy". Just stick with raw leather or stainless steel. Precious metals should be clean and not decorated.

    Johnny Depp is my go-to guy for how a man should wear jewelry.

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    Mar 10, 2012 5:28 PM GMT
    I think it's "faggy" this question is even asked. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Trepeat

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    Mar 10, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    I notice a lot of younger guys -straight guys- now sporting ugly, tacky metal necklaces. Apparently Jersey Shore popularized the look.
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    It is not faggy to do anything you feel comfortable with. Wearing jewlry is fine for anyone.

    It is a shame that the OP's father and grandfather had to be so "suspicious" of the guys they dated.
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    What is this fay-jee? Can someone offer a definition?
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    Nah, I find jewelry on a guy to be more about machismo than femininity.
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    kandsk saidNah, I find jewelry on a guy to be more about Machismo than femininity.


    THIS!
    The OP should try telling the Italian/Mexican muscular gangs or the Mafia they look "faggy" wearing too much jewelry.
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    Cash said
    It is a shame that the OP's father and grandfather had to be so "suspicious" of the guys they dated.


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    Mar 10, 2012 5:53 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidBoth my grandfather and father always looked at men who wore cuff-links or tie-tacks very suspiciously. Watches were OK, but with a crocodile strap, thank you very much. Now I see guys wearing rings, necklaces, etc. Frankly, I want to blend in. Is it very effeminate to wear jewelry?


    I get a mental image of all the butch, New York city Italians and Mr.T.

    You can wear a gold watch, just don't flap your hands at the wrist.

    You can wear a gold belt buckle, just don't swish those hips.

    You can wear a signet ring on your pinky, just don't stick it in the air when you sip your cosmo.

    Just flame out!
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidNo...true fagginess is reserved only for guys that take cock up the ass.

    Edit: "faginess"
    Does this mean tops aren't fags?
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    Mar 10, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidFrankly, I want to blend in.



    I guess I will just never understand why, with the exception of a workplace where it is expected, anyone would have that goal.
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    Mar 10, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    GayLibrarian said
    JinRDU saidIt's faggy to worry what other people think. Jewelry choices? Not so much.


    paulflexes said
    turbobilly saidNo...true fagginess is reserved only for guys that take cock up the ass.

    Edit: "faginess"
    Does this mean tops aren't fags?


    GigoloAssassin saidI think it's "faggy" this question is even asked. icon_rolleyes.gif


    JinRDU saidIt's faggy to worry what other people think. Jewelry choices? Not so much.


    All 4 of you should be ashamed for such silly posts.

    It does matter what everyone else thinks. What the heck?
    Its important to not look phaggish.
    Tops are straight.

    FOR SHAME!


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    Mar 10, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    i honestly don't care what people think, but cufflinks and stick pins are not "jewelry" they're fine men's accessories. I do wear a necklace sometimes, but its on a thin black silk cord and is just a simple quartz bar crystal bound in sterling silver. simple, elegant, curious enough to elicit curiosity but not obnoxious or gaudy and small enough to hide under a dress shirt and tie.

    My rule about any men's accessories (and this includes watches) is that if it looks like it might be uncomfortably large/heavy then its too much. I saw a "watch" the other day in Dillards that was the size of a desk clock! I'm a huge timekeeper nut (the term is "horology nut") and I still have a hard time buying anything with a case size larger than 34 millimeters, or the classic men's size. I tried on a Rolex one time and took it off immediately. It was way too big and much too heavy to be comfortable. Instead I have a 1956 Longines that I wear on fine occasions.
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    Mar 10, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    I don't wear any jewelry at all, but I went through various phases when I was a teenager. Back then I had some nice gold chains, watches, a couple of rings, and a diamond stud for my ear. However, I pretty much lost all interest interest in jewelry once I became an adult. Plus I became lazy at the thought of putting on all that stuff, haha. I sold all my jewelry a few years ago, which came in handy as I became hella broke soon after!

    The last piece of jewelry I wore was a simple silver chain with a pentacle pendant back when I was Pagan. I got rid of the necklace last year and don't plan to buy any jewelry anytime soon.
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    Mar 11, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    JinRDU saidIt's faggy to worry what other people think. Jewelry choices? Not so much.


    It is brotherly to let guys know they worry too much! Incestuous, but awesome!
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    Mar 11, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    Bottom line is I want to stay within the gay mainstream which is why I posted the question. I'm a bit neurotic about it 'cause the men in my family didn't wear jewelry, but if other gay guys who aren't into drag (not that there's anything wrong with that!) wear, say, dog tags, I'd feel more comfortable wearing them. Essentially, I just wanted to know what kinds of jewelry are considered acceptable by most gay guys.

    As for the guys who are so comfortable with themselves that they don't understand anyone even thinking about worrying what other people think, kudos to you! You have reached a state of supreme enlightenment. Go drink some Champagne. Once you're full of it, as if you weren't already, you'll need to go and piss off!
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    Mar 11, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    pocketnico said Plus I became lazy at the thought of putting on all that stuff, haha..


    You sound like me.
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    Mar 11, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    Captain_Awesome said
    JinRDU saidIt is brotherly to let guys know they worry too much! Incestuous, but awesome!


    Why can't the rest of you be more like C.A.?
  • Lawrencium

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    Mar 11, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    yeah its super faggy....when I see a guy with too much jewelry, I get so frustrated, I just want to throw my purse at him.