is sex better with a boyfriend, or hooking up?

  • rogerfederer

    Posts: 300

    Mar 12, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
    i think hooking up is kinda good actually. no emotion. Just sex. anyone else feel that way?
  • jmafia

    Posts: 5

    Mar 12, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    love making - bf
    hot nasty fuck- hookup
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    If I could separate feelings from sex, I might be able to hookup..but I just can't. So I'd have to go with boyfriend.

    I also would never want anybody to be able to say "I screwed him once" or have them blackmail me, it embarrass or come back to ruin me later.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    noicon_mad.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    bfbfbfbf !!
  • Voice22

    Posts: 79

    Mar 13, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    depends on the guy - not his relationship to you.
  • barriehomeboy

    Posts: 2475

    Mar 13, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    I've done it with hundreds of random guys. My current bf is too sweet to fuck. I'd give all of the sex just to feel him next to me. BF fo sure!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 12:51 AM GMT
    I don't care for the emotional maintenance and drama, so I tend to do a combination of random hookups and regular fuckbuddies.

    I'm not closed entirely to the idea of a committed BF, but nothing like that seems to be on my immediate horizon.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    i don't find sex with others appealing when I am in love
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    sex with a boyfriend is more than just sex though - it's both physical and emotional. How can that possibly be topped? no pun intended lol
  • LuckyGuyKC

    Posts: 2080

    Mar 13, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    No matter how hot the sex is .... how you feel 30 minutes later is what is important. That is why I vote for the BF sex. It feels good later and not just in the moment.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    Yeah, I have to say that with a BF is better.

    I prefer an emotional exchange in addition to the purely physical. As some have said, lovemaking != sex.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    Hmmmm. Dunno. Never had a bf myself. Would love to find one though.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    k3l3k0 saidsex with a boyfriend is more than just sex though - it's both physical and emotional. How can that possibly be topped? no pun intended lol

    Totally agree. It goes from mere sex to Making Love,, and that's the best orgasm out there if you ask me!


    +1
  • chris198

    Posts: 15

    Mar 13, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    for me any way i feel like this, I have had some very hot experiences hooking up (some times "hotter" then with my bf) but there is NO regret now that i am with my bf and i feel no "post coital regret" that I did after hooking up. so ya I don't regret what i did In the past (too much lol) but part of what is great about a relationship is making love not just fucking. so it may not be as "hot" but its so much better.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    i think each category has its own meaning and feeling,

    I believe hooking up is temporary emotion which most likely is a horny feeling to get off.

    Having sex with a partner is more special because it has meaning behind it, its more of a permanent emotion.

    at least for me i would say from experience, sex is more better with a steady person than with random people icon_eek.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    I've never really had a boyfriend so I can't say. Hookups are okay but I tend to agree that sex would be more satisfying with a steady guy. Maybe someday
  • O5vx

    Posts: 3154

    Mar 13, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    I guess it depends. If a person is just looking for the sex, it might be more preferable to find someone one knows how to give a good fuck. If you want the emotion and the sex together, I am certain finding a bf is probably the best type. I personally have never had sex, but I would like to do it with someone that has some significance to me.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    BF sex when in your home town... Hookup sex when you are out of town icon_twisted.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    rogerfederer saidi think hooking up is kinda good actually. no emotion. Just sex. anyone else feel that way?


    You're in your hormonal sexual prime right now, and your limbic system, at your age, still holds more sway over your actions than your prefrontal cortex. It's perfectly natural for you to feel this way. When your body starts to moderate, your feelings may follow suit. Or you may be one of those lucky guys who can still go 4x a night clear into your 40's, AND still want to take as much horned-up, varied advantage of it as you can. (In that case, screw you, a-hole!) icon_lol.gif

    At any rate, enjoy exploring the endless erotically-charged terrain now open to you w/ as many sexy/friendly guys as you want, have fun, and play safe! icon_wink.gif
  • MuscleComeBac...

    Posts: 2376

    Mar 13, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    The "trick" is being able to objectify your BF sufficiently to make him feel like he's a quick pick-up at least once a week. Know him, respect him, and still find your way into fucking him like a cheap piece of meat that you actually want to cuddle and kiss after you've had train-wreck sex.

    Either that, or do what I do, and imagine every NSA is a PNB and see if you can actually fantasize arguing over what color to re-do the kitchen and see if it feels right. icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 4:04 AM GMT
    To be honest; though life lived like their is no tomorrow is great and everything... but almost everything is even MORE Worthwhile when it's done with someone you connect with on many &/or the deepest levels.
  • Beeftastic

    Posts: 1747

    Mar 13, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    When things are going great in the relationship, the sex is the BEST. I have had some hot hookups too, but prefer the connection with someone you love.

    And when I love someone, I actually let go more sexually and become more of a beast, which has always been appreciated icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    tuckers_kahuna saidWhen things are going great in the relationship, the sex is the BEST. I have had some hot hookups too, but prefer the connection with someone you love.

    And when I love someone, I actually let go more sexually and become more of a beast, which has always been appreciated icon_smile.gif



    Oh yes!



  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 13, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidThe "trick" is being able to objectify your BF sufficiently to make him feel like he's a quick pick-up at least once a week. Know him, respect him, and still find your way into fucking him like a cheap piece of meat that you actually want to cuddle and kiss after you've had train-wreck sex.


    Liking this approach! icon_twisted.gif

    +1