How can a closeted guy find another guy??

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    Mar 12, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    I know that It sounds retarded to ask how a closeted guy can find another guy but everyone has needs! haha but really I know that the easiest solution is to just go online and look, but we all know how unreliable that can be. I want to know if thee are ways to discreetly put out that you are bi/gay. (im bi) I mean because every gay guy gets interested when there is even a chance ofsomone else being gay so how do you get that message across? lol but without getting it across to everyone?
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    Mar 12, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    its all about the eyes. When you make eye contact with another dude and your both locked-in for that intense extra second longer then normal. That's how you know...

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    Mar 12, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    You can wink or smile or gaze or whatever silly thing, but in the end you're still putting yourself out there and taking a risk. They may or may not be gay, and there could be consequences.

    But if you ever do consider online dating, A4A is full of "str8 acting" "chill/dl/masc/brahs". You'll both know what you want, but you have to deal with the sketchiness of online convo and meeting.

    Either one couldn't hurt if you know what you're doing, I guess.
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    Mar 12, 2012 11:00 AM GMT
    My experience man has been, its not easy. Even if you do make eye contact or whatever, a lot of dudes are scared to go further. They look, then you look. then they look away. Dumb shit. But ultimately somebody has to put themselves out there, the question is are you willling to basically out yourself to get what you want? If there's a better way, please let me know!
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    Mar 12, 2012 11:18 AM GMT
    On Sunday I had this eye contact with the guy on the train. But where are the guarantees that this guy is gay?
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    Mar 12, 2012 11:19 AM GMT
    Craigslist. LOL.
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    Mar 12, 2012 11:41 AM GMT
    bullpup saidI know that It sounds retarded to ask how a closeted guy can find another guy but everyone has needs! haha but really I know that the easiest solution is to just go online and look, but we all know how unreliable that can be. I want to know if thee are ways to discreetly put out that you are bi/gay. (im bi) I mean because every gay guy gets interested when there is even a chance ofsomone else being gay so how do you get that message across? lol but without getting it across to everyone?


    Well if you are ever visiting a new city alone or where you can be alone, try going to the local gay scene and meet up guys there. Other than that, your only real options are online or gay apps.
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    Mar 12, 2012 12:06 PM GMT
    Batterybronx saidits all about the eyes. When you make eye contact with another dude and your both locked-in for that intense extra second longer then normal. That's how you know...



    its true, straight guys rarely make eye contact with other guys they don't know, and only in fleeting ways. this is how it is. gay guys stare, look away, and stare again. to straight guys, this is seen as weird or aggressive but to gay guys, its like a come on (not mutually exclusive).
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    kingmo said
    Batterybronx saidits all about the eyes. When you make eye contact with another dude and your both locked-in for that intense extra second longer then normal. That's how you know...



    its true, straight guys rarely make eye contact with other guys they don't know, and only in fleeting ways. this is how it is. gay guys stare, look away, and stare again. to straight guys, this is seen as weird or aggressive but to gay guys, its like a come on (not mutually exclusive).


    Is that so? What if a guy tries staring me down if he catches me staring at him? Lol. Oh, I guess this doesn't work with ppl u already know as they'll just acknowledge you when they catch you staring.
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    Mar 12, 2012 9:01 PM GMT
    kingmo said
    Batterybronx saidits all about the eyes. When you make eye contact with another dude and your both locked-in for that intense extra second longer then normal. That's how you know...



    its true, straight guys rarely make eye contact with other guys they don't know, and only in fleeting ways. this is how it is. gay guys stare, look away, and stare again. to straight guys, this is seen as weird or aggressive but to gay guys, its like a come on (not mutually exclusive).


    Well at school there's a guy, he was new and the I always saw.him kn the restroom, and we always had that longer than a second stare, Even now, but now it feels like we know each other even if we really don't, and we've never really said anything to each other, what would that mean?
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    Mar 13, 2012 12:10 AM GMT
    well thanks guys! ill work on the eye contact
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    Mar 13, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    you tell me