Why are kids in this generation so rude

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    Mar 15, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    I don't know about you guys but I'm a college guy and it just seems like people my age are all spoiled self centered, and all about themselves and have no respect for anybody else. Everybody acts like they're perfect and put each other down for their differences. I'm not like that at all and people will tell me I care too much about people or I'm a softy and a pushover when in reality 'm just being respectful to everyone... what do you think?
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    Mar 15, 2012 4:44 PM GMT
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    CollegeDude27 saidI don't know about you guys but I'm a college guy and it just seems like people my age are all spoiled self centered, and all about themselves and have no respect for anybody else. Everybody acts like they're perfect and put each other down for their differences. I'm not like that at all and people will tell me I care too much about people or I'm a softy and a pushover when in reality 'm just being respectful to everyone... what do you think?


    I agree with you 100%..I'm sick of everyone thinking that they are better than everyone..So many vicious,unpredictable & demeaning people in our age group...Everyone should practice a little KINDNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Mar 15, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
    I agree with this so much. I'm in college as well and it's really surprising how many people act immature and rude for no apparent reason. You think that's something they would have grown out of by then but apparently not.

    I get called a pushover a lot as well, and the moment I start acting a little bit on the defensive people call me an asshole. At the end of the day I always ask myself "Is who I am now who I want to be" and move on from there. You can't change everybody.
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    Mar 15, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    Josh1992 saidI agree with this so much. I'm in college as well and it's really surprising how many people act immature and rude for no apparent reason. You think that's something they would have grown out of by then but apparently not.

    I get called a pushover a lot as well, and the moment I start acting a little bit on the defensive people call me an asshole. At the end of the day I always ask myself "Is who I am now who I want to be" and move on from there. You can't change everybody.


    I agree completely... The second I speak up out of defense for myself I'm all of a sudden the asshole but they dont realize they were the ones being the assholes to make me speak up in the first place
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    Mar 15, 2012 4:59 PM GMT
    Quinn_O said...Everyone should practice a little KINDNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Did you just shout at us?

    Be the change you want to see. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 15, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    sorry kindness....icon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:51 PM GMT
    It seems like a lot of people my parent's age are spoiled, self-centered, all about themselves and have no care or respect for anyone else including their kids, the community, the environment, the state of the economy, and the country. Everyone acts as if all of their actions are fully justified and have no consequences on others, and I'm just getting sick and tired of the immaturity, insecurity, and vindictiveness being played out at the expense of our world's future...

    Don't blame the kids, blame the baby boomers who sired them. The way our parents raised us, it was "Everybody is OK" and mediocrity was rewarded. You were supposed to be perfect at everything, but the cost was never explained. Now, we have endured their unsustainable philosophy and inherited the problems they've created and they are telling us "Fix it, I did when I was your age" and walking away.

    The problem always lies with the parents and their style of parenting/lack of parenting, not really with the kids. The kids aren't totally blameless, but if you've been told lies by all the adults your entire life, it takes a lot of work (as a leader, educator, mentor in my case) to change that mentality.
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:52 PM GMT
    To a degree i agree... I think our generstion are all about instant gratification ... Everything moves so fast technologically nowadays so people seem to think life is one big hurry and there isnt even time to be civil or courteous at times... Of course this is a big fat sweeping generalisation so for alot of our generation this doesnt apply but i think there sure is a decline in general good manners and politeness.. Too bad
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:54 PM GMT
    I personally think my parents' generation (Baby Boomers) and my older brother's generation (Gen X) are much bigger brats than us Millennials icon_rolleyes.gif

