For MMA/Wrestler Guys: A Question

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    Mar 13, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    I always wondered about this, how do you guys that are in such close proximity of another possibly hot guy keep yourself from getting hard or at least hiding it from the guy.

    Maybe in a fight scenario you may not get hard because of the pain being inflicted (unless you're a masochist or something) but like in training sessions where you just spar with the other guy or he's showing you holds and grapples, how do you guys avoid getting hard or hiding it?

    Also, do any of you have stories about situations like this?
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    Mar 13, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    There's no need to hide it. A boner gives your opponent something else to grab.
  • carew28

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    Mar 13, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    I don't wrestle much anymore because I have sciatica, but I miss it.

    In an intense, competitive wrestling match, my experience has been that each of the competitors is so intently focused on the elements of the match, the moves, the speed, the strategy, pitting one's skill and strength against your competitor, that you don't get hard or experience eroticism during the match. You don't even think about it. Even if it's only a practice session instead of an actual match, as long as you focus on the moves, the instruction, etc., you really don't get hard. Just keep your mind focused on the wrestling. Afterwards, in private, thinking about it, I might get hard,though.

    In a light, friendly, horseplay type of wrestling match with gay friends, where I felt at ease, and knew the other guy well as a friend, I might get hard.
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    Mar 13, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
    Well OK I can understand the competitive fight where you wouldn't get hard but like maybe training with someone, especially someone straight, wouldn't it seem weird to get a boner just from that?
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    Mar 13, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    well when Im training no, cuz theres too much going on... but once my sensei was demonstrating a few positions on me.. and he was like really muscly and stuff, so yeah, while he was just holding me in some position it was kinda hard to not get kinda hard
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    Mar 13, 2012 8:31 PM GMT
    When you're in the zone your sexuality doesn't factor in. Your object is not to get hit and win, not look at the guys package.
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    Mar 13, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    It's not so much looking at the packages just like the positions that you end up in. I'm not a MMA guy that trains and stuff but I went to a class once and the guy was like to get on him so he can demonstrate to me how to do a move and I had to try so hard to not get hard. I guess it's just natural I guess but wish I could control it better.
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    Mar 13, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    You never really even think about it. Its just a sport. The sexuality is stolen from it - your mind is just not there.
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    Mar 13, 2012 11:08 PM GMT
    like the other posters have said, you don't really think about it when you are on the verge of exhaustion and intently focused on beating your opponent. there is nothing more physically challenging than physical confrontation, and your mind is applied to ending it in your favor.
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    Mar 13, 2012 11:09 PM GMT
    Seriously??

    Ok, I guess you are. I do not get involved in a sport for the glamour or the sexual aspect of it. It is the one time when sex is so far removed from my mind that I could lie on top of Apolo Ohno, who to me is the HOTTEST guy in the world and not get hard. I'm fighting to make my opponent my bitch, not to fuck him. It just doesn't happen.
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    Mar 13, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
    Learn krav maga.

    Those stupid or brave enough to fuck with you, well, they won't be for long.
  • neosyllogy

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    Mar 13, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    People who are training seriously are doing it for the sport so there's just no attraction.

    The issue here is some people confuse their fetishes with other people's sports.
  • groundcombat

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    Mar 13, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    As someone who actually trains grappling and also finds it sexually stimulating, I can tell you that there is no overlap. Training and wrestling, no matter how seemingly erotic the situation, is simply too strenuous to be arousing. I've been shirtless wrestling some really ripped and sweaty dudes but while wrestling, sex was the farthest thing from my mind. Now after the fact, that's a different story. ;-)

    Having said all that, I would still never go to wrestling practice wearing boxers.
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    Mar 14, 2012 12:20 AM GMT
    groundcombat saidAs someone who actually trains grappling and also finds it sexually stimulating, I can tell you that there is no overlap. Training and wrestling, no matter how seemingly erotic the situation, is simply too strenuous to be arousing. I've been shirtless wrestling some really ripped and sweaty dudes but while wrestling, sex was the farthest thing from my mind. Now after the fact, that's a different story. ;-)

    Having said all that, I would still never go to wrestling practice wearing boxers.


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    Mar 14, 2012 12:29 AM GMT
    It's the adrenaline rush to the brain, makes up for other stuff rushing to other places. If the "action" is purely and intentionally sensual, instead of mutually aggressive and competitive, then you have woodies galore. But otherwise garden-variety bouts and matches won't give your lower extremities time to react.

    Where I have a "hard" time is as a third-party voyeur, not as a participant or even a casual viewer in a public setting.
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    Mar 14, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    Wow. Apparently people on here actually do train. Cool. I wanna meet some of them sometime and roll. No heel hooks, knee bars or ankle locks (maybe straight ankle locks). Anyone who understood that, message me.
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    Mar 14, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    OK I didn't mean for this thread to make me look like some kind of freak who'd join a MMA class or something just to get into a situation with a guy that is sexual to me. I just asked this, wondering whether people who are regulars in sports like MMA/wrestling ever experience boners when they're fighting and/or during training/non-hostile situations where you are in a position that could arouse you.

    It personally comes from an experience when I had a friend who does all that stuff, I just asked him to show me some stuff for general knowledge for my own defence and he told me to like get on top of him to show me what to do if we end up brawling on the ground and it just got me kinda hard since it wasn't an intense situation.
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    Mar 14, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    MarkRoger said

    It personally comes from an experience when I had a friend who does all that stuff, I just asked him to show me some stuff for general knowledge for my own defence and he told me to like get on top of him to show me what to do if we end up brawling on the ground and it just got me kinda hard since it wasn't an intense situation.


    Well that's because you were probably thinking "oh my god he wants me to get on top of him" instead of what he was actually trying to show you. I think that mindset is natural for anyone new to grappling sports, gay or straight. Even the new straight guys are a little startled the first few times you put them in your guard or ride them. Eventually, they get used to the close quarters and it's no big deal. You're just not used to being close to a guy without having sex with him.
  • wldct1998

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    Mar 14, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    The more I trained the less of an issue it was, because I got more into what I was doing. But yes, if the circumstances were different, then....what groundcombat said.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    Trust me that is the last thing on your mind when you are trying to keep you face from being punched or kicked, even afterwords u are in such a different mind set that it does not ever cross your mind.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    groundcombat said
    MarkRoger said

    It personally comes from an experience when I had a friend who does all that stuff, I just asked him to show me some stuff for general knowledge for my own defence and he told me to like get on top of him to show me what to do if we end up brawling on the ground and it just got me kinda hard since it wasn't an intense situation.


    Well that's because you were probably thinking "oh my god he wants me to get on top of him" instead of what he was actually trying to show you. I think that mindset is natural for anyone new to grappling sports, gay or straight. Even the new straight guys are a little startled the first few times you put them in your guard or ride them. Eventually, they get used to the close quarters and it's no big deal. You're just not used to being close to a guy without having sex with him.


    Well that may have been true, of course, I didn't have any sort of feelings towards him at the time and just getting into such close quarters made me feel that way so I guess you're right that I'm not used to being close to guys like that which is true. And I haven't had sex yet so yeah lol.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    Haaretz saidLearn krav maga.

    Those stupid or brave enough to fuck with you, well, they won't be for long.


    Hah! Found a place in Charleston/West Ashley, where I could study Krav Maga/MMA. Thanks Haaretz. icon_exclaim.gificon_biggrin.gif