Hot List..Why? Contacted them?

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    Jul 09, 2008 4:21 AM GMT
    Hey guys, I have heard quite a few differing views on the hot list thing around here? I am curious about the following:

    Do you use it?
    Why or why not?
    What percentage of the people in your hot list have you tried to contact?

    Personally, I use it because I find the male form to be a thing of beauty and power. When I see something that has those traits they go on the hot list. Sometimes something in the profile helps it along. I don't see as some shameless rating system to rate people by looks alone, I see it as an acknowledgement of beauty and often times a hell of a lot of hard work on their physique.

    Unfortunately, I haven't contacted very many of them.
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    Jul 09, 2008 4:55 AM GMT
    Hmmm i wonder if im going to get flamed for this. Lol never stopped me before icon_lol.gif

    Nope, i dont use hot list at all; I find it to be completely unnecessary and pretentious. I don't understand why you would make a list of guys that you find attractive; what's the purpose? No offense to anyone who does use hotlist, i just dont get what its for.

    If you find someone attractive, why wouldnt you just send them a little message? What does hot listing say? If you ask me, too many people use it as either a conversation starter or to fish for compliments.

    That being said, i understand that its not always easy to start a conversation, and hot listing i guess can help in that regard, but I feel like it creates a both unfair and unnecessary stigma of "who's hot", when it really depends on the two individuals involved. There really doesn't need to be hot listing. If you like someone, why not say something, eh?

    But yeah, i guess i just dont get it. Oh well
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    Jul 09, 2008 5:29 AM GMT
    As I say in my profile:

    "In my hotlist, there are some cute faces and some great personalities. Can you tell the difference - and who is both?"

    I'm not looking for a hookup or relationship, so haven't contacted any of the guys in my hotlist. I'll admit that there is an element of shallow eye-candy, but it's also a nod to people I think are attractive (physically or personality wise, best I can tell from a profile).

    In general I think it is useful for those who are hunting because it may give them an idea of what another person is seeking. So if a "twink" notices that a guy has "bears" in his hotlist, well, maybe he's barking up the wrong tree.
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    Jul 09, 2008 5:36 AM GMT
    I have personally contacted 90% of those on my hot list.
    In fact, I don't hot list anyone unless I talk to them first (with one exception).

    I use it but not to any great extent. If some one hot lists me, I hot list them back as a courtesy. Now if you want to be on my buddy list, you have to work for that.icon_wink.gif
  • ROYCE13

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    Jul 09, 2008 7:07 AM GMT
    I HAVE MIXED FEELING ABOUT THE "HOT LIST" AS WELL, BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS. I ACTUALLY, THOUGH, LIKE LOOKING AT THE HOT LIST OF THE GUYS THAT I THINK ARE HOT, IT GIVES ME SOME TYPE OF INSIGHT ON WHAT THEY LIKE. NOW I HAVE NOT YET PUT ANYONE ON MY HOT LIST, LIST WOULD BE TOO LONG, YET I ALSO FEEL AWKARD PUTTING ANYONE ON IT, HOWEVER, I CHECK MY LIST OF PEOPLE
    WHO PUT ME ON THEIR HOT LIST EVERY OTHER WEEK AND I DO EMAIL EACH AND
    EVERY ONE OF THEM AND THANK THEM AND IF THEY HAD NOT HIT ME UP, THEN I ASK THEM WHY THEY DIDN'T CORRESPOND. BUT I AM OLD FASHIONED AND I RESPOND TO EACH EMAIL HIT I GET AS WELL. TIME CONSUMING AS IT IS.

    HOWEVER, SINCE THE CATEGORY IS ON THE SITE, WE KNOW WHAT IT IS FOR AND
    WE DO NOT HAVE TO USE IT, SO WHY THE QUESTION, BORED NOTHING ELSE GOING ON? JUST ASKING NOW. DO NOT GET UPSET
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    Jul 09, 2008 7:16 AM GMT
    No, not bored, and plenty of other things going on that I could be doing. It just seems that this has come up in small comments from people, so I am curious to know what others actually think and how they use it. You see when people have a natural curiousity that extends beyond themselves, sometimes you have to ask a question to get some answers and see how others view things.