    Anyway, all older people tend to think the current, young generations are rude, spoiled, and corrupt. I'm sure my grandparents thought my parents were brats, and I'm sure my great-grandparents thought my grandparents were brats too.
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    Mar 15, 2012 7:54 PM GMT
    Children, especially younger ones, are a reflection of their parents and the state of things at home.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    ^^ well that i agree with for sure... I teach.. And some kids are horendously bad mannered and out of control and then you meet mommy and daddy and everything becomes clearer as to how some kids end up the way they are... Its not from the ground they licked it as my dad would say :-)
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    dancedancekj saidIt seems like a lot of people my parent's age are spoiled, self-centered, all about themselves and have no care or respect for anyone else including their kids, the community, the environment, the state of the economy, and the country. Everyone acts as if all of their actions are fully justified and have no consequences on others, and I'm just getting sick and tired of the immaturity, insecurity, and vindictiveness being played out at the expense of our world's future...
    The problem always lies with the parents and their style of parenting/lack of parenting, not really with the kids. The kids aren't totally blameless, but if you've been told lies by all the adults your entire life, it takes a lot of work (as a leader, educator, mentor in my case) to change that mentality.


    While you're blaming the parents...ya might want to look into being responsible for your own actions. There are many, many younger people today who were brought up by parents that are less than "good role models", but have somehow risen above that and become wonderful leaders.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    I agree somewhat, but think that a lot of younger folks are still finding their way and pick up social skills in college and into early adulthood.

    The good news is, you guys get to be good examples to those who haven't clued in yet. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
    ^ thats true too... Ultimately you are responsible for yourself but i defo still see with younger kids how they are shaped by the quality of their parents parenting... But yeah as they grow up, they have the power to straighten themselves out... But sometimes its very hard for someone to break the cycle of what has influenced and surrounded them... Hard but not impossible
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
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    dancedancekj saidIt seems like a lot of people my parent's age are spoiled, self-centered, all about themselves and have no care or respect for anyone else including their kids, the community, the environment, the state of the economy, and the country. Everyone acts as if all of their actions are fully justified and have no consequences on others, and I'm just getting sick and tired of the immaturity, insecurity, and vindictiveness being played out at the expense of our world's future...
    The problem always lies with the parents and their style of parenting/lack of parenting, not really with the kids. The kids aren't totally blameless, but if you've been told lies by all the adults your entire life, it takes a lot of work (as a leader, educator, mentor in my case) to change that mentality.


    While you're blaming the parents...ya might want to look into being responsible for your own actions. There are many, many younger people today who were brought up by parents that are less than "good role models", but have somehow risen above that and become wonderful leaders.


    Since the OP was blaming the individual, I was simply pointing out that parents are an issue as well. College kids however, I feel particularly bad for, since at least at my university, a lot of them hadn't had to (or been allowed) to struggle, learn, or have a lot of hard life experiences yet, due to helicopter parenting. A lot of them started having some "Come to Jesus" talks, since this was the first time they were seeing the consequences of their actions, away from mommy and daddy.

    That's why I stated the kids aren't totally blameless. Don't worry, there are plenty of rotten, spoiled, selfish, lazy, unmotivated, ignorant, parasitic individuals my age that I know who had great parents, and are awful people due to their own decisions and actions (I'm friends with some of them). I don't think it's necessarily fair to judge kids, even college age kids, when so much of their personality and outlook has been determined by their parents.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI don't know about you guys but I'm a college guy and it just seems like people my age are all spoiled self centered, and all about themselves and have no respect for anybody else. Everybody acts like they're perfect and put each other down for their differences.what do you think?

    Date/hang out with older guys, and you won't have this problem. You get to define how old is "older."
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    CollegeDude27 saidI don't know about you guys but I'm a college guy and it just seems like people my age are all spoiled self centered, and all about themselves and have no respect for anybody else. Everybody acts like they're perfect and put each other down for their differences. I'm not like that at all and people will tell me I care too much about people or I'm a softy and a pushover when in reality 'm just being respectful to everyone... what do you think?



    Look at what is on MTV and other TV networks geared towards younger people. Listen to the music. Look at advertisements. Now that's role models for you. It's a material world, we just live in it.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
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    CollegeDude27 saidI don't know about you guys but I'm a college guy and it just seems like people my age are all spoiled self centered, and all about themselves and have no respect for anybody else. Everybody acts like they're perfect and put each other down for their differences. I'm not like that at all and people will tell me I care too much about people or I'm a softy and a pushover when in reality 'm just being respectful to everyone... what do you think?



