Anyone move to somewhere they barely know anyone?

  • kolkii

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    Mar 14, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    Aside from college, just upped and moved with barely family or friends in the area..

    Regrets? Best thing ever? Worst decision?
  • BardBear

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    Mar 14, 2012 9:55 AM GMT
    I just moved to Florida a wee bit ago. Knew no one in Central Florida at all. Still getting over that fact. I wanted to try something new after years of teaching in Colorado. Best thing ever. There's a moment in time when the Unknown of life is more interesting then that which you've been living through. I have no regrets.

    Peace,
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    Mar 14, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    Done it several times in my life.. Never had a problem or issue.. Now I have friends all over the country. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 14, 2012 2:09 PM GMT
    I'm moving to Tampa, Florida in less than a week for a great career opportunity: I will know exactly 2 people there. Feels weird to do so, but I've done it before, years ago, to Paris, FR....
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    Mar 14, 2012 2:09 PM GMT
    kolkii saidAside from college, just upped and moved with barely family or friends in the area..

    Regrets? Best thing ever? Worst decision?
    best decision
  • Teqkilla42

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    Mar 14, 2012 2:10 PM GMT
    I grew up in a military family, so this was more or less my life.

    Moving to college in Boston especially, I knew exactly one person here when I arrived, and that was from a one-week encounter at summer camp.

    Probably packing up and heading off to LA with a friend or two after school.
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    Mar 14, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    I moved to Phoenix, Arizona a few years ago and knew 2 people that lived there. One person died a week after I got there and the other one moved away a couple of weeks later. After that, I knew no one. Turned out to be one of the best experiences of my life. I made quite a few friends and I go there to visit during the winter time and they come to Michigan to visit during the summer. I am in the process to see where my next adventure will take me. Haven't made my mind up yet. I have a job that I really like, but is one I can find most anywhere.
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    Mar 14, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    I moved to New York City. Had an aunt there but thats it. I moved to Los Angeles. Didnt know anyone.
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    Mar 14, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    I moved from Guatemala to Washington, DC in 2001. I knew no one in DC, and while I'd come to the US on vacation numerous times, I had never lived here. It was the best decision I ever made.
  • rytheguy

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    Mar 14, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    I recently moved to the Chicago area from Phoenix AZ. I have my grandparents, but as far as friends go, nada, zilch. Meeting people in a new place is definitely harder than I expected. Here I am 5 months later and I still don't really know anybody, save for a few work peeps.
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    Mar 14, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    I moved to the United States from Israel.

    I knew 1 person and wished I didn't know another one.

    Now I know tons of people.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    rytheguy saidI recently moved to the Chicago area from Phoenix AZ. I have my grandparents, but as far as friends go, nada, zilch. Meeting people in a new place is definitely harder than I expected. Here I am 5 months later and I still don't really know anybody, save for a few work peeps.


    EXACT same thing for me. Moved from Houston to Jacksonville. When I got here, I knew my dad---who followed me from Houston to help me move. The next day, he was gone and it was just me. I've been here 4 months and I'm still pretty much alone most of the time.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 14, 2012 3:04 PM GMT
    When I first moved to Los Angeles right out of college, I didn't know anyone. It was quite an adventure that lasted 20 years.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    I moved across the country by myself to a place I had never visited before. It was for college but still....across the country. In general it was a good decision. Showed me there are way better places in the world.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    I moved from PA to LA(state). It was a big change. People were nice to me for no reason compared to have North. I heard of Southerners, but they really would go a mile just to say "hi" to you.

    Every decision has its ups and downs... Moving down south made things a little harder, being in the bible belt and all. On the other hand, they had some really great food. icon_rolleyes.gif

    In the end, you are the sum of your experiences...

    To answer your questions(I hope), I'd do it again.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    Moving away liberates the mind and forces one to experience new things, so as a general rule it is a positive thing. Do it in your 20s and you'll create memories and friendships that last a lifetime. The initial solitude that moving produces can also be good for you as it toughens you up and forces one to engage with strangers, develop new friendships, explore your environment, try new things, etc.

    I moved to Japan in my early 20s and stayed for 16 years. Never would have predicted that from a simple, corn-fed Midwestern boy.

    The actual act of moving, however, is stressful and unpleasant.



