Gay but not gay

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    Mar 12, 2012 9:59 AM GMT
    is anybody else here gay but not gay? lol

    EG - like yeh we obviously all like men otherwise we wouldnt be here - but if you were to fall for some hot girl tomorrow and get married thats possible too and it would not bother you?

    Another example - sometimes u think u dont even like men its just purely recreational?

    Dont get me wrong frrk there are some hotties here man but just wondering
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    Mar 12, 2012 11:07 AM GMT
    So you mean bi-sexual in a sense?
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    Mar 12, 2012 11:33 AM GMT
    yes except straight but in to men haha icon_razz.gif
  • biagra

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    Mar 12, 2012 12:07 PM GMT
    I'm not Gay I'm Bi.

    If your gay why would you marry a woman makes no sense at all your just wasting both of yours time.

    Some guys on here are straight just looking for gym buddies I've met quite a few.
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    Mar 12, 2012 12:23 PM GMT

    Here we just call it "confused."
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    Mar 12, 2012 12:55 PM GMT
    biagra saidI'm not Gay I'm Bi.

    If your gay why would you marry a woman makes no sense at all your just wasting both of yours time.

    Some guys on here are straight just looking for gym buddies I've met quite a few.


    Correct, why would a gay man ever marry a women; it's more than just a wast of time, thats were many confuse bi with gay. Sad you get a bisexual, who lives as a straight man with the wife and kids, someone outs them for political gain, and they get labeled gay as a result, thats just so wrong.

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    Mar 12, 2012 12:58 PM GMT
    If I was to look at myself as gay but not gay, it would be in as: yes I was born a homosexual, and never known anything else; never. But I live out in the border community, and not some gay ghetto. I'm in a 20+ year relationship, yet our lives do not revolve around all things gay. We normally eat and drink at straight establishments with our many straight friends, as a homosexual couple.
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    Mar 12, 2012 1:04 PM GMT
    DJBoston said
    Here we just call it "confused."


    ditto... lol

    me ==> married, divorced, and a kid icon_biggrin.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 12, 2012 1:08 PM GMT
    Nope, I'm not a "recreational gay" man, I know whats important to me in my life and I live it.
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    Mar 12, 2012 1:18 PM GMT
    DJBoston said
    Here we just call it "confused."


    I don't think it's confusion. I think he's bi. There is sexual attraction and there is emotional attraction and sometimes those attractions are in different concentrations. Sexually I am VERY attracted to guys mostly, but emotionally, I have crushes on females way more often than guys. What's weird for me is that once I "like" a guy, I am no longer sexually attracted to him. It just becomes a "I'd rather be buds" type thing. Whereas with girls, I find myself thinking about them.

    I don't think "girls are icky" but that girls are yummy in different ways... if that makes any sense. I could totally fall in love with a girl and be married to her. I'd just want her brother to blow me when she's not around haha.
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    Mar 12, 2012 1:41 PM GMT
    lol im so lost.

    so when you say recreational you mean that you're still sexually and emotionally attracted to women so you would still date, marry, and fuck a woman. But, on the other hand you're only sexually attracted to guys so you would ONLY fuck them...there would never be dating another man.


    i'm confused.

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    Mar 12, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    Oh my sweet lord...

    Dip this man in chocolate and feed him to the queens...

    They'll sort him out
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    Mar 12, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    Boxer_Red saidlol im so lost.

    so when you say recreational you mean that you're still sexually and emotionally attracted to women so you would still date, marry, and fuck a woman. But, on the other hand you're only sexually attracted to guys so you would ONLY fuck them...there would never be dating another man.


    i'm confused.




    Well, some men have sex and emotion separately wired. Some of those men are Bi. So they like sex with one gender without emotional stuff (like romance, marriage etc) and like emotion/romance/marriage with the other gender.

    ...and there are all kinds of variations on this theme, some with sex and romance etc overlapping in various degrees.

    Humans are rather complex creatures. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Mar 12, 2012 1:57 PM GMT
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:03 PM GMT
    Cash saidfatgirl.jpg



    lol, do you think? They can't ALL be topics by her!

    .......or can they?

    O.o
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:19 PM GMT
    meninlove said
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    lol, do you think? They can't ALL be topics by her!

    .......or can they?

    O.o


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    Mar 12, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    DJBoston said
    Here we just call it "confused."


    This, for the win!!
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    I also heard that 1+1 may not always equal two.

    I would choose your words. You sound like you have multiple personalities.
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    All fits perfectly with the Kinsey scale...problem is we all get so bogged down in labels. I make a really rubbish gay but apart from the sex with women I don't want to spend my life with one of them.

    As I get older I realise we are all very individual and I just get on with it and have fun!
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    That's called being conflicted about being gay. Doesn't mean you aren't gay.
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    Mar 12, 2012 2:48 PM GMT
    watevatreva saidis anybody else here gay but not gay? lol

    EG - like yeh we obviously all like men otherwise we wouldnt be here - but if you were to fall for some hot girl tomorrow and get married thats possible too and it would not bother you?

    Another example - sometimes u think u dont even like men its just purely recreational?

    Dont get me wrong frrk there are some hotties here man but just wondering


    Bi-sexual....not entirely straight...not entirely gay........kind of like sort of pregnant........icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 12, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    ZbmwM5 saidThat's called being conflicted about being gay. Doesn't mean you aren't gay.


    Mate I'm really happy that Iike blokes and have never denied the fact....dunno why so many people so hung up on it...u'll see from my other forum post I was late getting my head round it but I always knew I was gay (for those that need labels!)
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    Mar 12, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    watevatreva saidis anybody else here gay but not gay? lol

    EG - like yeh we obviously all like men otherwise we wouldnt be here - but if you were to fall for some hot girl tomorrow and get married thats possible too and it would not bother you?

    Another example - sometimes u think u dont even like men its just purely recreational?

    Dont get me wrong frrk there are some hotties here man but just wondering


    does this involve having sex with the hot girl?
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    Mar 12, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    Uhm, what?
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    Mar 12, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    Rugbyforward said
    ZbmwM5 saidThat's called being conflicted about being gay. Doesn't mean you aren't gay.


    Mate I'm really happy that Iike blokes and have never denied the fact....dunno why so many people so hung up on it...u'll see from my other forum post I was late getting my head round it but I always knew I was gay (for those that need labels!)


    I was simply referring to this guy, the OP. The way it SOUNDS to me, it sounds like it's not about him liking women too but preferring to fall for a woman, rather than being with a man. As if there's something 'wrong' with that........ It just doesnt sound like someone who is comfortable with himself. Note the lack of picture.