    For instance the comment about being old fashioned and replying to every email and to everyone that hot lists him. Good point, I get so busy I don't always get to do that, but I probably should. Had he not raised the point I probably would not have thought much about it.

    Perhaps your problem with the hot list question stems from the fact that you aren't making it on anyone's hot list, maybe, just maybe. Don't get mad though, just throwing the possibility out there.

    So my questions remain....
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    Jul 09, 2008 7:19 AM GMT
    I think it's a:
    'Hey, I think your hot, so now you know where to get some sexing.'

    I don't use it that way, of course. It goes without saying that I am the paradigm of unworldly ways and the Keeper of modesty, forthrightness, integrity and S'more Pie recipes in these our troubled times. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 09, 2008 7:26 AM GMT
    I use it for what it was intended. To collect pics of guys that I think are hot and I dont want to lose their pics.

    I actually only have one hot guy listed. He's there cuz he has a perfect bubble butt clothed in a pair of white briefs. His ass in that pic is perfect.

    No, I have never contacted him. I think he is in a foreign country, if I remember correctly. I wasnt interested in him, just his beautiful beunderweared ass pic.
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    Jul 09, 2008 7:35 AM GMT
    I think a wink button would be better than a hot list?
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    Jul 09, 2008 7:54 AM GMT
    BearCub17 saidIf you find someone attractive, why wouldnt you just send them a little message? What does hot listing say? If you ask me, too many people use it as either a conversation starter or to fish for compliments.


    Your on mine because I find you physically attractive... thats all.
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    Jul 09, 2008 8:13 AM GMT
    I just pretty much use it as visual motivation. You mean that it can be used for something unpure and unwholesome? icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 09, 2008 9:20 AM GMT
    I use the hot list, but more like a "favorites" list. It can be because I think someone has some physical characteristic I like, or just something in the profile, or a nice posting that suggest something beautiful inside. It usually takes a while for me to hotlist someone .. months even

    Sometimes it is before or after I contact the person, but I will not just contact someone because I think that they are hot. I figure they probably get a lot of that anyway and might be annoyed by "you're hot"

  • GQjock

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    Jul 09, 2008 9:58 AM GMT
    I usually do contact the people on mine ...
    but like some guys have already said mine is a motivating factor
    The guys on my list are on it because they have qualities
    (Mostly the physical kind) icon_wink.gif
    That I'd strive for
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    Jul 09, 2008 10:59 AM GMT
    bearcub17 Nope, i dont use hot list at all; I find it to be completely unnecessary and pretentious

    How is it pretentiousness to acknowledge that you find someone attractive? I use it for fun. I will often email someone or be emailed by someone who I hot listed.

    bearcub17 ]I feel like it creates a both unfair and unnecessary stigma of "who's hot", when it really depends on the two individuals involved.
    I need clarification on this one. I've seen many different types of guys listed by different RJ members. Sure, some are frequently hot listed, but I come across many types of members by looking through someone else's list.
    As for the "two individuals invloved" comment, it is between two people, me and the hottie I hot listed. It just happens to be available for others to view.

    Think of the hot list as your own personal collection, like people who collect stamps or coffee mugs. I say lighten up.
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    Jul 09, 2008 12:02 PM GMT
    Isn't it supposed to catalog your masturbation materials?

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    What?
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    Jul 09, 2008 12:43 PM GMT
    I dunno. It's a compliment on them, I guess. I wouldn't dream of them ever contacting me, nor expect it. I rarely even look at the list after I've added them. More for the guy's sake than mine really. maybe I should erase all of them. Hm...