  • dtx1

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    Mar 14, 2012 3:23 PM GMT
    Just out of college I moved across country for my first job. I adjusted fairly well, and through my work, made some friends that are still good friends today. The experience forced me to adapt and because of that I learned quite a bit about life and myself. But even after living there five years, I was never able to escape the nagging feeling that this place was not 'home.' As nice as the people were, it always felt like something was missing there. Fortunately, after five years, I was able to get a much better job here in my 'home' area.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:28 PM GMT
    Moved to Boston about six months ago... and literally knew no one, save from one guy I had started talking to on Grindr... who I still didn't know, we just had talked for a few months after I found out I'd be moving up here. It was hard at first... I was surrounded by unfamiliar shit and just wanted to be home. But I'm pretty outgoing and have met a few people and formed some great friendships in the time since. The guy I talked to on Grindr became one of those great friends and so I always say, Grindr is what you make of it! LOL.

    I was supposed to only stay one year but am considering finding a way to stick around another year for my post-doc. Not so terrible after all! Even with horrible winter (which wasnt so bad this year after all...).
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    After living in the San Francisco Bay Area all my life, I moved to Scottsdale in my late 30's. I knew only one person when I first arrived. I immediately joined my alumni association and got active with that group - and soon found myself on the board. There I met a lot of people. I also joined the Episcopal church and met some great friends (many who were gay). I met people through work as well. I also met neighbors, and I stayed in touch with people from my home state. Moving away was hard for one reason - old friendships faded or were lost. On the other hand, moving away taught me to make new friendships - - which was a good lesson. Not long ago, I moved back to where I lived before moving to AZ, and rekindled old friendships, and met the new people who had come to the SF area while I was gone.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    Moved to Raleigh NC having never visited the city before and having no family or friends in the area. On top of that I lived in a hotel for a month while searching for a place to live.
    I work by myself and out of my home, so there is no interaction at work other than with customers twice my age.
    Despite all these issues a lot of people wouldn't be able to overcome, I love it down here and have made a lot of new friends (and continue to do so). You just have to put yourself out there. I suggest finding a local group with similar interests. Meetup.com will help. Or a local running club at a bar. Plenty of options out there.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    rytheguy saidI recently moved to the Chicago area from Phoenix AZ. I have my grandparents, but as far as friends go, nada, zilch. Meeting people in a new place is definitely harder than I expected. Here I am 5 months later and I still don't really know anybody, save for a few work peeps.


    I had the same experience with Chicago. I moved only knowing my two roommates, one who only knew us and one from the far suburbs who only knew us and her brother. Looks like another person posted on here and someone I know from DC had the same experience. I'm thinking it must be a Chicago thing. I'm really outgoing and in the year I lived there just couldn't meet good quality people sort of glad I had to move because that was the worst decision I've made.

    NOW before that I moved from VA to MT and didn't know anyone at all and it was the best decision I ever made, met some amazing quality people and it led to some awesome experiences so definitely a good decision.

    This Sunday I'm doing it again to Sydney and know only one guy and that's it...so I'll let you know how it goes.
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    Mar 14, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    All the time.
  • kolkii

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    Mar 14, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    Good stories but hopefully those for whom it was a TERRIBLE decision can speak to some of that as well, since it's only natural the ones with good experiences will be the first to chime in..

    ..maybe can learn something from the other side of the experience as well, where it hadn't come to what they hoped it would be.. thanks.
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    Mar 14, 2012 5:26 PM GMT
    I really admire anyone that can literally go somewhere new they know noone... I think bout doin it from time to time but i dont think id honestly cope well.. maybe one day soon ill just do it :-)
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    Mar 14, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    I moved from AZ where all my friends and most of my family are at. To SC where everything is the opposite of everything I've ever known and most of the culture regarding gays stems solely from being in the closet. As someone who has been out since I was 14 this is very backwards and alienating.

    As the eternal optimist, this will most make me stronger and smarter than anywhere else I've ever had to live, since it's all uphill from the "lowcountry". I'm keeping an eye out for opportunities to actually make a positive change in the gay community here, if such thing exist?

    Edit: I've also moved several times in the past to places I knew only my sister's family, or my boyfriend, or his family, from AZ to CO, CO to MA, and MA to MS... so those don't really count I guess?