Straight guy going to gay club, advice?

  • Zophir

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    Mar 12, 2012 4:41 AM GMT
    So my gay roommate convinced me to go to a gay club with him and I'm all for it, I mean, why not? From what I've heard they sound fun, regardless of sexual orientation.

    Having said that, is there anything I should be warned about? Is there some sort of etiquette for straight men that I need to be aware of?

    Also, in case I get approached, what would be the kindest and least rude way to tell them I'm not interested? I hear they'll usually just be able to tell, but I'd rather be safe than sorry, we're both there to have fun and I don't want a misunderstanding to ruin the night for both of us.

    Anyways, appreciate any advice or tips on what to expect!

    Wish me luck!
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    Mar 12, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    ZophirAlso, in case I get approached, what would be the kindest and least rude way to tell them I'm not interested?


    say: "Sry dude, i'm straight".

    I do it all the time to straight girls.
  • Generaleclect...

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    Mar 12, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    Don't worry, you'll run into the super-hot exception you were hoping would turn your crank. icon_razz.gif

    Just tell 'em you're straight and they'll be all over you.
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    Mar 12, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    As long as you're not bringing in a bachelorette party, you'll be fine. If a guy hits on you, just politely tell him you're not interested. If the same guy hits on you again, tell him again that you're not interested. If he hits on you a third time, punch him in the face. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 12, 2012 11:49 AM GMT
    There are going to be a wide range of characters. Some pushy, but most will be respectful. Like others already said, tell them you are straight. You can also tell them you are in a relationship. Or just use any excuse straight girls have used.

    As a warning, you may come across a couple of desperate guys that will not take the hint or might stoop as low as offering you money for a hookup. I would just walk away or tell them to F-off.

    I really doubt this would ever happen, but also watch your drink and taking drinks from other guys. Not trying to scare you, but it is best that you are safe. If you're open, I'm sure you will have an awesome time.
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    Mar 12, 2012 12:38 PM GMT
    bigDrunner saidThere are going to be a wide range of characters. Some pushy, but most will be respectful. Like others already said, tell them you are straight. You can also tell them you are in a relationship. Or just use any excuse straight girls have used.

    As a warning, you may come across a couple of desperate guys that will not take the hint or might stoop as low as offering you money for a hookup. I would just walk away or tell them to F-off.

    I really doubt this would ever happen, but also watch your drink and taking drinks from other guys. Not trying to scare you, but it is best that you are safe. If you're open, I'm sure you will have an awesome time.


    GOOD advice. I don't think this is as common as it once was, but nevertheless always be careful. Other than that, you should be fine. NYC bars I imagine could get a little pushy.

    I have no homo friends; all are straight so I’ve done this many times over the years with very few problems. Locally, quite a few hetros mix with the homos mostly because the homo bar’s drinks are cheaper. Good a reason as any I guess.
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    Mar 12, 2012 1:58 PM GMT
    I don't understand why you're on a gay fitness site.
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    jim_e saidI don't understand why you're on a gay fitness site.


    because he's "straight." hummmmmm
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    Get drunk, take off your shirt and get on the dance floor.
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    Iceblink saidGet drunk, take off your shirt and get on the dance floor.


    This* and join more gay activities, until your gay in the face!
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    MightyMouse87 saidAs long as you're not bringing in a bachelorette party, you'll be fine. If a guy hits on you, just politely tell him you're not interested. If the same guy hits on you again, tell him again that you're not interested. If he hits on you a third time, punch him in the face. icon_lol.gif


    If you're that fucking irresistable, maybe you should get your ass out of the gay bar....and maybe off RJ as well......icon_wink.gif
  • Alex49

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    Mar 12, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    Zophir saidSo my gay roommate convinced me to go to a gay club with him and I'm all for it, I mean, why not? From what I've heard they sound fun, regardless of sexual orientation.

    Having said that, is there anything I should be warned about? Is there some sort of etiquette for straight men that I need to be aware of?

    Also, in case I get approached, what would be the kindest and least rude way to tell them I'm not interested? I hear they'll usually just be able to tell, but I'd rather be safe than sorry, we're both there to have fun and I don't want a misunderstanding to ruin the night for both of us.

    Anyways, appreciate any advice or tips on what to expect!

    Wish me luck!


    Have fun and enjoy.

    Your last line says it all: "Wish me luck."
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    Mar 12, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    jim_e saidI don't understand why you're on a gay fitness site.


    fitness tips .... what else??

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