princeofnash saidIs there anyone else out there who is or was a late bloomer when it comes or came to their first serious relationship?
Yep. I had 3 BFs of 3-6 months and countless tricks after coming out before I found an LTR and lived with him, after 5 years of trying. That lasted 2 years, and then I found my first partner, at the 7 year mark. He died, and at year 12 got together with my second partner, which now brings me to 17 years after coming out, this month, in fact.
Sometimes finding LTRs doesn't happen very quickly, but I was always able to switch from "hunt" mode to "home" mode very easily when the right guy came along (and I came along for him). And hunting (ie dating and even tricking) could be fun & entertaining, just so long as I wasn't home alone night after night, the worst fate for me.
Sure there were times I got impatient, even worried & anxious, already way past my settling down age, watching that calendar. But I knew the only way I'd find "him" was by dating many. Getting discouraged and giving up was guaranteed to get me nothing. And besides, as I said, I could have superficial fun for the sake of having fun, without completely going into the third mode, full panic & despair.
You're a good-looking guy, I don't think you'll be shut out for too long. Although your "looking for other A+ guys" attitude (per profile) might be holding you back. Clearly you don't want someone who's flunked the course, but beyond that you might find reviewing their transcript isn't always as reliable and useful as you might suppose. After all, he could have been cheating on his exams.