theguyintown saidI am sure not everyone will agree with me but I believe that, in large part, emotional availability is often synonymous with "emotional availability for you."
Meaning, if you are truly into someone, you will try and find a way to make it work.
I think the answer is keep dating. Go out, meet people, don't limit yourself and don't feel sorry for your predicament. It's not pleasant being knocked down, but there is someone out there looking for the same.
I'm afraid you've found the best answer early on
Although I'm going to complicate things a little...
I classified my partner as "emotionally unavailable" during the first two months of the relationship... Of course, I didn't realize until later that in a way I was unavailable too because I was trying to boycott the whole thing. I had relationship issues because of my past commitments, and he had relationship issues because he'd never had a boyfriend and was not out to his family and coworkers.
I would try to make a conscious effort to not fall into dating territory, and he would be inconsistent in that regard too... but something kept pulling us together. We kept having amazing times, and our communication improved dramatically. Before we knew it, we started building a life together––based on shared values, common interests, commitment (and great... not gonna lie!). As hard as it was, it also all sort of happen spontaneously.
And without pretty much any arguments or drama whatsoever. [Usually a GREAT indicator of whether a relationship can be built with someone or not. Cannot stress this point enough!!!]
That's why I think the "keep dating" mantra, when applied correctly, is essential.
It's not just about learning what you like and what you don't like about men, it's also about examining how you relate to men in general---and, above all, it's about learning to trust your gut.
You'll date 10 guys who will be as "bad" for you on paper as the guy you end up having a meaningful relationship with---but this last guy will have stirred something within you that inspires you to go above and beyond. However, without proper experience, you might end up going above and beyond for the wrong guy.
Hope this helps.