    DanteCA said
    I use it but not to any great extent. If some one hot lists me, I hot list them back as a courtesy. Now if you want to be on my buddy list, you have to work for that.icon_wink.gif


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    biscuit, pervs! icon_mad.gif
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    Jul 09, 2008 12:56 PM GMT
    It would be nice if we would look through all the forum archives and look to see if this has already been posted in which it has more than once I believe. You could have gotten all the answers there if you would just look. Resurrect an old thread instead of creating a new one in order to keep it all together.....Just a thought!icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 09, 2008 12:56 PM GMT
    Well, YngHungSFSD, you are on my list because you are a SSTTTUUUUDDDDDD. (although, to be honest, you wear too many clothes.)

    As far as bearcub's assertion that the list is unnecessary and pretentious, well, unnecessary is in the eye of the beholder. Just because you dont use it or know what it's for doesn't mean others dont enjoy it. It seems odd that a guy who is so tolerant and avoids judging people would be so conservative in his opinions. And 'pretentious?' I do not think that word means what you think it means...

    I use it simply to catalog the guys I think are "hump" worthy. Some of them I talk to, some I don't, some I cam with, some I don't ever want to talk to. Some of them are just there so I remember to stalk them (yes losago...this means you.)
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    Jul 09, 2008 1:14 PM GMT
    shallow as this sounds... i think the sites purpose for it is as a kind of voting system- because you can search in the who's verified for all the most hotllisted, in order- and it serves to present the site's best (by popular vote) to new or curious members. not everyone votes based solely on looks of course- many people i know in here including myself only hotlist guys they think have it all going for them. personally, if a guy has a bunch of hot pix and no content in the profile- a sadly frequent observance- i often pass them by. but hey, lets not fool ourselves, we all like looking at the more attractive profiles, its among all of our reasons for being in here- hot hotlist function just makes them more easily available for us. don't take it so seriously- its nothing more than just that.
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    Jul 09, 2008 1:19 PM GMT
    OH MY GOD czaro...did you just say that you pass them by if they're hot and nothing in their profile? LOL

    Have you looked at your hotlist lately?

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!
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    Jul 09, 2008 2:58 PM GMT
    hmmm i still really dont get it. If I find someone attractive, i like to send them a message and find out if there is a personality connection also. If not, im waaay too lazy to then add them to my hot list icon_lol.gif

    I dunno, i guess to each his own, eh? icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 09, 2008 3:33 PM GMT
    I put guys in my hot list because they're people that have helped me in some way on here - or just been nice. They've either given me workout advice, helped out a friend of mine, provided me with awesome mixes for cardio at the gym, or just chatted with me here or there. Basically, they're someone that I respect. The guys in my buddy list are guys I chat with on a regular basis and would consider a friend.

    If I email or IM someone and they ignore me (which unfortunately is quite common on here), they're not going in my hot list no matter how physically "hot" they are. Honestly, if you don't have the common courtesy to have a conversation with someone, you're not even close to being hot in my book.
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    Jul 09, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    tommysguns2000 saidOH MY GOD czaro...did you just say that you pass them by if they're hot and nothing in their profile? LOL

    Have you looked at your hotlist lately?

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!



    haha yeah yeah i say i 'often' pass them by- im not perfect :p


    it can get like a collection.. 'gotta catch em all' haha
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    Jul 09, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
    I've stopped hotlisting guys, I think it's pointless ego-massaging, then again I'm just bitter and twisted.
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    Jul 09, 2008 5:07 PM GMT
    The hotlist is what it is. People will use if for different reasons.

    ~ They actually think the guy is hot (gasp icon_eek.gif ).

    ~ They find something about his profile interesting and want to bookmark that profile.

    ~ They are too shy to attempt too make first contact (I have that problem in spades)

    ~ They are planning on contacting but don't have the time at that moment.

    ~ They are stalking their next victim. icon_twisted.gif


    I personally use it because I find a man attractive, there is something he wrote that catches my interest, and because I am usually too shy to try to talk to hotties. (usually but not always shy icon_wink.gif )