    Look at what is on MTV and other TV networks geared towards younger people. Listen to the music. Look at advertisements. Now that's role models for you. It's a material world, we just live in it.


    This. In the age where "reality" (a misnomer if there ever was one) tv is king, where the most odious, self-involved, entitled, deliberately mean-spirited behavior is sought out, placed on a pedestal, and encouraged, it's little wonder that it has become so prevalent in everyday life. I hate it more than I can express.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
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    While you're blaming the parents...ya might want to look into being responsible for your own actions.
    Adults should hold themselves accountable for their actions. But not so for children, most of the time. The need to be taught that responsibility. So we get back to the situation of parental responsibility and skills. It all starts at home. Now a days patents all too easily blame society and everything else and don't take any parental responsibility to lay down the law at home.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    I hang out in mixed age groups (going up into 50's) and I can tell you that to say immaturity and self-centered individuals are pertinent only to one specific generation is completely incorrect.

    Many people throughout any age group never fully grew up and have many unresolved issues which lead them into being immature (in aspects) and self-centered. Yes, much of it goes back to parenting (or lack thereof), but it's also just common in American society. We're based in a culture of self-preservation through self-reliance and success through means of the individual.

    If you go abroad you can see the difference. It's a mentality that runs in the water- the effects of which might possibly be compounding in our generation, but to be honest, I think they're gradually reversing. I know plenty of people (and also look at the vast response of other users in this thread) who realize this same disgusting trend in culture. So, if people can see that there is a high sense of entitlement and selfish intentions in the generational mix of today, maybe that's a step on the way to changing things around.

    Honestly, I like to think our generation has a greater awareness overall due to technological innovations of the past couple decades- and that such will lead to a more unified front of better beings. But then again, could just be something every generation likes to think.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    They are, they seem to think free speech means spreading disrespect and hate is just fine..
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    A combination of twisted capitalist ideals being promoted, the internet limiting human interaction/ how its conducted and the media with shows like the kuntashians or the hills. All of this =teenagers who are superficial narcissistic cunts icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidAll of this =teenagers who are superficial narcissistic cunts icon_smile.gif
    Fueled by a case of too much money and too much time.
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    Mar 15, 2012 8:59 PM GMT
    I think I am of the last generation in whose formative years was raised in a society that reinforced the good manners and social skills instilled in the home. The churches, schools, social groups, and society at large (for the most part)did not tolerate bad manners and anti-social behaviors. As a kid if I did something out of line the school, the church, or the other neigborhood parents let me know and let my parents know and once they found out my parents did not defend me but defended those in authority. Too many parents are too quick to excuse or outright deny their precious little monkey's bad behaviour. If the school had to discipline me during the day, my parents disciplined me (more severly) again that afternoon when I got home. I was expected to say Yes mam, No mam, Yes sir, No sir, Yes thank you, No thank you. Excuse me please, You're welcome, etc.

    Even what I watched on TV reinforced the social skills I was expected to exhibit to be a good functioning member of society and not a delinquent misfit. Look at the type of programing that we are subjected to in sitcoms - the parents are portaryed at idiots and the children are smart-alecky brats who get the laughs. And this has been going on for the past thiry years or so. I don't have the figures before me but studies show children spend more time in front of the idiot box (TV) than they do with their parents. Parents need to strictly monitor what their children are viewing on TV and the web.

    Furthurmore, look at the type of programing adults view and it is obvious why we live in such a rude and obnoxious society. When the nightly news gets lower ratings than the foolishness of the Daily Show and Colbert Report is it any wonder you can't have a serious,civil, adult discussion on social issues. Witness the way some forum posters derail a serious discussion with ridiculous comments as if the ability to come up with pithy one liners makes you erudite. Everyone's a John Stewart or Mr. Colbert.

    Phew, this is getting long. I'll reliquish the soapbox to the next speaker.

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